Any happy love stories to give me hope?

im feeling really low today. i turned 35 last week and ive been single for nearly three years. Ive had plenty of one night stands and dates but i still havent met someone I really like who really likes me - that is, someone with whom I can develop a relationship. I recently moved to a new country hoping for adventure but now i just feel really lonely and isolated. I have joined a few social groups and started a new job so I am meeting people and having fun but Im just tired of being alone in my bed at night, not having someone to plan with, dream with travel with, cuddle with etc. It gets so boring!!!! Or should i say I get so boring! I am on CC trying to lose a little weight. I only have 14lb to lose so its not a huge deal. i think im attractive and I get a fair amount of attention from men and yet why do i keep falling for the ones that arent interested in me? I realise that the ones who like me I usually dont feel attracted to. I keep having one night stands with 25 year old guys and feel really bad after cos it always comes to nothing. Im just the "older" woman who maybe they see as having something to teach them! I desperately want to meet my life partner and have a family but feel time ticking on and another year im still alone. All guys my age seem to be either already hooked up or only interested in younger women. I think I need some encouragement.....anyone else out there feel lonely? Waiting for their prince to come? Some happy love stories to give me hope would be much appreciated. Actually I know I sound really negative and im just feeling sorry for myself so I am going to make an effort to make a list of all the things I am grateful for. but still, it would be nice to hear some happy love stories.

Hello,

I saw your post and thought I could offer encouragement for ya*s*

I am 32 and happily married to my soulmate..but it wasn't easy to find him.  In high school and my early 20's I never dated, not really. I was the girl next door and similarly, every guy I liked liked one of my friends..and every guy I wasn't attracted to are the ones that liked me.  Until I met Joe, we were friends first (which is always a good start), first he crushed on one of my friends, we hung out, he then started to like me but, again, I wasn't attracted to him..but over time we realized that we were in the same boat - I was the girl next door and he was the boy next door (he crushed on girls that didn't like him).  It was kind of funny but we'd never really looked at each other until we realized that we were in the same boat..we dated but he got serious really fast and that scared me off, 2x.  It took us three and a half years to reach a point where I was ready for serious..and from that point we were inseperable.  We've been together going on 11 years, married for 11.  With two wonderful little boys to complete our family.  Oh and btw, Joe and I lived in the same small town, I was friends with two of his best buddies for 5 years, we ran in the same small circle for those 5 years, and yet we had never met each other..until one night a mutual friend finally introduced us, and even then we were just friends for a year following that, LOL, just goes to show...you never know.

I was the girl watching all of her friends find someone while I sat home alone..I can't believe how many journal entries I've written in my younger years about being lonely and wanting to find someone to share my life with, wanting to meet someone who doesn't complete me, necessarily, but who complements me, etc.  Strangely enough, he was right there in front of me, I just had to stop looking so hard for what I thought I wanted, and let it happen.  I'm a hopeless romantic and I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone.  It will happen!  Hope that's a happy enough love story for you *s*

thanks for replying tpredovic. nice to hear your love story...sounds wonderful. i think youre right when you say its best to stop looking so hard. in fact my brother always says, expect nothing and then if something good happens its a bonus! So, today i renewed my commitments to the things I love to do like yoga and after a great class tonight feel a little more centred. I started CC just last week and I think cos I have been avoiding comfort eating as well my feelings have been rising to the surface as i have not been stuffing them down with my usual mindless munching! Good luck in your CC journey and would be great to see some of you art work/photography on your profile page!

I went to a women in power conference recently and the most motivational speaker was a 70 year old comedian and stress management consultant, who said that you should treat every day as if it's your last, otherwise, what's the point!  She said if you are having a crappy day, "fake it til you make it".  Unless you tell yourself that something good is going to happen, you'll always be waiting for the roof to fall. At the same time, stress is good, it helps us to know when our lives need change..so don't push the stress away..work with it and past it.   I thought she was pretty great and she had a lot of spunk!  I highly recommend you check out one of her books, her name is Loretta Laroche.  She really made me take a different look at things, which always helps.

It takes a lot of time to upload my photos on sites like this because they are large files, but you are more than welcome to check out my website to see many of them....

www.geminiarts.webs.com

That's one of my blessings..I just started realizing a dream I've had for years, of becoming a professional photographer.  I'm still learning but at least I've taken that first step.  Now my weight and health are the next goals.  I think You'll do great..stay motivated and focused!  Good luck!

i just had a look at loretta laroche on youtube. ive e never heard of her and will enjoy checking out her stuff! i could definitely use a more humourous take on things. Thanks again for sharing that with me, that was really good of you and has really helped lift me up. 

