So the harderst part about this ... HELP!

So I'm on my weightloss journey AGAIN... And thats what makes it the hardest to me .. Is that I've lost weight before.. I worked REALLY hard to where I've LOVED my body before.. but here I am AGAIN, Fat and HATING my body... So I know a hundred thousand tricks I know what foods to eat and not to eat... I know to exercise.. and pretty much what type I should be doing.. I think my main problem is that I am an ALL or NOTHING kind of dieter and exerciser.. I tell my self that Im going to stick by my diet by allowing myself one treat a week.. then once I pop that treat, i CANT stop eatting them.. I treat myself again and again.... SO then I try an approach where I NEVER eat ANYTHING bad and I miss events before I miss a workout and then all THAT does it make me feel sorry for myself... its like a CRAZY endless battle!!!!!!!!! ARGH!!! I'm 21, haven't had any kids yet... Aren't I supposed to have the best body that I will ever have right now? But my body is holding me back in SOOOO many ways... Not that I can't do things physically.. Im not quite THAT FAT...LOL But it stops me emotionally and from enjoying things that I WOULD love, if I weren't 70lbs overweight.... I think if this was my first time around it would be "easier" becuase I wouldnt have all the past failures in my face... so HOW HOW HOW do I get out of this slump????????? Since meeting my husband 4 years ago I have gained 50lbs... I cant imagine, if I could just get back ..... Do I just need a total "thinking" make over???? I know there are problems with how I think.. But I dont know exactly what to change... I have recently come to understand that 75-90% of my battle is mental... but HOW do I change that?? Thanks guys! I REALLY need to get on track.... ANY ADVICE??????????

Therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy with a psychologist. 

Thing is if we lay our lives up as a battle between our minds and our bodies, then we essentially miss the essence of living altogether. We are our bodies.

You are in that nasty cycle of punishing the body and then ignoring it. We often think that bingeing is giving into the body, but in fact it is ignoring it.

You do have the best body and will have the best body for life. Learning how to connect with that will definitely take you beyond the current thinking of there me (my fabulous and self-control-freak mind) and it (the flabby, much-hated and disgust-worthy body).

By working on the mind with a psychologist you like I am sure you will find this next weight loss journey completely different from past ones and ultimately more successful.

Well said hedgren.

It is all a matter of mind and body.  The mind is so powerful.  Be wary not to sabotage yourself.  In the meantime, while you are choosing a therapist, head over to the library and look up Geneen Roth.  She has written some excellent books on emotional eating.

Good luck to you and remember....believe in yourself.

I think you can do this without help too.  I think it's at least worth a try.  You know you're strong and are cabable of doing this.   Stop looking at the end goal, take it day by day, and set smaller goals first.  Also, do not think of this as a diet.  You just need to "adjust" what you're eating.  I'm a volume eater, so to tell me to eat just a little of something is a joke.  Instead, think of it as a game for yourself.  Find substitutes for your favorites.  I have done this for everything, except ice cream.  Just can't find something that delicious:)  If you know your weaknesses, don't buy them.  If they are not readily available to binge on, there's a better chance you'll get creative and find a sub.  That being said, you should allow yourself a guilt-free indulgence once in a while.  You're human, and it's okay.  Knowing you'll be rewarded helps keep you on track. 

As for being 21 and prekids, don't stress about it.  If anything, you'll have a good head on your shoulders when and if you do decide to have kids.  And if you let yourself go, you'll know how to get back into shape after.  I have 2 kids and am in the best shape of my life. 

You know you can do this!! 

I'm not sure that therapy is really necessary.  Unfortunately, the majority of dieters gain the weight back.  It is a statistically proven trend and I am no exception.  You are absolutely right in titling this thread "The hardest part about this is..." http://www.magazine.ucla.edu/exclusives/dieti ng_no-go/

Please don't beat yourself up; many people on this website would agree that weight maintenance is more difficult that weight loss.  There is a whole group dedicated to maintenance just on this website.  Be determined to start over, this time keeping in mind that your journey doesn't end with weight loss. Keeping a healthy weight is a lifelong journey.  I wish you all the best!