I hate rude comments!

This morning I woke up, and was feeling realitivly good about myself, I weighed one pound less than the week before and I was excited to start my day.

Around lunch time I got up to go get my brown paper lunch sack and sit down and eat the sandwich I had packed. As I was walking towards a table to sit down at I couldn't help but over hear two men talking behind me, and I felt extremely discouraged as I heard one say, "Haven't you noticed all the fat people have brown lunch sacks?"

I feel as though this was a very rude comment to say, especially since he said it loud enough for me to hear. I usually don't care what other people say, or think for that matter, but I've been feeling especially hurt by this. Ugh, I'm so angry at the moment I just want to punch him! Has a similar expereince ever happened to you guys?

when I was in my teens, I was at my grandmother's house and as I reached into the fridge for a soda she said "you know, if you drank more water you'd lose that weight".

Learning to ignor people is tough.  As  a man, I don't get my feelings hurt  too much by other people.  Sure thing s get to me but a comment like that  would just give me more fuel when on  the treadmill or lifting weights at the gym... or maybe it would push  me more at the track to power walk th at extra lap, or mile, or whatever.

There are a lot of negative creeps out  there.   Not just men, women can be  even more brutal because they are all  too aware of what really hurts and w hy focus on their own problems when th ey can point out others.

So chin up... grow some thicker skin... and if they really get to you learn to spit in their faces or carry a water gun (neon colored so no one freeks) or something.   Or heck, find somewhere nicer to eat lunch.

He is selfconscience of his own short comings, so it makes him feel better to make fun of others.  He obviously has a very small pp. 

wow, how friggin ignorant. 

ive been called fat before too. not fun.  especially when its from a drunk family member.  not fun at all.

douchebags. 

congrats on the 1lb!  keep it up!  you know you are working hard to lose the weight, dont let any dumb jerk get you down.  they'll all be regretting it later when you turn down the dates. =)

the irony of my story is that all through school i was the fat sister. i have 2 old sisters.  One was the beauty the other was tall and athletic could eat and never gained anything. 

now in our 20'S and 30's i am the smallest.  but we dont put each other down any more we are trying to encourage.  since medical reason   were the reason for the weight gains.  mine just went undetected during high school. 

 it does not matter what others thing  take a lesson from FLY LADY learn to FLY......... FULLY LOVING YOURSELF

haha same here! I bring my own whole wheat sandwich to work everyday, and my coworkers think dieting is stupid because "they can eat whatever they want and don't gain a pound". They are not mean to me but they somehow imply that I am not losing any...but I am!

 Yesterday I ate the sandwich and later I had a low fat yogurt, one girl passed by and said "you're eating AGAIN?" She didn't say it in a rude way but I felt terrible and offended. And in the fact that she's pregnant I don't see why eating a yogurt is such a big deal in her eyes?

Gomui -

That is ridiculous!

You actually lose more weight if you eat every few hours because it keeps your metabolism going! Keep up the good work!

Besides, it's not like you were digging into a chocolate cake, it was a yogurt!!!

Seriously, just ignore those ppl...they seem ignorant and annoying!

All I have to say is screw that guy....

He had no right to say that.

He's just mad 'cuz he can't get laid, or, if he can, his thingy is small...  That's my theory and i'm sticking to it...

Just last night my friend and I were at a bar. My friend is a friend of the bar owner but hadn't been around for a while. The owner hugs her and the first thing out of this mouth was...wow you've gotten bigger...you used to be like this (and held up his pinkie finger). Later in the night he referenced his remarked a couple of times. In my head I'm thinking who does that??? 

People are plain terrible.  I work in an office, and have to at times walk through a shop full of men.  The other day I walked through, and as I was leaving I heard "Damn, she's got a big ass!". 

They always know the exact wrong time to say these things too.  This was just at the end of my 1st week back at CC.com, and my 1st week after starting to exercise. 

Jerks.

Someone who knew me throughout childhood said to me once while sitting across from me at the lunch table "You used to be so cute. What happened?" And she was completely serious.

Now, I'll be sitting with a group of friends and we'll see someone heavy go by...or I'll be sitting with people in class and they'll see someone larger than they are....and they make a snarky comment about how fat they are...or they'll see someone large that has a significant other with them and make remarks about how they don't understand how anyone can like that...

