I hate diet sabotagers

What's with these people? They know you're on a diet so they seem to do everything in their power to get you to break. Or theyre just plain negative about your eating choices, claiming you don't eat enough etc etc, you know who these people are, they can even be the one's closest to us, so why do they want to hurt us by trying to make us make unhealthy decisions???

Jealousy, jealousy, and more jealousy.  Add a touch of guilt for their realization that, if you can turn your health around, so could they with a little willpower.

hate it

hate it

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 SOUND just like my grandma and my mom and allllllll of my friends and even my dad. i doubt there is anyone around me that isnt a bad influence...................even telling me i look to skinny wont change my mind.. that stuff used to work but now i just get annoyed and end up fussing at them  : /

I agree... it's jealousy.

The same thing happened when I quit smoking.  All my smoking friends were constantly offering me cigarettes.  It may have been unconscious on their part, but I don't think they wanted someone else to be able to do something they couldn't, you know?

Sometimes, our loved ones can be the worst.  My boyfriend, for one, has a tendency to show his affection with treats.  We've both gained a little weight since we've been together, and I think he worries that if I lose some and he doesn't, somehow I won't be as attracted to him or like him as much.

 It's all weird.  Just keep up the good work and do what you need to do for you!

Pshaw, they're just jealous.

My mom (unfortunately) is like that. Crazy woman

I don't think it's jealousy in my case. My mom was right about me needing to eat more. I didn't loose weight the healthy way, so she was just trying to protect me.

But I do hate it that when I'm full and she still tries to make me eat more.

you just have to learn how to ignore it. i get really defensive when someone even gives my food a "look" at home. then they get mad and they don't realize they made me that way from criticizing me so much in the beginning.

I hate it too. I'd been getting it so much from my parents, my friends and my sister that during the first week of school when a slightly overweight girl told me to eat more, I snapped back "Eat LESS!"

of course I was totally guilty about it later. but seriously, the pressure gets to you. 

vmcbutterfly--yeah, I'm really defensive about it too. I'm getting to the point where I don't even want to eat in front of anyone, even though it'd be better if I DID because they seem to think I'm not eating enough. 

where do they get off? we're the people doing the measuring and calculating and making sure our bodies consume the proper amount of calories and of not just anything but foods that do the body good. They act like we're the weird ones! HA!

I know exactly what you mean.  Every time I go home on break, I hear, "you're too skinny," or "we've got to put some weight back on you before you leave."  ...As if it is their decision how much I should weigh.  I think it's jealousy mixed with shame.  They see the work you are putting towards making yourself healthier, and they know that they could do the same, but choose not to.  So they try to bring you down (or rather, back up) to their level.

The other day one of my co-workers saw my lunch bag in the frig and said 'gosh, Brig, for someone who says she's on a diet you sure bring a lot of food'.  I told her she was absolutely correct, that I was trying to eat something every couple hours so I wouldn't binge later in the day, and that I knew exactly how many calories were in that lunch bag.  This is a girl who carries nothing but bags of candy in her backpack, eats cheese fries daily, and complains how much weight she has gained.  And to top off her remark she kept taking chocolate out of her pocket all day long waving it in my face saying  'come on Brig, it's chocolate, you know you want some'.  Royally pissed me off.  I wouldn't have taken a piece of chocolate if I was hormonal or if my life depended on it.  (well, at least not in front of her, lol).  I've decided to not only to get healthy and at a better weight for myself, but also out of revenge and spite, lol.  Gonna use her as a motivational tool.

I've always thought revenge was a great motivational tool.

With me, it's my MIL. The woman is just plain vindictive. When I tell her I don't eat sweets, she goes out of her way to bake brownies, even though she hasn't baked brownies in six months.

My husband FLIPS OUT when she does this. He wants me to lose weight more than anyone else and he almost yells at her. "Mom, are you crazy. She doesn't need that!" LOL

I think she WANTS me to get fat so he'll leave me. Of course he's not that shallow but when we met I was a size 4 and I went to a size 12/14. I've lost 15 pounds and I'm a size 8 but I have about 15 more pounds to go!

...the only person that can sabotage your diet is you!

panda- I know too well about the brownies! One of my friends asked to come over and use MY oven to bake brownies! Now this friend actually works out with me once in a while and knows how hard I've been working---she's been slacking lately and I think that's why she keeps offering me fattening treats. Geez! (oh yeah--I told her no thank you!:)

What is with people today?! I've been bombarded with hamburgers, french fries (the good, greasy kind with the skins still on from a local joint), ice cream and milk shakes!!! BUT I've managed to "Just say no!" That's a big improvement for me! ; )

I totally hear you.  Or when people say, "Why are you on a diet?  You're fine!" and I know they mean well, but they are really messing with my mind, which is already struggling to begin with.  I have to say to them, "thank you," but to myself "no, I'm not fine, I can't bend over because my gut is too big!" 

Big mind games.   

funny - just yesterday a co-worker sent out an email that she brought in chocolate cake and to come get some if we want some. I thought NOT coming over and getting some would signal that I'm not interested. So, when I didn't get some, she came right over to my desk and actually TOLD me to get some. I said no, that I was on my way to the gym and didn't want to ruin my efforts.

Would you believe that she cut my a piece (a big one at that) and left it on my desk for when I got back fromt he gym!!!!!

I gave it right back to her and said I'm not eating it. All this nonsense and she KNOWS I'm trying to lose weight!!!!!

Very odd behavior if you ask me!

I think for me it's that my being athletic runs counter to my parents expectations.  My dad thinks I need to just lose weight by dieting, and he doesn't understand my weight training and cycling.  Especially cycling.  He's completely afraid that I'm going to get hit by a car or whatever.  And he's actually gone so far as to ask if my cycling will keep me from having a baby!  Sheesh.

But yeah, it seems like people like to make snide little remarks when I politely decline that donut at work or excuse myself from going out for dessert.