Is Your Guy an Ogler?

No not ogre! An ogler! Does he seem to "notice" all the pretty girls when you go shopping? Does he take a "second look"? Does he eye pretty girls driving by in traffic? Do you feel sick to your stomach at the thought that he works with attractive women?

My husband does have an eye for beauty, as do most men. When I first dated him, it used to make me crazy because I used to LOOK for this behavior. But I realized that he enjoys looking at people in general. My "thoughts" almost destroyed our relationship. But I had so many horrible relationships in the past, I was used to that type of behavior, so I carried on my insane jealousy issues with my new relationship with my husband.

My husband is a warm and friendly man. He's friendly to everyone. I used to just notice him friendly with girls. But he is, in fact, the same way with other men. It took me a long time to realize that he loves me, no matter how I look.

How do you feel about this topic?

mine is not an ogler-at least when i'm around. When an attractive woman walks by or comes on tv, I expect him to look, and i watch for his reaction, but he hardly ever looks. Its weird -and no, he doesnt know i'm looking! im talking minute eye movement. I think its because he's not very observant, not for disinterest! hes always in his own world, whereas i watch everyone. I love people watching.I look more than him i think!

Not that I'd care, we've been together 9 years and we're pretty sure of our relationship that it wouldnt matter if he did. I find it quite interesting to see what he finds worthy of an ogle.

My husband talks to everyone, everywhere, banks, grocery stores, even operating rooms. He's always looked at other women, in fact, he has always asked me if I saw the "a**" on that one, or the legs. When I notice a beautiful woman I point her out. Women have always found him attractive. We've had several who have tried to break up our marriage. From the very beginning I told him if he wasn't happy with me and thought he could find someone better, to go. But if he left, that was it, no coming back.......ever!  We've been married 46, almost 47 years and he still tells me every day I am his fantasy, the love of his life.   

Nope. He makes it pretty clear that I'm the only person he's interested in.

I've never seen him doing it, but I'm also not looking for that kind of behavior.  He has also made it crystal clear that he loves me and only me, so I really have no reason to be on guard.  As for women at work, I know he works with women.  I don't know if they are pretty because I have never met them.  I can honestly say I don't really care if they are though because I trust him completely.

My husband has been a pretty bad husband to me in the past, but he's really working on it and I'm working on being a better wife.

He doesn't check out women in person.  He will look at them online, but not in person.. and never in front of me.  He lacks the confidence to do that.  He's just afraid if he gets caught staring at someone's bottom end, he would just curl up in a ball and cry.  He doesn't want that I suppose.

Nope, I did not marry an ogler.  My husband is way too cool and standoffish to ogle.

My husband is hilariously obvious about his ogling. I've never cared, but I laugh at him everytime he does it, and offer to wipe up the drool. I always say he can look, but not touch. I've never been jealous of it, he treats me like a queen, so i don't see anything wrong with it.

I can honestly say that I'm the luckiest woman in the world to have met and married the wonderful man that I now call husband. One of the special things about him is he is extremely sensitive to how I feel and think. He is so sweet, but not in a fake or I'll-just-act-like-this-so-I-can-get-some kind of way. I know he notices beautiful women (heck, don't we all? ) but he's very careful and won't say anything unless I say something appreciative first. 

Other bf's I've had may not have ogled other women horribly in front of me, but there was certainly some cheating behavior going on...not saying that ogling is definitely a sign of a cheater, but for SOME guys it can be.  

My hubby looks - like most men - just has learned not to drool when he's with me.  LOL   When we were first together it bothered me but not any more - he's all mine and I'm not jealous of anyone!   He also points out all the men that are looking at me. 

Original Post by mypuppymylife:

No not ogre! An ogler! Does he seem to "notice" all the pretty girls when you go shopping? Does he take a "second look"? Does he eye pretty girls driving by in traffic? Do you feel sick to your stomach at the thought that he works with attractive women?

