"guys dig curves" garbage

Seriously people, whats with all this 'guys dig curves' garbage? Yea right! If guys dig curves, than why is the stick-thin image promoted? And why do guys only date mainly skinny girls whose legs don't even touch when they walk?

Anyone else in high school notice this? Do you think it's just our age?

Original Post by anang:

So here's my challenge to everyone involved in this discussion: obviously, people started using "curvy" to mean overweight because they didn't want to offend or further alienate overweight women.  What do all of you think is a better term to refer to non-curvy but overweight women? Is there such a thing?

While looking for material for a piece of video art I completed last semester, I spent a lot of time perusing Craigslist's Casual Encounters section. It's a longer story than I care to tell, but I did find a word I enjoyed. "Thick". It has connotations of strength and durability, which appeal to me especially in terms of those traits being sexualized. Most of the men seeking "thick" girls went so far as to post pictures (ganked from MySpace?) of women who were not related to the Kim Karandwhateveran idea of "curvy". They had thick, rectangular torsos, not-huge chests, and plush thighs. I identified immediately.

Of course, there are probably many who will not find the word appealing. My barbaric yawp can only speak for me.

Nope, i notice it too.

My best friend can easily get any guy she wants to, most of them already think shes super hot and want to date her. Shes about 5'5 and 100lbs and she has the teeniest little waist i have ever seen. Shes not curvy at all, shes straight down, kind of cylindrical shaped if you know what i mean lol. 

The girls that have the most guys liking them are really skinny and have small frames in my school.

 

I think it goes both ways.  In general, guys don't like people at either extreme.  

beckkkahhhx3, are you in high school? If so, I'd like to let you know (as an ancient 28 year old), that most of those guys will start appreciating more curves as they get older. Right now they just buy what the media tell them to. They'll get their own minds at least by the time they finish college (or that age).

Thick. I haven't heard that outside a disco song. :)

What do the rest of you think of "thick"?

Where in cali nasuoni do you live??

Alot of the girls I see in so cal's pretty tiny, or least on my college campus, like I would say avg is like 2-6? I think alot of people in 2's and 4's.

There's a difference between 'normal' and the healthy weight just to make a clarification. Just because you are at a 'normal' weight in AMERICA doesn't mean you are at a healthy weight. Everybody knows America is the fattest nation out there -_-

Original Post by beckkkahhhx3:

Nope, i notice it too.

My best friend can easily get any guy she wants to, most of them already think shes super hot and want to date her. Shes about 5'5 and 100lbs and she has the teeniest little waist i have ever seen. Shes not curvy at all, shes straight down, kind of cylindrical shaped if you know what i mean lol. 

The girls that have the most guys liking them are really skinny and have small frames in my school.

 

I wonder if it has a lot to do with culture too. My school is predominantly African American and the girls who are most sought after are pretty and curvy/thick. I'll be honest, guys aren't chasing after the biggest girl at school but they don't want someone who is completely flat or doesn't have any semblance of a butt. But I do notice that many White guys tend to like skinny girls.

In one of my classes, we had to do an essay about body issues and it was actually difficult. Many of my friends, including those who are overweight are ok with how they look. If you look around at lunch, it isn't hard to see that people aren't analyzing what they eat to much (our school doesn't have any morbidly obese people either). If I drink water at lunch or even mention losing weight, the guys I know get upset. I like that they really don't care if your not a size 0. There's no pressure besides what I put on myself.

 

Original Post by naruelle:

Where in cali nasuoni do you live??

Alot of the girls I see in so cal's pretty tiny, or least on my college campus, like I would say avg is like 2-6? I think alot of people in 2's and 4's.

There's a difference between 'normal' and the healthy weight just to make a clarification. Just because you are at a 'normal' weight in AMERICA doesn't mean you are at a healthy weight. Everybody knows America is the fattest nation out there -_-

I live in the Bay Area naruelle. We are no sot cal by any means. Most of the women in the bay area are not TINY, but slender (I'd guess a healthy size 6-10). If you go north to Sacramento, most of the women are over weight (like, size 14-20), but if you go south, like to LA or San Diego, the women shrink quite a bit, especially in the more 'hollywood' areas.

And I agree, there is a difference between average and healthy.

if i'd been curvy when I was thick (just to use our two terms) I wouldn't still be trying to lose.  I have a nice bottom but that's not going anywhere, the shape is the shape no  matter what I lose.  I never had boobs even at my high weight and so there's nothing to "appreciate" about keeping extra pounds on.  They aren't making me attractive.  If I had boobage going on at this weight, I'd be done losing.  But I don't so there's nothing to distract from the slight tummy.

Well I think it's the guy, the place, the way they were brought up, and the girl.

