Healthy weight for 5'2"? - DeMURE UPDATE

I'm 5'2"

At my lowest I weighed 84lbs, and now, nearly 8 months later, I weigh about 114. I hate it. I'm a size bigger than I was befre I was ill (bearing in mind I was about 16 at the time I first got food issues, and now I'm 18.... in UK terms I'm a woman now.)

I know I'm meant to look like a healthy woman at 18. But I just feel so bloated and huge, and I'm trying (since three days ago) to start eating PROPERLY and at the right times (the whole 'upping cals to lose' thing)

What is a healthy weight for 5'2" Or, if your 5'2" what is your goal weight?

Your body is still growing at 18, remember. Right up until 21. Just more internally than external.

Generally, while recovering from anorexia, you should be aiming for a BMI of 20 or so, or the middle of the normal range. At your height that is 111-114lbs. Thus, your weight is in the right place right now. Remember your perceptions may be all out of whack. I'd reckon you don't look bloated at all, no matter how much you may feel so.

im 5'2" and weigh between 102-105. i like it here.

ALYSSA-is that a healthy weight for your ht or do u just like it???

maybe what u like isnt best for your health??

Coincidentally I was just looking through old photos of myself pre-Ed and thinking how much more alive and "hot" i looked (despite how i may have felt fat at the time)...and I'll tell you...I'm 5'2 too also and pre-Ed I fluctuated 113-118...by no means fat.

Then I saw pictures of myself at my LW...78ish and 80's...horrid, and the thing is i subconsciously knew i looked gross.

114 is by no means huge...in fact the only reason you may feel bloated/big is because you aren't used to being at this weight since you haven't been in a long time, but i'm betting you look and feel a whole lot better than at your LW...and with time that change will become more familiar and less uncomfortable :)

I am 5'2, and currently at 129.  I'm 28.  I've done a lot of research on several sites, and it seems that the lowest you would want to go at our height is 109 for a healthy BMI of 20. 

Up until a few years ago, I maintained at between 98-105. Even then I thought I was fat.  I guess it doesn't matter how beautiful and thin everyone else thinks I am, I'll always see myself differently. 

Hi demure.

I'm 5'2'' and 18 too. :D but now my weight is 98 lbs haha i hate it. at least i want to be 110-112 lbs. i think i'd feel better. So 114 bs is NOT huge. its HEALTHY! (:

..'' you aren't used to being at this weight since you haven't been in a long time, ..''

she's rigth (: with time your way to think about it could change

Wow - a lot of numbers being thrown around here.  Demure - you have fought so hard and come so far.  Don't slip.  Keep eating in a healthy way.  Forget the scale.  Be good to yourself.  Feed your body.  If you do, you will not only be nourishing your physical being, but that creative poetic soul you have.  Come on, you can do it!

hey you guys, thanks!

I feel really bad now because I went to a party last night and got...ahem... munchies and now I've woken up to eat breakfast. I'm worried my weight and size will rocket up and I won't fit into the clothes I'm planning to wear to my cousin's party.

I'm a k size 8-10 now, and I really am not too keen on it. Probably because pre-ed I was a 6-8, and I never thought that I would reach a 10 ....

Yay!  You had a good time at a party.  Isn't that part of enjoying life?  You have to do that from time to time.

I went to a halloween party last night too.  I overindulged on dessert and a big delicious glass of red wine.  The scale read a pound more than usual this morning.  It's OK.  There's way more to life than the scale.  Today I will eat mostly healthy.  But it is my father's birthday.  I'm making my famous spaghetti sauce and meatballs and I bought him a beautiful chocolate cake.  I will enjoy all of it and then go for a walk afterwards.  Tomorrow is Monday.  I will go back my usual healhty eating plan.  I will not restrict.   

The point is, I have a loving wonderful family.  They don't care what I weigh - as long as I am healthy and will be around for many years to enjoy our lives together.   It is fun to live life in a healthy way.  Just make sure it doesn't become your life.  You have to live your life.  You are doing it!! Keep it up.

laura, that's amazing =]

'There's more to life than the scale'

That is so true. I wish I could just think that all the time.

