What We Hate About Being Skinny.

Okay so this is for anorexics and bulimics - current ones or recovering ones or recovered ones.

Let's think of all of the reasons why being thin SUCKS.

And when I say thin, I don't mean weighing 120 at 5'4" and 16 years old - that's healthy.  I'm talking like 102 pounds, 5'5" and 16 years old - that's me.

I'll start:

-I'm always cold
-I haven't gotten my period since April
-I'm naturally very clumsy and when I trip over my shoes at school, everyone flocks to me thinking that i fainted because I'm so frail looking
-I buy size 0 pants and they still hang off of me in possibly the most unattractive way ever
-RIP my perfect 36 Cs
-I used to be able to win in arm wrestling
-People hug me and say "Oh my God - are those your bones?!"


Pfft - why would anyone want to be this skinny?

There's a similar thread this this already in the Weight Gain forum, stickied there, called What Do You Wish To Gain? 

No energy! And always being worried about food! And having your family calling you "underweight"- it's depressing!

Sitting on hard surfaces hurts =[

is this post for real?

seriously?

if you dont like these symptoms - change the behaviors.

i rarely see people who are overweight making a list complaining about their self pities. rather they are motivated to change. this post could potentially get up many ppl's noses. you dont wanna be cold? eat more. yo dont want ur pelvic bones digging into benches? eat more.

seriously i am a sufferer of an ed too, but this post is OUT of ORDER. you dont like it-change it and dont sit and moan about it.

i second FIDGET's post

It help's some people to vent, so what? How do you know they arn't changing? Do you know them personally? I didn't think so.

Original Post by fidget84:

if you dont like these symptoms - change the behaviors.

i rarely see people who are overweight making a list complaining about their self pities. rather they are motivated to change. this post could potentially get up many ppl's noses. you dont wanna be cold? eat more. yo dont want ur pelvic bones digging into benches? eat more.

seriously i am a sufferer of an ed too, but this post is OUT of ORDER. you dont like it-change it and dont sit and moan about it.

I think that's the point.  It's motivation for gaining.  It helps me to remember all of the bad things that come with an ED, that way I'll feel more motivated to work my way out of it.  It's not just mindless complaining.

Original Post by okgo:

Original Post by fidget84:

if you dont like these symptoms - change the behaviors.

i rarely see people who are overweight making a list complaining about their self pities. rather they are motivated to change. this post could potentially get up many ppl's noses. you dont wanna be cold? eat more. yo dont want ur pelvic bones digging into benches? eat more.

seriously i am a sufferer of an ed too, but this post is OUT of ORDER. you dont like it-change it and dont sit and moan about it.

I think that's the point.  It's motivation for gaining.  It helps me to remember all of the bad things that come with an ED, that way I'll feel more motivated to work my way out of it.  It's not just mindless complaining.

Exactly.

It works for motivation and I think its fine to have it here. Plus, its stickied on the weight gain forum...moderators are ones to be concerned about things like these, and if they agree on this being ok, why should anyone be annoyed? Ignore any other remarks, and post your replies.

What I dont like is not being able to enjoy suprise dinners with my boyfriend fully like before.

Im working on it, and I am getting better, but it still sucks!

see bananee there you go again pushing your weight around.

i am entitled to pass any remark that i so please and you can butt out by telling people to ignore the remarks i pass or others may pass. there you go again telling anyone who doesnt make a comment that YOU dont like that they are in the wrong.

you are right tho. the bloody topic IS posted in the weight gain forum-an appropriate place for this topic. this site (i repeat) is not a support site for eating disorders and it may piss many people who are here for reasons of health etc trying to lose weight-to see people moaning about "the reasons we hate being thin". sometimes i cannot believe how introspective we are, and how self oriented we are as eating disorder sufferers.

people who are overweight arent posting this sort of stuff. everyone knows it sucks to be over or under weight. but for God sake move past the self pity and post perhaps about the things you look forward to doing when healthy and recovered instead of "waah waaah oooh my bum is sore and im sooo cold, and oooh im so sad i cant eat dinner with my boyfriend".

yes you can, yes you can be warm and yes there is a possibility of having sufficient covering on your bones. but the way the posts are going up, one would think that some outside source was responsible for these ailments.

so STOP moaning about it. go to the bloody weight gain forum if you want to moan about it.

Fidget - GET OVER IT! There are similar threads on the weight loss side too.  (http://caloriecount.about.com/silly-things-mo tivate-ft118661) If you don't want to read this then DON"T!! I pop onto the weight gain threads sometimes to remind myself that there is another side of the weight issue than mine.

wow, figet, that was a little harsh...

Support, support, support - that is why we are here. oxymoron can get blasted at home/school/on the street by strangers. I thought this was supposed to be a welcoming place.

Frankly, I think it's very healthy for oxymoron to start exploring and expressing her experience as an underweight person. Becoming conscious and aware of one's situation is the very first step to making changes - don't you think?

Of course, you have your right to your opinion, but I don't think you are going to get majority agreement on your statement: "this site (i repeat) is not a support site for eating disorders and it may piss many people who are here for reasons of health etc trying to lose weight-to see people moaning about "the reasons we hate being thin"".