 

My friend gets SO MUCH attention at school for her butt, it's crazy!  guys actually WOLF WHISTLE for her in the hallways.  of course she's also really pretty and (now) has a thin tummy, but still!

i can't get more than two guys to look at me (and frankly, im not too hit on either! XP)

so basically, it's all in the guy, and cultre plays a big big part!

curvy
adjective 1.  having curves; "a settee with only one curvy end"  2.  (of a woman's body) having a large bosom and pleasing curves; "Hollywood seems full of curvaceous blondes"; "a curvy young woman in a tight dress"  Overweight or not...you can still be curvy.

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I think we are focusing on the wrong things here.  There are so many different body types that a female can have.  What is important is not this battle between ultra-thin and curvy but having a healthy body whatever shape you are.

Are you eating a balanced, nutritious diet? Are you getting your heart rate up 3-6 days per week?  Are you getting enough sleep and taking time for yourself?   Have you been consistent with this for a while now? If so, pat yourself on the back ladies!

All the guys I know like healthy women. Just as I am attracted to healthy guys. 

Whatever your shape, focus on being the healthiest you you can be and you will be attractive to someone.   You can't change your dna or your bone structure.

Yup, jawild you are right- reading this made me think (and, please, don't immediately jump to the wrong conclusions, that would be boring, i'm just putting this out there) 'race'. Why? 

Because race plays a MAJOR role in your genetic make-up, obviously, which determines your physical traits such as bone structure, fat distribution etc. I am by no means saying that every latino girl's going to have the most amazing ass ever, and that every white girl should be straight up and down. That would be criminal generalisation. I'm just saying that jawild is right to think that the more we focus on our, personal, health, the more attractive we will be seen to be. Because we are playing to our strengths. 

I'm white, I'm a straight up and down- I know from my mother and grandmothers- and therefore if i feel like it then i should strive to stay that way. When I get "curves" in the wrong places, i know i should be here.

I object to a beautiful, exotic set of genes trying to starve off all her genetic gifts. 

And also, and I'm sorry for the essay- this is like therapy, balm for the soul;

Men are just not that fussy.

It's a fact. ;-)

All the guys i know don't like skinny boned women, some like thick, curvy and some are into bbw's. My friend which is a size 24 got shutdown from a man cuz she wasn't fat enough for him, can u believe that???? I was shocked when she told me that i had never heard such a thing, usually is the opposite lol. Actually when i was skinny guys didn't like me after i came to america and gained some weight thats when i started dating and having guys like me. I had never been without a boyfriend. I am old now, 32 and i chose to be single for 2.5 years after my divorce and i am also a mom of an 8 year old boy and after i was ready to start dating again i met a wonderful man which i am engaged to. Oh yeah for the record my ex husband cheated on me with 3 fat women.  I guess i wasn't fat enough at that time for him and i was a size 26... i am down to a 16 now and i want to go down to a 12 no less cuz i don't want to be skinny i still wanna be thick and curvaceous. ;)

Good luck to all the ladies out there in reaching ur goal. ;)

I'm a guy.  I like the Kate Mosses and the Kiera Knightleys of the world.  Super trim waifish bodies are totally hot.  What I really like though?  The Drew Barrymores and Beyonces.  These are the girls I want to go home to.  In the end, it comes down to personality.  Sometimes shy, sometimes outgoing, charming, sweet, funny and adaptable.  Now that's a girl I can love, no matter what her hips and waist look like.

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for one im sick of some ppl who use "curvy" to describe fat people. secondly why is it always so wonderful when a guy is going around boasting about dating a super model if the thin look wasn't desired among men? a lot of the guys i see that say oh yeah they like the thicker curvier women are thicker themselves..... you desire what you know you have a chance to get

My boyfriend loves all body types. His celeb crushes are Reese Witherspoon, Catherine Zeta Jones and Halle Berry. He can definitely appreciate curves but he still loves my not very curvy more athletic body. Your body is what can grab attention but your personality far outshines your body. If you are fun, fearless and not worried about what other people think a guy will find that sexy. This is just from my personal experience but my boyfriend is way more attracted to me when we're out having a great time than when i'm down on myself over a weight issue. A slightly pudgy tummy will go unnoticed but a bad attitude WON'T.  

I hear this all the time, usually by male friends who want me to eat more or go to the gym less. Personally, I would rather be super skinny without curves because that's my own conception of what is attractive. Unfortunately good curves tend to come with bad ones.

I think different men go for different body types and the decent ones (within reason) won't care. Personally despite knowing my ex was more than happy with my curves our break up has pushed me to be stronger and lose the stone I want to. Whatever makes you happy is right x

i like da curves !!