Hating your skinny friend for being skinny

Why do I do that? Why is it that when you see your friend who is skinny, you can't help but hate them a little for it?

I just saw my friend yesterday, who has lost more weight (she was already skinny). And I want to be skinny like her!!!

Anyone else feel the same way???

I don't really hate her BTW, just extremely jealous of her weight and self control!!!

i know how you feel. i have a friend who is 5'6'' and about 105 lbs. she's really thin, and everybody talks about it allll the time- and i get soo jealous. i'm 5'8'' and 120ish lbs, so the ratio is about the same, but she has such a small frame she's a size 0 when i'm a 2 (or 3 depending on size)

but she eats ALL the time. its so unfair!

i don't hate my friends for being skinny, i just really wish i could look that way.

I grew out of that years ago... what I find hard is dealing with what I call the 'beautiful people' - Not necessarily the thinnest supermodel types. They're the ones who seem to have everything come so easily to them. They look attractive and well-dressed, they're happily married, they have beautiful healthy kids, a nice house, lots of money etc etc. I know it's petty to be jealous of them so I have to try hard NOT to.

Well, of course I don't hate her for real. I love her to death.

 And lighterrose, I can't believe your friend is 105! I am 5'6" and the smallest I can ever get is 130, which is really skinny for me. Maybe some day....

I do agree with you kajikit, the beautiful people is a hard one too. BUT, there is something about being skinny that I find myself obsessing more about. Maybe one day I will get over it, how did you???

Yea, I hate my rommate herman. he only 9 pound black kat. I 17.6 pound.

My best friend is truly one of those disgusting people who can eat whatever she wants and has trouble keeping weight ON. Her BMI hovers between 17 and 18 and she has always been that way. I know these kind of people are rumored to just be a folk lore, but she is the real deal. She's 31 years old and seriously eats whatever her heart desires and is a stick. She can even wear ugly clothes because everything looks good on her.

I say all this as her good friend, I do love her and she knows that I am not trying to be a b*tch or insult her, I do tease her about it though, I call her "Tape Worm Girl".  Honestly I find it hard not to be irritated with this...I hate how I have to go through hours of mental trauma every day about what I will or won't eat/ what I ate and wish I hadn't/ what I want to eat but can't/ my fat-jeans getting tight.

I know, I hate how so much of my time is spent on calculating calories and stressing out about how I want to be able to wear whatever I want.

yeaaaaah, smmca- she's model skinny. you can see her hip bones through her JEANS. i'm so jealous ><

She sounds unhealthy to the point of anorexia. I wouldn't bother to be jealous, I would be asking if she needs to get professional help for her disorder (at least for lighterrose's friend, whose BMI is only 16 and probably doesn't get her period anymore).

I absolutely agree with you, ainedb. When your BMI is way too low, and you can see your hip bones through your jeans, there may be a definite problem. But I can really relate to your jealousy smmca. My best friend is naturally very thin, looks great in anything she chooses to wear, and has self-confidence that shines like a sunny day. It's the confidence that she exudes that I am really most envious of. And to make matters worse, all HER friends are tiny, itty bitty too. But I love her like she is my sister, and I just count my blessings that she is not actually my sister, because I would have most certainly gotten the crappy end of the gene pool.

 

I used to be that friend who could eat everything and stay skinny... don't worry, metabolism catches up to almost everyone!

Oh yes, I think everyone has 'That friend'... My best friend is the same height as me, but 20lb lighter, and she's just embarked on a diet so that, in her own words, 'I can weigh less than Kate Moss' - she's 5'8, and desperate to be a model. She's pretty enough too, but she's said to me her GW is 7 stone (98lbs) which I've told her is unhealthy, but as usual she wont listen to me...

Years ago after losing a ton of weight, a coworker told me everyone was amazed but my weight loss and that they all hated me for it.  She was being funny but also trying to pay me what can be deemed the ulimate compliment. 

No what we're talking about here is envy and its one of the deadly sins.  Im thinking though it can be balanced out with the three virtues:
FAITH - that we'll lose the weight too 
HOPE - that they find it ;)
LOVE -  that justice prevails
Course this normally lead to another deadly sin, pride - such a vicious cycle.

I remember when everyone had a talk show and guests would come on becuase theyre friends though they wore too little clothes.  I'd think, yeah they dont need to be showing all that.  Sometimes one would tell the host they lost a ton of weight and I'd think, you go girl! Yes, I see the double standard but certain rights just seem to be earned.  Its hard to hate those who've worked so hard to be where they are.  That is, when theyre not thinner then you ;P

lighterrose: if you are 5'8 and 120 "ish.," I GUARANTEE people talk about you too. You just are not around to hear it. sun123, nicely said.

Original Post by catherinerich:

My best friend is truly one of those disgusting people who can eat whatever she wants and has trouble keeping weight ON. Her BMI hovers between 17 and 18 and she has always been that way. I know these kind of people are rumored to just be a folk lore, but she is the real deal. She's 31 years old and seriously eats whatever her heart desires and is a stick. She can even wear ugly clothes because everything looks good on her.

I say all this as her good friend, I do love her and she knows that I am not trying to be a b*tch or insult her, I do tease her about it though, I call her "Tape Worm Girl".  Honestly I find it hard not to be irritated with this...I hate how I have to go through hours of mental trauma every day about what I will or won't eat/ what I ate and wish I hadn't/ what I want to eat but can't/ my fat-jeans getting tight.

See, you said that everything looks good on her, but it's weird, super skinny people like that have never seemed attractive to me.  I think women with hips and curves look way more attractive than the ones that still look trapped in a 10 year olds body, lol...

One of my best friends is GORGEOUS (ack, even my boyfriend commented on it! - lol in a totally innocent way, yet it still struck me with absurd jealousy, of course)... She's probably about a size 6 and has what she jokingly calls "perfect baby-making hips", and is a C-cup... and she can eat like a teenage boy!  She's not athletic at all, and rarely works out... she's just blessed with those perfect, God-given curves and sometimes I am just torn to pieces with jealousy... but she is a doll and I am so glad we are friends and when I get twinges of the green eyed monster, I just remember how good she has always been to me.

But I know what you're talking about, catherinerich.   But I honestly do not envy the girls who have trouble keeping weight on... they struggle with their health as much as we do.  I knew a girl in high school that would eat 3 huge meals a day, supplement 2 of them with Boost high-calorie shakes, and wouldn't gain a lb.  She hated it and wanted more than anything just to go up another size or 2.

I just try to remember that we all have our problems and challenges to face in life.  It's silly to be jealous of someone else, especially a friend that cares about you, because we never know what other cards God has dealt them.

see i dont understand that... if i ever was a size 6 i wouldnt leave my house i dont get how people find that attractive at all

my friend at ballet is about 5'6 and 104 pounds. and she eats a bowl of ice cream every night :P