So the hardest part about this.... help?

So I'm on my weightloss journey AGAIN... And thats what makes it the hardest to me .. Is that I've lost weight before.. I worked REALLY hard to where I've LOVED my body before.. but here I am AGAIN, Fat and HATING my body... So I know a hundred thousand tricks I know what foods to eat and not to eat... I know to exercise.. and pretty much what type I should be doing.. I think my main problem is that I am an ALL or NOTHING kind of dieter and exerciser.. I tell my self that Im going to stick by my diet by allowing myself one treat a week.. then once I pop that treat, i CANT stop eatting them.. I treat myself again and again.... SO then I try an approach where I NEVER eat ANYTHING bad and I miss events before I miss a workout and then all THAT does it make me feel sorry for myself... its like a CRAZY endless battle!!!!!!!!! ARGH!!! I'm 21, haven't had any kids yet... Aren't I supposed to have the best body that I will ever have right now? But my body is holding me back in SOOOO many ways... Not that I can't do things physically.. Im not quite THAT FAT...LOL But it stops me emotionally and from enjoying things that I WOULD love, if I weren't 70lbs overweight.... I think if this was my first time around it would be "easier" becuase I wouldnt have all the past failures in my face... so HOW HOW HOW do I get out of this slump????????? Since meeting my husband 4 years ago I have gained 50lbs... I cant imagine, if I could just get back ..... Do I just need a total "thinking" make over???? I know there are problems with how I think.. But I dont know exactly what to change... I have recently come to understand that 75-90% of my battle is mental... but HOW do I change that?? Thanks guys! I REALLY need to get on track.... ANY ADVICE???????

Hi Cee Cee! I just started this website on 10/19 and I love it. I too, have 70+ lbs to lose. I read your port and we are similar in alot of ways, I 've tried many diets....And I take the same approach as you - all or nothing. I think that sets ourselves up for failure.

Keep tracking your foods and exercise, do it on a daily basis so you can see where youa re spending your calories. GOOD LUCK. YOU CAN DO IT.

hello CeeCeedee! I'm 17 but I've been through a lot of trouble for my weight.It depends on your will to lose these lbs. Try to "communicate" with your body. Don't be all or nothing. This is what keeps you back.. I know how hard a few things are. I was an all or nothing eater and still am but I'm trying to control it as much as I can. Try to control yourself slowly. You don't have to lose weight quickly. If you think "OH MY GOD I HAVE TO LOSE WEIGHT!!" you get anxious and never achieve anything. Start by drinking a lot of water. Then control the amount of food. Eat a small piece of chocolate instead of a bar. Prefer to drink a fresh juice and not another alcoohol drink. Slowly...Step by step you will reach the point you want. Don't panic!!