I hope you have a wonderful day!

x

You have a wonderful day too.  I read your bio.  You have come a long way.  Keep going!!!

You should not only at your weight but also your body composition ie your body fat percentage . You be in the zone for your weight however you might have to much fat against muscle.

Likewise the are people trying to lose weight by working alot and hit the hump of not losing weight but what don realize is that the are gaining muscle and losing the fat.

In fact some Olympic athletes are over wieght using BMI however are quite healthy .

Hey everybody =]

I haven't been here in a while. And since then I've put on a bit more weight.

I'm 55kg now (which is 121lbs...about 8.5 stone)

I feel humongous, but my girlfriend says I'm not. I swim - not a huge amount, but about 1-2 times every week (unless I'm on my period) - and walk home from town about 2 a week (which is 2.5 miles). I have some calf and thigh muscle, and I was wondering if that might be the case? That I'm toning up and gaining muscle mass? Not fat?

EDIT

but

I think I may have Pre Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder - which is a disorder like extreme pms. I get severely depressed and go through binges/starvation periods along with desperate mood swings where I lay in bed and don't do anything for hours (today, for example, I stayed in bed until 5.30. on CHRISTMAS DAY. Because I was too upset for no reason) I haven't been diagnosed, but I'm going to talk to my dr next time I see him.

Anyway.

I just want reassurance. That I'm doing okay and that it's my ED thought making me feel this way. Why is my weight going so haywire?

If you read all of that you deserve a medal.

Thanks again for all of your support

xxx

how can you come on a page like this where everyone is either on or nearing a weight gain diet of 2500-3500 cals, and you have the nerve to go on about eating 1100 cals and feel like its too much.

does the work "triggering mean anything to you?

like in fairness you know the guidelines about min cals on this site and i think its really unfair of you posting that msg

I'm sorry. I've edited it now. No need to be so harsh about it.

sorry to be harsh-specially in the day that is in it. but why dont you at least up to your bmr and mayb 200 over it and mayb you will find the binge patterns easing. chances are that its less to do with hormones and more to do with your body being annoyed that you wont feed it adequately.

the weight is all relative. 55kg is not fat and if i had posted the same you would tell me so. healthy and normality is often very hard and painful to deal with but can you honestly tell me you were happy when underweight.

seriously, the cravings the cold, the tiredness, the battle in your head, the guilt, the fear, the absolute shocking exhaustion that goes with the psychological torture of starving....... think about it.

I know honey, and again, I'm sorry for posting it. I will try upping my bmr, and seeing what happens.

I really wasn't happy being underweight; in fact, I don't remember it much at all. I'm thinking about it all now, and I can honestly say that I perfectly understand you. I'm sorry for thinking otherwise, and being triggering. I hope you're okay.

yeah im ok, pretty full after Christmas today, so to be honest you helpd me help myself. this is one day, and tomorrow i wont restrict. im tryn hard to stick to the meal plan and i have honestly found life has become easier. i find (i am on a maintanence plan now). but if feed myself properly ....... about 400-500 over bmr urges to binge are almost gone. seriously. your BMR is your resting need. (and despite ED telling you otherwise) you do need this minimum. and then daily tasks and thermic effect of food etc make you require this extra bit.

your body will fight really hard for the calorie it knows it deserves and this is why you find yourself binging.

dont worry bout the trigger thing. i was far to quick off the mark to criticise.... i hope you're ok....,. be a bit kinder to yourself

thanks honey =] I'm so glad to hear you're doing so well!

I know now to calm down about eating and that reaching my bmr is not going to hurt me. I do find that when I eat more regularly I don't binge or overeat.... I'm getting better at it....

I'm glad to hear today went alright for you =] I managed some more food in the end, so thank you for your help =]

Much love, and take care honey. Merry Christmas =]

I am 5'2'' and weigh 98 pounds which seems to be working nicely for me. Everyones build it different though so 98 pounds may look alright on me, but on someone else it may look sickly or heavy! It's so weird but this is why you cannot really compare yourself to other people.