the harderst part about this ... HELP!

So I'm on my weightloss journey AGAIN... And thats what makes it the hardest to me .. Is that I've lost weight before.. I worked REALLY hard to where I've LOVED my body before.. but here I am AGAIN, Fat and HATING my body... So I know a hundred thousand tricks I know what foods to eat and not to eat... I know to exercise.. and pretty much what type I should be doing.. I think my main problem is that I am an ALL or NOTHING kind of dieter and exerciser.. I tell my self that Im going to stick by my diet by allowing myself one treat a week.. then once I pop that treat, i CANT stop eatting them.. I treat myself again and again.... SO then I try an approach where I NEVER eat ANYTHING bad and I miss events before I miss a workout and then all THAT does it make me feel sorry for myself... its like a CRAZY endless battle!!!!!!!!! ARGH!!! I'm 21, haven't had any kids yet... Aren't I supposed to have the best body that I will ever have right now? But my body is holding me back in SOOOO many ways... Not that I can't do things physically.. Im not quite THAT FAT...LOL But it stops me emotionally and from enjoying things that I WOULD love, if I weren't 70lbs overweight.... I think if this was my first time around it would be "easier" becuase I wouldnt have all the past failures in my face... so HOW HOW HOW do I get out of this slump????????? Since meeting my husband 4 years ago I have gained 50lbs... I cant imagine, if I could just get back ..... Do I just need a total "thinking" make over???? I know there are problems with how I think.. But I dont know exactly what to change... I have recently come to understand that 75-90% of my battle is mental... but HOW do I change that?? Thanks guys! I REALLY need to get on track.... ANY ADVICE?

Sounds like you need support! 

I am seriously going through the same thing.  I was wayyy overweight in college, then dropped 60lbs... SO CLOSE to my ideal weight and size.  I was thrilled, loved myself, and was the happiest I had ever been.  Also, the cute clothes were amazing.

Having gained back 30ish lbs... and not being able to fit into those cute clothes anymore is devastating.  I feel like a fool - didn't I just do this!? UGH, so frustrating.

I also know what you're saying about the eating... once I have one chip or one cookie, I might as well have devoured the entire tray.  I'm an all or nothing ("go big or go home") girl, too. It's totally mental - I know I'm not hungry and shouldn't eat that junk.

So now that I've gone big... I'm ready to get going on the right track.  My goal is to lose 60lbs by teaching myself how to make healthy choices.  It's not going to be easy, but it's going to be oh so worth it.  The healthier we are now, the healthier and more fulfilling the rest of our lives will be.

I think keeping a journal and seeking moral support is the best thing you can do to help conquer the mental challenges. 

Good luck - you can do it!

Hello Girls

This matter is so close to my heart as well. It's like all I can think about is how hard I worked to get to 115lbs(amazing!) and how much deprivation I put my body through and still the effects that are still present in my (poor) health. My mindset is the same but my determination is lacking following my recent 30lbs weight gain.

The most important thing is evaluating why you want to be back there, I can't say I had anymore energy or felt healthy in the slightest, but my social life soared. What about your weightloss made you happiest? lips2hips, did you meet your husband at this point?

I am desperate for my mind to resolve these issues so that I can consider food as a supplement, not neccesity. It's true with me also, one cookie leads to the hole pack and then some. I cannot call it off for another day. I know i'll never get back to where I was but aren't we all in agreement that weightloss just makes life that much easier?

Something I consider is that my happiness will come with weightloss (and it often does) so my best way of inspiring myself is to think to myself- you'll only be worse off by eating all that stuff. Also, going to bed knowing that I didn't binge, I just had a piece of cake (as opposed to half the cake) like normal people manage. That means alot, and it shows on the scales the next day. :)

I often pressure myself with thoughts like you, ceeceedee. That being young I shouldnt have this worry, I should just be thin like everyone else and enjoy life but we are all different. Can I ask what your goal is and what your plans are to attain it?

Sorry I have rambled...so many questions!

:(   BEEN THERE!

I think two things that help: Do you REALLY want to lose weight?  If it's the number one priority for you, then remind yourself.   Also, don't let one slip up get you down!!  If you have a bad day, say, well I have the rest of the week and if I improve my diet by 50% every day I'm still going to make progress!

---Think about how you feel after you binge or eat unhealthy things - have you EVER felt better, or does it usually make you just feel sick and guilty?

And for me at least, I'm so TIRED of not feeling like myself.  I can't believe something as dumb as fat has taken away so much of my young life.  Time for me to own it once and for all!