I'm proud of myself for losing 30 pounds already, but a little concerned that no one has mentioned anything about looking like I've lost. I didn't take measurements when I first started in January, but I KNOW that I've lost inches! I've dropped a pants size! So what's up? Why is everyone keeping encouragement from me? Are they afraid I'll get complacent and relapse if they praise me (I have yo-yo'd before)? I just don't know what gives... I'm starting to doubt my accomplishments... Has this ever happened to you?
EDIT: I'll have to try and dig up a picture near my starting weight and post it along with a current pic. Maybe my loss isn't translating to my appearance like I thought it was...
They say '1 month to feel it, 2 months to see it, 3 months for others to see it!'
How long have you been at it? It may be too gradual to notice? (like the same way I GAIN weight!)
Also, depending on how overweight you were to start with, people may not want to say anything for fear of insinuating you were overweight before!?!?!
Think of it as a good thing - people don't focus on your weight when they interact with you, you clearly must be memorable in other ways instead. :)
I guess those posts both make sense. Thanks for the replies. I'm grateful that my comrads here on CC keep cheering me on, so I guess I'll need to just lean on them and not care about the lack of support elsewhere.
i can totally relate. lost 27 pounds, two pants sizes - not a single word (apart from family who know abotu my diet and said something along the lines of it being visible. s). both from people who see me everyday, weekly, monthly... does not matter.
i am not doing it for them.
People who see you almost every day, like your co-workers, are not likely to notice. The change is too gradual. No of my co-workers has ever said a thing even though I have gone down two sizes. People who only see me once a month noticed though.
i understand the thing about people who see me daily, but it is weirder with ones who see me weekly or monthly. NO ONE. the first person to mention i look better gets a prize (i do not know what that will be though:-)))
i've lost almost 30 pounds over the past 9 months (i like the slow route). i've never done measurements, but i know my pants size has gone down.
regardless, only a few people i see regularly have noticed (namely, my mom). the other people who have said things are people like the woman at the bank, a friend's girlfriend who i've only met once or twice, the guy at the front desk at my condo building, one of my clients, etc.
but really, i've seen a shift in my confidence level regardless, and that is far more important than people noticing.
i understand about the confidence-it happened to me too.
the only thing i am careful with is not to wear too clingy clothes. i do not like them anyway, but just cannot forget some people who lost some of their pounds (but still were very overweight) who, because of the newly found confidence, started wearin really really tight clothes that were just looking strange on them )and that was an eufemism). hehe
I'm going through something similar right now....down 15 lbs (fluctuating but yeah, let's go with 15) and no one has noticed at work or parents or good friends. I made the mistake of announcing to a co-worker that I had lost this weight and I got a really critical eye, they really could not tell. I was deflated!
It took 30 pounds before anyone comments at work.
It's not because no one told you that they haven't notice. They might be shy to comment or don't know how you'll react if they mention you have lost weight.
If you lost a size or more, trust me, they noticed! If they haven't, they are blind :P
Hello, I have to ask are most of the people that you are hoping notice overweight themselves? My reason for this is because when I lost the bulk of my weight I found that folk around me didn't say anything for a while but then I started to get little snippy comments about how much I had lost!! for some reason my weight became an issue for them...I have sadly found that if they themselves need to lose weight but are not, they resent the fact that you have. Not very nice...why can't they just be happy for you...that's why I was so glad I found CC. So very well done on your loss, stay focused and all best wishes to you. LOOKING GOOD 
Original Post by ka2007:
i understand about the confidence-it happened to me too.
the only thing i am careful with is not to wear too clingy clothes. i do not like them anyway, but just cannot forget some people who lost some of their pounds (but still were very overweight) who, because of the newly found confidence, started wearin really really tight clothes that were just looking strange on them )and that was an eufemism). hehe
don't worry about me ka2007. i'm a baggy jeans and hoodie kinda gal, and I doubt that will change!
If its been a slow loss it might not be noticeable for some time by others. I lost weight and bout 2 lbs a week and after 25 lbs people I saw most often started to notice but they usually said something because it was coming off on my chins LOL I guess if you are losing in areas covered by clothing that is still big it might not be noticable I wouldn't wear tucked in clothes for months but once I started wearing tighter clothing more people noticed the losses.
Everyone at my doctor's office has noticed..but they are also wanting me to keep up with it so they are probably obligated to say something about weight loss hehe.
Family and friends say things like "You're going to blow away with the wind!". I dunno, that makes me feel good, i still want to lose 10-20 lbs. If they think I look good enough now to make that comment, then I shouldn't be so self conscious and think I still look heavy :)
I can relate, even though I haven't lost too much, most of my fat has turned to muscle and I feel like I've slimmed. My clothes are bigger, but no-one seemed to notice. I got my very first comment last night, and that was from one of my old teachers; not the first person I would guess.
I seem to get people complimenting me when I know Im my heaviest. And then, when I lose a few pounds, or many, no one wants to say anything. Most of my experience is women's jealousy and desire for me to "stay where im at" because I'm not a threat for them that way. I hope it isn't your case though! Keep working hard, don't get down, don't do it for others, but do it for yourself. Everytime you put those loose jeans on, CELEBRATE!!!
Congrats :)
I know that complements from others makes you feel good but i think you should keep in mind that you have done something not many people have the control and will power to do..you lost 30 pounds!!!! I think you should give yourself complements and little rewards along the way. For me those have been the most positive than anything else anyone has ever told me! Just keep your chin up and keep on keeping on with it! Just keep thinking to yourself "I am awesome!" and i think you will keep this up....hope this helps! Congrats!
i also wanted to say that i've also lost 30 pounds recently and (congrats!!).. i was wondering why people i see everyday have not noticed anything but then when i went home for spring break and saw my friend and boyfriend's mother whom i haven't seen since i started losing, they were the two people who truly noticed the difference.
this just shows that the people who see you everyday will eventually notice but since it is gradual, it probably wont be as noticeable to them unless they actually see a picture of how you looked before.
anyway, congrats on the weight loss! i know that for me, after losing 30 pounds, i feel so much better about myself and my appearance. i still have a ways to go but good luck to you on the rest of your journey!
Another thing to think about is that they may have noticed, but that sometimes it's an awkward thing to bring up. They might be worried about offending you by saying something, or just may not be sure you've lost. Weight is a sensitive issue for a lot of people.
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