"Guys like girls with curves!"

Is it just me, or is this motto really just making one group of people happy, and another group (namely us smaller girls) insecure?

It seems very counter-productive to me. When I'm sure this comment is meant to make people like their bodies better, in reality in only makes me feel uncomfortable in mine.

I've never had "curves," and I probably never will. And while it may be true that guys like "curvy" girls better, I know lots of guys - specifically, most of my guy friends - that prefer thin girls. (Not bony, emaciated thin... you get my point.)

Wouldn't a better slogan for body peace be like, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder?" Or "every body type is beautiful?" I'm sure these have been used before, but I've never actually heard them said.

One day while I was reading in a magazine, I saw the quote, "Real women have curves!" And I almost cried.

Does anyone else feel this way?

 

yeah there are days I hate how I look, and yes having gained a bit..FINALLY...I must admit it's nice to see slight curvage emerging again...I missed having even a bit of a butt!!

HEALTHY is what is important. Guys like HEALTHY girls..and honestly who CARES what guys like. you are supposed to have/want/desire a HEALTHY lifestyle and self image and body for YOURSELF not some stupid guy. Or some magazine etc.

Ignore any comments at all it's just a gimmick whether for a positive or negative response.  Keep healthy for you and continue towards your goal, you're beautiful no matter what.

~Tiff

As a guy I must say that I like girls....period!!! There will always be guys who have specific interests in a girl like the hourglass figure, the pear figure, etc... but I find myself attracted to girls of all shapes in sizes. Honestly, things that attract me are girls that are kind, are optimistic, have a good self-esteem, and are approachable. Body shapes are great and all, but the trait that turns me on the most is the attitude.

f__k that.. seriously. 

maybe im just crazy, but i have always wanted to lok like a woman, i want curves and not to just have a stick body any more.. i always get u have such a pretty face!!! i hate that, i want the body to match my face and my attitude..  every 1 has there own desire, but i want this 4 myself.. i want to be able to fill out my clothing, i want to quit wearing oversized clothing to hide my non figure..

I mentioned something like this in the other post about the female body:

'Curves' is just another politically correct word. It's the same as pleasantly plump. However, I'm sure it was not meant to be so when the word first started getting used. I'm sure it was meant to describe slim healthy women with a womanly figure, but now everyone who has extra flab uses the word 'curvy' to describe themselves. I don't think that's right. There's a difference between being 'curvy' and being overweight.

Most people are right in saying everyone has a different body type and should be happy with themselves no matter what they look like. I take this a step further and say: you should be happy with yourself no matter what you look like, as long as you're healthy.

Original Post by agelades:

I mentioned something like this in the other post about the female body:

'Curves' is just another politically correct word. It's the same as pleasantly plump. However, I'm sure it was not meant to be so when the word first started getting used. I'm sure it was meant to describe slim healthy women with a womanly figure, but now everyone who has extra flab uses the word 'curvy' to describe themselves. I don't think that's right. There's a difference between being 'curvy' and being overweight.

Most people are right in saying everyone has a different body type and should be happy with themselves no matter what they look like. I take this a step further and say: you should be happy with yourself no matter what you look like, as long as you're healthy.

Agree with you!

Coming from someone overweight here..

I do consider myself "curvy", not in an effort to feel better about being FAT, but because, despite being heavy, I have very similar measurements to one of my thin, but highly curvaceous friends. Not similar in actual numbers, but similar in proportion. I have a clear hourglass figure, even though what may be causing it IS, in fact, FAT.

Also, it's not helpful to us that many of the popular stores (Old Navy, Gap, for example) have a style, Curvy, that tends to fit ladies of a larger size. While, yes, they make them in size 00/0, I've rarely seen a woman smaller than ~14/16 purchasing these "Curvy" cut jeans. I think that that could be part of the problem.

i agree that curvy is to do with proportions...i consider myself curvy but i am still slightly under weight

i think curvy means smaller waist, larger chest and slightly larger hips, which a person of any weight can have!

also the phrase that guys like curvy girls better comes from evolutionary theory: darwin suggested a persons desire in life is to pas on their genes and this is their main goal, ie. have children. wider hips and chest are signs that a woman is capable of carrying a child therefore darwin suggested a man is unconsciously drawn to these characteristics because it increases their chance of passing on their genes. this was in the 1860s and theres no proof...but its where phrases like 'real women have curves' come from, theyre old....dont worry about it because in todays world, guys like all shapes and sizes just learn to love yourself :D

Original Post by charlieuk:


also the phrase that guys like curvy girls better comes from evolutionary theory: darwin suggested a persons desire in life is to pas on their genes and this is their main goal, ie. have children. wider hips and chest are signs that a woman is capable of carrying a child therefore darwin suggested a man is unconsciously drawn to these characteristics because it increases their chance of passing on their genes. this was in the 1860s and theres no proof...but its where phrases like 'real women have curves' come from, theyre old....dont worry about it because in todays world, guys like all shapes and sizes just learn to love yourself :D

You do have a point, but it has more to do with the actual size of the pelvic bones and the amount of healthy fat a woman carries. The wider the bones, the more support the woman has and the larger the space for the baby to pass through during labour.

And you're right, guys like all shapes and sizes! Most do prefer the healthy look - ie not overweight but also not emaciated - so get yourselves healthy girls!

but what u people are failing to realize, we are happy, but arent happy with our bodies, we are underweight, we have very low bmi's and to be healthy we need to gain to meet that, and with that we will attain the curves we are refferrring too. im -17 my bmi and i am not happy with it or healthy and its not good feeling. so there is difference with being happy the way we are which isnt healthy, and trying to achieve a healthy weight. this sight i was under the impression for us to give each other a boost in confidence and suggestions on helping us attain our goal, if u guys dont have this problem u wont understand, and yes we may be able to buy designer clothes..but guess what we dont fill those clothes out they just hang off of us, there is difference..

