i HATE that skinny girl so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

So here i am 5'2 working my ass off at the gym and eating right weighing in at 111 lbs, and still no six pack.  ok back on track, there is this co-worker of mine who thinks she is just so awesome.  Showing off her sixpack at work she has suddenly lost a bit of weight.  So i asked wow, what are you doing exercising, no response she just changed the subject and then walked away.  Well with a grin on my face but still feeling crappy inside i know the truth about how she is doing it, well lets see her past includes doing cocaine and other such drugs.  So here it is a rant about how i hate her showing off her stomach "at work" no less.  Why do i feel so crappy knowing that i am doing it the right and decent way.   Anyone else encounter these annoying F!@#$%^&g people in their lives you just want to grrrrrrrrr.   ok thankyou for letting me vent.  i'll post a new picture soon.

do i detect a small amount of jealousy here? tbh, if i had a six pack id probably do the same. and lets be honest, wouldn't you?

so she got there first, big deal! if she's done it unhealthily, then i very much doubt it will stick around long, and by that time your sixpack will be awesome whilst hers disappears under fat again! look on the bright side, you have your health and your money intact. and you'll feel so rewarded with yours - something she'll never know or feel! :)

I think I know a bit about how you feel on this. I've not had the same thoughts but I have seen people who are thinner eat crappily, not exercise much, not exercise as hard and maintain a slimmer look than I do. It can be frustrating. The difference is that we don't know their own thoughts and feelings. You don't know how this person actually manages to achieve their look, what sort of physical condition their body is in. These are tough things to credit healthy eating with because only you can ever truly know the benefits and feel the differences. Someone else can tell you they feel good but can you ever know if their good is as good as your good? I think you just have to sit back, let those people's comments and actions roll off of you, don't react to their cries for attention negatively and just enjoy how you feel. In the end the competition with them is just in our minds. No one will come up to you and say - (in a British accent) "You there.... Elaine...911 is it? I say, let me see your abs today.... (pokes and prods your abs) My my elaine911, this won't do at all! Your coworker Jane Doe over there has a six pack and you don't? You're working on it you say? Pish posh. This will never do. I shall look down my nose at you madame and say Good day! (storms off in a British manner of storming off)".

Also, I think it never hurts to get the point out that everyone finds different things attractive. Not everyone finds a 6 pack attractive, and while it is a nice fitness goal, if you're even close to a 6 pack I'm already ridiculously impressed. Keep up the good work! If you try long enough you'll make it.

rofl at the english strop! nice effort and spot on!

thank you for the replys.  I know this is just a childish jealousy thing.  I have always been very competitive having all my cousins being boys.  i was such a tomboy growing up.  I do feel great inside and outside.  And my guess is she couldn't do 1/4 of my workout without passing out.   I am very close to a six pack, just a little tiny bit of fat covering it up right now.  I have also been learning to kitesurf so i want to look and feel my best when i am walking my board & kite past all those lazy beached people/girls giving me dirty looks.  I guess this thing is all about confidence that I want now, since i never had any growing up.

I used to have almost a full six pack and I can honestly say, i would take advantage of every chance I had to get my shirt off.  So yeah, I can understand where that girl is coming from.  If its from drug addiction and the associated weight loss, that is sort of sad.  I at least got mine from running and soccer.  Went away as I gained weight during college, but it is my goal to get em back!  Don't be jealous of that girl.  Just keep your goals in mind and don't worry about external factors like that.  I work my ass off every day to get back into the shape I want to be.  Progress is slow (very slow) but steady.  But if I look at one of those muscle magazines, I feel like a scrawny and weak little punk.  Had I not looked at that magazine, I feel much better about myself knowing that I am making progress and working toward my goal.  So, moral of the story is don't let things like that get to you.  As long as you stick with your plan and work toward your goal, you can get the same.  Don't let it get to you.