AND I'M SITTING RIGHT THERE WITH THEM. Some people just don't think about the things that come out of their mouths.

oh man....if that crap happened to me at work...someone would be tattled on and get to be a written warning or fired.

personal comments are not permitted in the workplace. especially when they are about the body.

thats crap and you dont have to put up with it. and i KNOW People do that crap on purpose for whatever reason? maybe they want punched in the face or fired? i dont know...

Rememeber....you're doing this for you. It doesn't matter what that jerk thinks (think is too strong a work, evidently, he doesn't).

I think most of us have been there. Why is it (most anyway) people wouldnt dream of saying a comment outloud like about a mentally challenged or handicapped person, but have no problme saying it about someone who is overweight?

DONT let it bother you! Youre doing good and by letting them see you upset you have let them win. Easier said than done sometimes, trust me, I know. I have a grandmother like that. She has made several hurtful comments about me, the worst being about my wedding pictures. It hurt my feelings big time. I thought I looked like a beautiful bride, not a skinny bride, but beautiful nonetheless. She said mean things to my mom, even going so far as pulling out a scale when my mom was younger so the relatives could see how "fat she was".  She at one point told my mom she was embarrassed to be seen with her because she was so heavy. How could you say that to your child?? I asked my mom one time if she felt that way about me...and this is one of the reasons I love my mom and she is my best friend...she said "no matter what you weigh you are a smart, beautiful, loving, funny person. How could I ever be ashamed of that?" =)

Personally, as bad as it sounds...I havent seen my grandma since my wedding. The last thing I need is someone making me feel bad or ashamed. I can do that myself...and Im trying hard to stop it, so why let her?

Keep up the good work lemonade6...dont ever let anyone bring you down!

Last summer, my husband bought me the puppy I'd been talking about for 3 years.  (I started talking about kids :):)) So, since I live just a few min. from Lake Michigan, I decided to get some exercise and take my new puppy to the beach for some sand and fresh air.

As I'm walking down to the beach a large group of teenagers walks by (I'm only 25 guys - I'm not that much older than these kids) and one girl says, rather loudly, mindyou, "Why is it all the fat people have little dogs?".  That was enough to ruin my fun at the beach - I used to love going to the beach and hanging out.

Now, I don't even want to go to the beach anymore. *thinking "stupid friggin kids!"*

It shocks me how many people have family members that are as rude as strangers!  I am lucky to have a supportive and loving family.  I have encountered comments from other people, but I would never dream of hearing my mother or grandmother or anyone else I love say a negative word to me about how I look.  Amazing!

I have to tell you, just the other day my ex husband had the nerve to say "Hey did you know your truck leans to the left when you ride down the road?" I replied "No but thanks for telling me, I guess thats what happens when you havent had a smoke in several months!" That made me mad..........he still smokes two packs a day.

When I was a kid my grandma used to tell me all the time 'If you eat that cookie you're not going to be able to fit through the door in a few years" and so I would hide and eat my food instead (hence why I got so huge in the first place).

Then about a year ago, I saw my dad for the first time in forever, and he saw me and said "you know you're getting pretty fat, you should do something about that."  I just got totallly quiet and my mom just about flipped out and killed the guy.  My dad is mentally ill so his brain processes like a 10 year olds.. if that.. so hes just speaking his mind and the truth.

But boy did it make me go home and cry.

This guy may be the one to fall all over himself trying to get to you, when all the weight is gone! Wouldn't that be rich?!

Luckily tgbrown, my grandmother is the only one like that in my family. Sad though that I have to say luckily. Everyone ele is very supportive. My brother is coming to visit just so he can show me some of the weight/gym routines he uses. My mom when I went to visit her this weekend made sure she had penty of healthy stuff on hand for me to eat and even decided not to make the meal she had planned on, so I wouldnt be tempted to go overboard. And my hubby and son get upset if I call myself fat. AND my picky eater hubby is ok with and willing to eat the way Im eating now...letting me switch out ground beef with ground turkey, switch to whole wheat pastas and brown rice etc. He has the great attitude that whatever I need to do to help myself get healthy and lose weight he's with me 110% =)