My husband does have an eye for beauty, as do most men. When I first dated him, it used to make me crazy because I used to LOOK for this behavior. But I realized that he enjoys looking at people in general. My "thoughts" almost destroyed our relationship. But I had so many horrible relationships in the past, I was used to that type of behavior, so I carried on my insane jealousy issues with my new relationship with my husband.

My husband is a warm and friendly man. He's friendly to everyone. I used to just notice him friendly with girls. But he is, in fact, the same way with other men. It took me a long time to realize that he loves me, no matter how I look.

How do you feel about this topic?

my b'f is the same way. He will flirt with a cashier or who ever to get something extra or w. a hostess at a restraunt to get us a table quicker. I have no problem its plenty harmless. I know his type and a majority of the time its not his type. He will tell me also if hes looking at a girl and he will point out say a girls butt or something. I know hes not going to talk to her or get her number.

Mine glances, but doesn't stare. He glances if a guy with a mohawk walks by too. Anything eye-catching or sparkly.

I always start to throw a tantrum when my boyfriend of 4 years looks at other girls on the street etc. He really makes it noticable by turning his head to get a better look at them. However, when I point this out to him, he asks me if they're "a good look", then a look closer at him and notice he's squinting... and it clicks, he cant see objects in the distance without his glasses. Ha ha, me, being jealous over a girl he cant even see??? now really...

It makes me feel uneasy when it happens, but it doesn't stay with me nor do I bring it up. Unless he stares/becomes creepy, it's not a big deal.

Then again, I look too. I think it's fairly normal to look at good looking people, male or female.

My husband think he is being discreet with his ogling.  He is very good about not looking when I am there but a couple of years ago he developed a thing for Jessica Simpson.  Every television ad or TV appearance he was right there making snide comments.  But he would not let me change the channel.  Then he painted her portrait a few times.  He told me it was because he thought he could make money off her face.  Um...sure dude. I am totally buying it.  Yeah.  Tell me another!

Lol, no. Not really an ogler at all. I'm more of an ogler than he is - though it's more because people and their looks facinate me more than any interest in them. And I look at both men and women. It's just who I am - I've always watched and listened to people since I don't really talk much.

In fact, I kind of got in trouble for ogling a few weeks ago. My mom had been going on for weeks about how several new 'eye candy' had joined her office. My boyfriend and I (along with 2 of our friends) went to her company picnic and I told my mom "I don't see anyone from your office that I'd concider eye candy". My boyfriend heard me and was a little upset that I was looking. It had nothing to do with being attracted to anyone else - I just have been hearing about these new 'hot' guys for weeks and thought my mom was going crazy. >.<

I have caught my boyfriend looking at other women before, but he doesn't do it that often. I realize he's a guy, and it's in his nature to look. It's not like he's cheating on me or trying to pick up other women. I fully trust him.

my boyfriend is really subtle about it if he does any ogling. i can't think of any times he's ever commented on another girl's appearance unless i said something first. i'm sure he looks, it would be weird if he didn't, but he doesn't do it noticably. i'm probably worse than him when it comes to oggling, both girls and guys!  

I agree with those who say you look at both women and men. Sometimes I also point out beautiful women. He was stationed in Greece in the Air Force when he was 22 and he has been to many topless beaches there. He has seen many "boobs" and he says they all look the same after a while! It's just that I didn't notice him looking at everybody at first. I only saw the women he looked at because I was LOOKING for it. Not only that, he knows a lot of people and is always looking for people he may know. He's even pointed out and introduced me  to old girlfriends at the supermarket. It makes me a little uneasy, but I can see that I have a LOT more to offer than those women! At least he's not trying to hide the old relationship. He is totally honest with me. I trust him.

My bf and I ogle people together }:]

Original Post by vegetariangeek:

Anything eye-catching or sparkly.

 That's ME!!! haha XD My bf swears I'm a bird because I always go 'ooooh shiny!'