Not to begin a fight.. but..

When (at least in the USA) all of the media being thrown at us gives the impression that size 0/2 is the only definition of beauty,  how do you think it makes those of us that wear a  20/22.. or a 30/32.. feel?  

"We are happy, but aren't happy with our bodies, we are underweight, we have very low bmi's and to be healthy we need to gain to meet that..." could be changed exactly to "We are happy, but aren't happy with our bodies, we are OVERweight, we have very HIGH bmi's and to be healthy we need to LOSE to meet that." Much of your post can easily be applied to very thin AND very overweight people.

 

The bottom line is  that  by saying something, a group of  people are always going to be  upset by it. You can't please them all, eh?

its not that..its just this sight is for weight gainers, and here i thought i would have have refuge from those opinions and views, u cant assume because"so called society" aproves that that we do, we are here because we want to change for better.. u have right to ur opinions, but i am just tired of hearing how good we have have it being so thin, when its not like that at all!!!   I hate my body, i am size 0/2 and its not all fun and games i get rude comments like look how skinny u r, r u ever gonna gain any weight, strong winds  were to come u better hold on or u'll get blown away!! and i am tired of it.

This forum may be geared towards weight gainers, but certainly not the entire site.

 

I'm just saying.. realize that when you offend one group, the counter-comment will offend the others. You're never going to make anyone happy. If I were you, I'd pretend like I don't hear the comments from other people. Fat people get just as much criticism, perhaps more (based on image alone: Oh, so and so is fat, s/he must be lazy, not exercise and stuff their face full of junk food every day.) There are two sides to every coin.

You're never going to be happy if you take everything that everyone says to heart. You have to decide for yourself if you're going to let the comments of others bring you down. I hope you decide not to.

Personally I wouldn't be hugely interested in a guy if he "liked girls with curves."

It doesn't make me emotionally upset to read the curves statements and I think it is just a point of reassuring bigger woman that they are attractive too. And they are.

And so are smaller women, like you said, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

You are 15, you still have ten years before we can start talking about if you have curves or not.  If you are 25 and have no curves then we can begin worrying about it.  And of course all your guy friends like skinny girls, they are 15 and have no idea what they like, and know very little about women.

 

I personally do not like skinny girls in the least.  In college I thought maybe I just liked curvy gals or chubby gals because that was all i could get.  So Sophomore year I happened to date several skinny girls in a row and learned that in the end I am just not attracted to them.  Not everyone is going to like everyone.  Plenty of girls do not like dumb fat guys like me, but there is a % of the population that seems to be down with my program at times.  Beauty IS in the eye of the beholder but it makes me sick when a skinny girl says that she feels bad in her body because there is a segment of the population that prefers curvy women.  So what about the girl that is a size 10 and is super sad because the media has decided that anything bigger than a size 6 is fat?!?! now that is a bummer, not the skinny girl wanting some curves.  10 year ago size 0 and 2 where the sizes of choice, now at least we are getting out to size six and hopefully size 12 will be where people prefer in the near future.

 

CURVES FOR DAYS!!

 

 

Guys like girls period.   Sure they watch us girls with curves, but they tend not to have the guts to approach us.  The only reason hubby and I got together was because, I had just moved from hell on earth to Leave it to Beavers neighborhood and I was in culture shock.   He saw a wounded petrified female that needed protecting.  He has a huge dose of the provide and protect gene.   That was enough to make us friends.

More than friends came when he found out I could cook,  all the women in my family age well.  Does it hurt that I have an hour glass figure even at 60 lbs over weight and that 80 percent of the weight I need to lose is in my boobs?  No.  But, its not what made him fall in love with me.  He fell in love with me because, he liked the way I made him feel about himself when he was with me.

Thats the key to all relationships.  If we feel like we are better people with the person we are with than we are without them, then we stick around.  To be honest, looks have very little to do with it.  

Looks are what bring them in for the one night stand.  But, they aren't what get you into a long lasting relationship. What gets you the long term relationships is if your silences are comfortable, you prefer each others company to anyone elses and you can honestly say, you are better off having this person in  your life.    The rest is just gravy.

I'd class myself as curvy, but I'm tiny, too.

Ach, who cares? be youself, get the weight YOU want, and anyway the whole 'guys like curves' is sexist towards those inclined to the same sex :D

(I'm not one of them, btw)

Thanks, Coat, that's exactly what I'm trying to say.

First off, like a couple people have said, guys like girls. Period.

Second, I think there's a little bit of the grass is always greener thing going on here, cause in one of the other forums, there's a thread about how no guys like curves.

Now, being a guy, and after doing extensive research on the subject by talking to many guys, I can tell you for a fact that the vast majority of males like one or more or all girl(s). So, based on the data I've collected, I think it's pretty safe to say that for every body type, there are guys that are attracted to it.

I can relate to quite a few persons here. I have a low BMI and is thus classed as being underweight. Sometimes i don't feellike going anywhere cause i know that i have to dress in something that will show how shapeless i am, so most times i wear huge clothes to cover it up.

My husband reassures me that he loves me just thte way i am......but ladies we all know that off and on even that doesn't work to boost your esteem about your weight. Why is it so difficult to put on weight?

But God has fashioned us all in the way that he wants us. We should all seek happiness in Him and not in the way we look or the way others see us. If we do that...we will head to just being depressed...which is NOT a good feeling.

To all skinny girls like myself.....the trick to gaining weight is to finding happiness within thyself. Whatever God has blessed you with....flaunt it.