GUYS - losing weight and scaring the bf....why??

Why is it now that im losing weight properly and goin to the gym etc that my bf now seems to be worried and paranoid even more so than before??  He offers me every kind of fattening food and drink you could think of, which he NEVER did before and gets arsy when i say i dont want it??  Hes now sayin to me, dont get too thin, i dont want you to lose too much etc etc.

It's annoying and i get really ratty with him, i want support not to be offered chips and pizza and any other form of takeaway?  I mean dont get me wrong he does call me sexy n compliment me when im dressed up and encourage me that way.  It's just this  weird new habbit hes started with food n that??

Any clue as to why..........   Cheers, in advance lol, if ya can help me out?

feel so so so guilty about all ive said!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe i should just waited to see of things work out!

Thanks soo much for everyones comments.

I dunno what i am going ot do, when hes in a good mood like last night we get on great and it isnt just him soetimes im so ratty!

Think we just rub each other up the wrong way, we are very similar!

I dont know, just dnt want u to think hes a monster, he isnt.

thanks again all x

Defintiely been there.

I split up recently with a guy because I found out he had been discussing my weight loss with his entire family (who are all chubby and eat junk and takeaway, and whose idea of family bonding time is sitting around playing computer games) and I felt constantly under the spotlight whenever I was around them. I eat 3 good healthy meals a day, plus snacks and work out alot, and have lost weight in a good healthy way and am well within the healthy weight range for my height. For me, getting up and going for a run is a routine, it destresses me and I love to exercise. For him, eating healthily and exercising is some weird thing that obviously means I have an eating disorder or am some kind of health freak.

When lifestyles don't mix it is very hard to make things work.  

I am going through the same thing with my BF!

Whenever I talk about losing weight...
He gets upset and keeps saying "You're perfect the way you are"
Which is sweet. But come on...I know I am not in shape. All we are asking for is a little support!

Whenever I look at weight loss pills...
He grabs it out of my hands and says "NO." or reads it and is like "This isn't approved by the FDA. You can't use this."

It got really annoying so one day I just sat him down. I told him flat out that he needs to support me and help me get into shape. And that I was being safe about it. And It worked! Now, we are both working out and helping eachother make healthy choices. Just talk to him!

I dont deny it could be male insecurity and it could be he thinks you are may be losing it too fast or in an unhealthy way.

I think it could be that TV has women think they have to be these toothpicks to be pretty. I myself like a woman with curves. I dont want to see my wife starving herself to death or not being able to occasionally indulge in a slice of pizza or a piece of chocolate without crying about it for an hour.

Life isnt all about eating some regimented diet and working out. You need to enjoy yourself and there is nothing wrong with it as long as you dont OVERindulge. 

I think most people hit the nail on the head, talk to your boyfriend. The only way to make ANY relationship work is by communicating. The minute you start looking for others to tell you what your boyfriend is thinking, the lines of communication have been closed.

I have a good friend who lost over 100lbs (she started at 350).  Her husband began to freeze her our sexually and later began to tell her that she was too "skinny" at size 14.  She later found a LOT of porno featuring VERY overweight women on his computer... Your boyfriend could be insecure, he could be concerned about your health, or he could prefer big women.  I agree with the other posts.  You're going to have to talk to him to get to the bottom of it, then decide what is best for you -- your health, your self-esteem etc.

Look, I'm sure you're no angel. I'm also sure that he's not a monster.  You'd be in a lot worse shape than you are now if he was.  But that doesn't mean that you're safe. Maybe physically. Maybe not.

You said you had a great evening with him. That's wonderful! But did you spend the whole evening watching everything you did or said to make sure that it wouldn't ruin the evening?

Look, we all run through rough patches.  I know my hubby and I have had times when we were fighting every day and we didn't even want to be near each other.  That's fairly normal and can be (and has been) worked through.

But I am worried about you because it's also normal for an abusive partner (both genders, mental or physical) to insert some good days into the routine.  Bring flowers, take their partner out, just generally be in a good mood. Remind their partner why they fell in love with them in the first place, especially if they feel their partner starting to pull away, starting to get ready to leave. Once the partner is secure and happy again, that's when the abuser starts again. And it takes longer for the partner to pull away the next time.  A little longer each time. You start to feel like you deserve whatever the abuser does. It's your fault, after all.  It must be, because the abuser keeps saying it is. But you never deserve to have your car smashed.  You never deserve to have water spit in your face. You should never have to be wonder if the next time he puts his fist through a wall, he's going to "miss" and it'll hit your face or your stomach instead.

If you won't leave him, at least get you both to counseling (tell him it's to work out the weight issue).  Get yourself there if he won't go. I'm guessing that there are as many places overseas as in the US (I assume you're in Europe somewhere by your accent?) to get free or low cost counseling. Please at least think about it. 

And I hope that I am completely wrong, that you two are able to work things out, and his nice streak continues forever.  <G>

It's great that you're doing everything right and losing the weight you want to lose!

There are 3 possibilities:

1.  Like everyone said, he doesn't want you getting too "hott."  Is he a terribly jealous person?  

2.  He is worried about your health.

3.  He likes some curves.  I know when I lost weight, my boyfriend didn't want me getting any thinner because he likes a little bit of curves.  I'm just mean, he doesn't like girls flat as a board with nothing to them.  (I don't mean that offensively, I like that in a girl!)

I hope this helps!!

My bf does the exact same thing because he eats horribly and my new healthy lifestyle makes him feel guilty. Thus he tries (unconsciously) to bring me down to his level. We had a heart-to-heart and he's been doing better though.

Edit: Though after reading the whole thread, I'm with ladieknight. You're too young from that crap. Get out asap.