As it happens, knowing that there are so many folks out there with a wide range of eating/self-image issues has been extremely helpful for my own weight loss.

My heart goes out to everyone who needs/wants to loose or to gain. We are all in the same boat but with our own private experiences ... so, support, support support... at least that is what I am here for and here to do.

I'll add a couple of bummers about being overweight: when your shorts stick so far out (due to your tummy) that they don't touch your thighs.

and, my favorite :( - the noise your pants make when your big thighs are rubbing together... I feel like everyone is looking at me like "hey, what is that NOISE" :)

I think fidget just needs to work on her people skills.


Anyway!

Main thing; I'm cold! I hate it... no matter how much I eat and how still I stay.. I've only gained muscle mass. =/ I'm starting to look like a mini bodybuilder! But.. at least I have substance to me, right? Right? Urg...

Don't you wish you could go over to the weight loss forum and steal someone's fat? I bet they'd be happy, too! =D

Hi wistfulxthinking:

How much fat would you like? I have 38 extra pounds... :)

I have an extra 20 that I could donate to your cause, even 10 would put me in my healthy bracket without losing muscle.

BTW, I have noticed that hard benches are significantly more uncomfortable than they were when I was 30 lbs heavier so it's true even when you're not underweight.  Bring a cushion and take 10 of my lbs.

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ok, fine, maybe good motivation to change, but what are you DOING about it???

what changes are you making??  are they working?? have you gained?  if not, then you need to do more!

EDIT:

you know what? Im just gonna chose to ignore you fidget, its not worth my time.

I agree with everyone else as well.

 we're here because of support and I think we should stick to that ;)

changes are being made even when they're not said here....this is just the motivation part....gaining is a process, it takes time to get there healthily, so motivation along the way is what keeps the gaining going on, and keeps us strong.

dont worry changes are being made :) and changes will keep getting made

-xo

Original Post by onmywayto120:

wow, figet, that was a little harsh...

Support, support, support - that is why we are here. oxymoron can get blasted at home/school/on the street by strangers. I thought this was supposed to be a welcoming place.

Frankly, I think it's very healthy for oxymoron to start exploring and expressing her experience as an underweight person. Becoming conscious and aware of one's situation is the very first step to making changes - don't you think?

Of course, you have your right to your opinion, but I don't think you are going to get majority agreement on your statement: "this site (i repeat) is not a support site for eating disorders and it may piss many people who are here for reasons of health etc trying to lose weight-to see people moaning about "the reasons we hate being thin"".

As it happens, knowing that there are so many folks out there with a wide range of eating/self-image issues has been extremely helpful for my own weight loss.

My heart goes out to everyone who needs/wants to loose or to gain. We are all in the same boat but with our own private experiences ... so, support, support support... at least that is what I am here for and here to do.

:) I second this

oh and wistful! envy much? haha Id love to gain all my weight in more muscle than fat.

I dont have fat to give you but Id love to have more muscle :(

All I can say to fidget is...It's obvious these posts irritate you and why you chose to come into them and read them is beyond me. It seems lately you have just been miserable and reading these posts irritate you more so you come on here and have something to whine yourself about. You may suggest these women/men get over this disease by doing simple this and that well my suggestion to you so you yourself can stop complaining is just DO NOT READ THESE KIND OF POSTS if you know they will upset you.

i dont suggest that anyone "gets over it". but you know why im so miserable lately. Im actually sickened and saddened that there are so many of us repeatidly falling into the same trap. yeah i have crap going on in my life-heavy stuff (if you pardon the pun).

i dont condone misery behaviour-mostly because i got nowhere doin it myself. and i also choose not to enable people. again because it helpd me NONE. you know what: if these people are genuinely makn strides each day to further themselves i absolutely absolutely support them 100%. but the way i read the first few posts was "i hate living this way. FULL STOP" and the way i feel about that is : if you dont want to live like that - stop living like that.

i also take offense at someone saying i need to develop people skills. I would have considered myself a warm, and hugely genuine person. with compassion and sincere hope for everyone suffering. i am a good person and i dont need anyone on the "supportive" site telling me i am not.

a friend of mine died recently (the second in a short space of time). she struggled with food and self harm. she would sit in tears looking at her scars, like the girls above feeling the cold and hard benches.. she hated that she did this to herself. i wanted to scream at her - if she hated it why did she continue to do it. another part of me wantd to hold her and tell her it would pass and that she would be ok. she wasnt ok. she hanged herself.

i dont feel like giving that part of my heart out at the moment-the part that tells the girls it will be ok. i just want them to hate what they are doing-and decide to change it. i dont want them to just sit there crying about their scars.

i wont post on anymore of these ok

I definitely don't need to gain, I am 130 lbs overweight and I just wanted to pop in and say that this thread is not in the least bit offensive to me and that there are, indeed, many threads just like this on the other side where we similarly post the things will will not miss when we lose the weight. I think it is very beneficial and motivating to share your thoughts on threads like this one. I think the underweight and the overweight share many of the same issues, we are two sides of the same coin. Good luck to you all!