guy's n gal's i need your opinions on this situation...

Basically I'm at uni and i met this cute guy on a night out last tuesday, we got together v drunkenly n he lived near me so ended up getting a taxi back with me n my housemate, he paid for it and I told him if he came back to mine I wouldn't sleep with him, and he said that was ok as long as I had good tunes on my ipod...random i know!

So anyway, we didnt sleep together and he stayed over, and left the next mroning at 1pm... he was really sweet all that night, and he seemed like a genuinely nice guy. he asked for my number without me initiating anything, and that night he sent me a sweet text asking how i as. I didnt reply till the next day at lunch time, then he text me back that day at like 11pm, and i replied the next dy on the friday, it was a nice text but i didnt ask any questions in it...so i didnt get a reply. It's now sunday and it's driving me crazy he hasn't texted...am i being stupid? Should I text him, or wait and see, will he text me again?

Hahaha...

We're not having sex tonight.

It's okay, just as long as you have good tunes on your ipod.

Yes, text him. Ask him to hang out.

Have you seen the show The Pickup Artist? Only men need special training and professional advice just to have a simple conversation with a woman in a bar or club.

Initiate contact, invite him, it doesn't matter. You don't need to play the game.

you totally need to play the game!  Guys say they don't like it, but they secretly do ;)  I am a big fan of hard to get, wait it out!  :)  Guys arent interested if its too easy.

I would just text him...maybe he thinks you're not super interested from your last text and is waiting for you.

Hmmm...

I know if it was me, I probably wouldn't text him. This isn't because I'd be "game playing", but because if a guy didn't respond to my text, I would just assume he was uninterested. Even if I didn't ask anything that needed a reply, in my mind if the guy really wants me, he'll pursue me either way. I'm also pretty shy and have no balls.

From what you said though it seems like he has a genuine interest in you. Was there something in the text you sent him that made it seem like you're not interested? It could also be that you didn't ask him anything that he needs to reply to, like you had already mentioned.

It's all about putting yourself out there, and I don't.
I think you should though :)

text him, you can be the instigator and still play the game, who says he has to be the one to get things started ; )

Original Post by j-fizz:

I told him if he came back to mine I wouldn't sleep with him, and he said that was ok as long as I had good tunes on my ipod...

Holy poo!  You bought that?!

Dang.  Were they "magic" Ipod tunes?  What if he started listenning to them and thought they were c#ap...would you then have to sleep with him on account of your substandard Ipod tunes?

If you text him, tell him I'll let him listen to my sweet Ipod tunes for $10.

Have you read the book "he's just not that into you"? ........

If a guy is sincerely into you he will call, he will text, bottom line...he's thinking about you, and he will not wait several days to let you know it.

............................................I vote don't text him..........................................

hmmm if i were you, i'd give him a call. if he answers, chat and ask him to hang out sometime. if he doesn't leave him a message and tell him you were wondering if he'd want to grab a drink/coffee/etc sometime. then the ball is in his court and leave it at that. if he isn't interested, he won't call back, if he is, he will.

i'm just thinking he might feel like you aren't that interested because you waited a long time to text him back, and then responded with something that didn't require a response from him. guys are afraid of rejection too!

I love this site, it shows me how clueless women are when it comes to men. We all thought they knew us five steps ahead, but!!!!!!!!!!! haha....

Texting is a ***** way to communicate..

Don't waste your time playing games, just call him. By talking to him you should be able to tell if he likes you or not. :) 

If he lives near you, call and see if he wants to go for coffee with you and some friends. Just start a friendship and take it from there.

Original Post by jules817:

hmmm if i were you, i'd give him a call. if he answers, chat and ask him to hang out sometime. if he doesn't leave him a message and tell him you were wondering if he'd want to grab a drink/coffee/etc sometime. then the ball is in his court and leave it at that. if he isn't interested, he won't call back, if he is, he will.

i'm just thinking he might feel like you aren't that interested because you waited a long time to text him back, and then responded with something that didn't require a response from him. guys are afraid of rejection too!

 Amen! I agree 100% with Jules.

Original Post by fortius:

I love this site, it shows me how clueless women are when it comes to men. We all thought they knew us five steps ahead, but!!!!!!!!!!! haha....

Texting is a ***** way to communicate..

 You're so right. Love that link.

hey guys, thanks for all your advice, some of it made me laugh! i decided to text him and got THE nicest text back, so im glad i made my decision...yay!

yay! i bet he was just afraid you weren't that interested :)

ask him out!