Elaine911, it sounds as though you're doing really well managing your health, and I congratulate you!  I know what you mean about trying to make up for a lack of confidence in one's youth, and I think it's very important to remember that you're happy with your routine and all the hard work you've done to get where you are.  You have a lot of support here on the boards, and, I hope, from your friends and family!

be thankful you are 111.. I am 5'2'' and would loveeeeeeeee to be 111, six pack or not.

don't waste your time on her. it's that simple.  if she did it the way you think she did, even more reason to ignore her.

Where do you work that this girl can walk around showing off her six pack?!

Try to not let it get to you. Honestly, If i had one I'd probably call more attention to them, heh. and also, she might have a serious problem with drugs. Cocaine is evil, and has a very strong hold on people, been there done that. Hate is a really strong word, and I think you're confusing it with jealousy.

I hate to break it to you, but rumors of her past use of the nose candy don't necessarily have anything to do with her losing weight and toning up now. It's just as possible she didn't feel comfortable talking about her routines with you, and, frankly, I know a few users who are downright pudgy.

But, yes, I'm with you in your hate. Grrr.

I've had a six-pack for 18 years and have never once displayed it at work. That's truly unprofessional, if you ask me. Of course, I suppose it depends on what job you have. If you're working at Hooters....

But then I generally don't show my six-pack off period. For me, being muscular is about being fit and healthy. I'm not looking to bare it all to the world.

As to the other, never compare yourself to other people, whether they are going about losing weight the right or wrong way. That way madness lies. Comparing myself to other people is what made me stop eating for half a year when I was seventeen—and already thin, but too screwed up to know it.

Also, snap judgments and jealousy don't do anyone any good, either. And worse, carrying around that kind of animosity can in fact be bad for your health and whole perspective on life. Just be healthy and fit and proud of that accomplishment.

Oh man, kitesurfing?? Now I'M jealous. That looks like so much fun! And those boys that do it are r-i-p-p-e-d.

I don't think you can do it on Lake Michigan, though, so you'll have to enjoy it for me.

I know how you feel . . . it's so infuriating isn't it?

In the future her life will probably be all f**ked up from taking drugs and you will be happy and healthy and skinny. 

This has happened to me so many times that the people I am jealous of for taking shortcuts when I'm plugging along "the right way", end up reaping the worst rewards and I end up doing great.  I feel a little "revenged", but mostly I feel sad and I feel terrible for ever feeling jealous of them in the first place.

So keep on what you are doing . . . it sounds like you will have a 6 pack in due time.  And you might as well start feeling sorry for your co-worker now . . . it will happen soon enough. 

a) past drug problems don't indicate current drug problems

b) No amount of cocaine is ever going to give someone a 6 pack. Ever.

111 lbs at 5'2" IS skinny...there's no reason to be jealous. I imagine that you look great. I'm 5'2" and 150 lbs, I would kill (and so would a lot of other women) to be your size.

elaine911, i think you should post a recent pic as if i'm correct and that pic is last year and your more toned/ lighter now, i really cant understand why you give a monkies about this girl. keep the hard work up, I'm only starting on the long road now and your rant was a good kick start. enjoy the beach  

Isn't it wonderful that you are a unique special human being and don't need to compare yourself to anyone.  Enjoy your success and don't worry about someone else.  Be careful, it almost sounds like your weight loss and body shaping is not making your happy.  I worked hard to loose my weight, working out etc and I looked good.  My EA got hers for $10K by having her fat sucked out.  Her abs were certainly better than  mine, but my $10k was drawing interest. 

Actually they do kitesurf lake michigan go to you tube and check out the videos.  You guys are such a great support .  I am so glad there are people that understand what this feels like.  It just seems so odd that if someone ccompliments me on how i look lately with my little muscles popping out here and there, if she is in the vicinity not ten minutes later she is lifting her shirt showing off her abs.  It's actually kinda funny how it happens just minutes later of her getting an earful.  Ok, i don't hate her it is a bit of jealousy but it does make me work out or run that extra mile when i am at the gym, a little extra motivation i guess.  But I am doing it the right way!!!!!  and there is no other way to do it in my eyes.