I also had a look at your website - well done! love the photos and home made gifts. 

sounds like you have a lot of vision and creativity so im sure you will have no problem tackling the new goal of getting healthy.

i have had my first really touch day since reducing my intake to 1200 cals last week. I think it may have been hormonal cos i was craving food so badly....i went over my limit by quite a bit but still less than what i burned so hopefully i will still be on track!i have been munching on red cabbage to try and satisfy my desire to eat. fortunately there is nothing very exciting in the fridge! anyway, please keep me posted of your progress if you get the time. Take care and nice talking to you! bye for now x

lol..I know exactly what you mean!  I too am on a 1200 calorie intake and I went over my limit when my hubby and I went for supper on Saturday with friends.  Same thing, I splurged and went over my intake by about 600 calories...thank goodness I swam for an hour earlier that day.  I've still manage to lose 2 lbs. for this week.  I just started a weight loss challeng and I'm done my first week tomorrow.  2lbs. isn't a lot but it's something, so I'm staying positive.  I've been drinking tons of water and using tea as a craving reducer.  Tea is actually very healthy, especially if you drink the herbal varieties - which there are tons of.  And it's a cleanser, anti-oxidant, etc. so it helps.  My vegetable of choice is red peppers *L* for reducing cravings..If I get hungry, I try to distract myself by doing something, anything. 

Take care and keep me posted as well.

I have a love story for you.  When it happened, it was a rare circumstance, but now it is considered common place.  I met my awesome hubby on the internet, through a site called Dream Dates.  I was a single mom of 3 and he was divorced but his ex has custody of their children.  Our profiles matched up.  I was very serious about finding a man who loves children, because I'd had enough of men seeing them as 'extra baggage'.  Tim was very straightforward and told me he loved kids.  Ever cautious I sent my kids to their grandma's for a few weeks of summer vacation.  Then I contacted him again to set a date.

We met in the McDonald's parking lot.  I had a bad with two  hash browns in it because he had gotten held up by a wreck down the road.  His first words were "You are beautiful!".  I was hooked.  By the time our date ended, he had told me he planned to marry me.  Part of me was scared and the rest of me just couldn't believe it.  Eight short months later we were married in my hometown on Valentine's Day.  In April we found out we were pregnant.  Little Timmy appeared 6 weeks early, on Christmas Eve.  Our families all blended in together and we are still very, very happy together.  He completes me and complements me.  I feel blessed to have him.  We are working on our 'happily ever after!'.

My point is I thought it would never happen, but it did.  Just when I was about to give up we found each other.  Ironically, he only lived 60 miles south of me.  So hold on to what you want and don't settle for less.  Your wonderful man is out there somewhere, just dying to meet you!  Good luck...Krysla

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I just read your story and cheer up girl! I am 35 and have been married for 2 years. Prior to meeting my husband, I was the girl next door with all the great guy friends. I didn't date much and they never really lasted. My longest relationship (other than my husband) was 10 months. I never felt comfortable with one night stands b/c I always felt like a slut and I never felt good in the morning. 

WHen I graduated college, I moved to Philadelphia knowing 2 people (my two roommates). I was broke, had college loans, and in crazy debt. I worked two full time jobs to get out of a hole. During my four years I dated a guy (the 10 monther) which I learned some very hard lessons. After him, I realized that I am in control of my own happiness. And if I'm going to wait for a guy to be happy, I'd be waiting a LONG TIME!

I moved back to my hometown, got a great paying job, paid off all my debt by the time I was 30. At that point and few not so great relationship later, my aunt sent me a 30th b-day card that literally was life changing. It still sits by my bed.

"this will be the year you love as deeply as laugh as often as you can.

This will be year you do at least one thing you always dreamed you'd  do.

This will be the year you come closer than ever before to perfecting this art called living"

Since I have turned 30, I have lived and breathed this mantra. I decided that I was going to live my life and wait for no one. If I met a guy and he wanted to come along for the ride, great. The bus will pull over. If not, this bus ain't stopping. Some guys tried to keep up and some never got on the bus. Fortunately, I found one that decided to stay.

I love my life with him, but I totally miss being single. Coming and going as I please, not answering to anyone and for once it was okay not to consider anyone else.

So girl-enjoy your single life. Make this year your year. When you are TRULY happy with yourself, everything will fall into place!

PEACE!!

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