heartbroken... "i don't date fat girls"....

I was really good friend with this boy. I know I have gained weight since freshman 15, but I CLEARLY remembered he once told me that he likes me for who I am. when I was willing to commit into a relationship with him, he rejected me and told his friends that he doesn't date fat girls.  what the?!!! so the fact that I transformed from a size 2 to size 6 changed everything... I am still in the healthy range. why?  are guys all like that?  sigh...now not only my mom called me  a chubby lamb... a boy who used to like me thinks i am freaking fat..... heartbroken....(tears)

i am going to run 3 miles today!!!!!!

P.S. sometimes, i feel like only you guys can understand me and motivate me.  thanks everyone.

Your "good" friend is a [bleep].  You deserve better.  Chin up.

Edit: hkellick, sorry about that.  Heh.

Hey, kazumi. Erik asks we not swear on the boards. Could I ask you to
censor that (not that I don't agree, just maybe use J*ck*ss or
something similair :) )

Emily, I have to your post made me sad also. You are just damn good looking and a person to good to ever to had to come across someone so dense (blind/stupid/full of sh** I really can't make up my mind).

Out of courtesy for those who don't like swearing, he is an *expletive deleted* times three. Anybody who would say something like that, is somebody you are better off without. Who knows what other biggoted, chavaunistic attitudes he has.

Unless you are two feet tall, size six is not fat, many of us here would kill to be a size six. The last time I could fit into a size six I was still pre-puberty.

You deserve somebody who will accept and love you for exactly who you are.

Jeeze... I am with them.  You have a traditional round face (me too!) and you are beautiful!!  He is a dumb@#&!!!  Ignore him and find a nice guy to date.  He would be a jerk anyway!  If he is that shallow, what else does he belive?.....  Perhaps that women belong in the kitchen???  UM NO THANKS!!!  I mean I cook and all but I want a carreer too!!!  Go out there and find a decent guy!!

I am the same height as you and my final goal weight is 150.  I don't know how anyone could consider you fat!

That pretty much makes me sick, and very sad that there are guys like that out there.  It's bad enough girls pick on other girls for not having the fat percentage of a stick, but now guys are doing it!!!  A size six????  I think the average American woman would like to be a size 6!  I'm no where close to a six, man, that's my DREAM.  Just forget about him.  He may sometimes -seem- like a desirable guy, but his actions and words obviously counter that.  Btw, when he gets married, spends thirty years with his wife, and watches himself and her sag and gain some unwanted pounds, what's he going to do?  Go sleep with some size zero chick because his wife isn't good enough?  That really makes me mad....

Don't listen to him.  Listen to these people, and these -guys- who know what they're talking about.

You're beautiful.  It's a fact.

I know everyone's already said comforting things, but I wanted to chip in. I'm shorter than you, I weigh more than you, and I'm your age. I can tell you from experience that guys are NOT all like that. Yes, it sucks when people judge you like he did, but it'll be all right. He's shallow and you're not, and the best thing you can do now is rise above that. Keep your chin up - it'll be okay.

    He just did you a favour. He let you know he was such a freaking a**hole before it got any further. Now that you know, obviously you don't want to date him.

You're too good for him, honey!

Just so you know women can be nasty too, when I weighed 185 my wife told me I was too fat for her. She divorced me shortly afterward.

185 is halfway to my goal weight now... it'll take me a while to get there. (I'm 5'9")

Some people are superficial pigs, you got to learn to let their crap just slide off your back. There's nothing wrong with the way you look.

Since you're not fat in any way, which is really obvious, then he's lying to you.

There is a reason he rejected you, and I would bet a lot of money that it has nothing to do with your weight.  He's just saying that out of a lack of imagination and honesty.  The real reason is harder for him to say than "you're too fat."  You're not fat.  Maybe he's paying you back for only wanting to enter into a relationship when your self-esteem has dropped recently.  Maybe he wanted you when you were unattainable, and he has relationship issues.  When it got too real for him, he jumped ship.  And it has nothing to do with your weight.

Any way you look at it, his comment is not a reflection of your weight, but a reflection of an inappropriate expression of his feelings, nothing to do with you.

He's a complete idiot, don't even think it has something to do with you or how you look.
This is his problem , just pity him , he's so not worth your time.

Chipping in.
Dude, don't pay attention to that idiot. If he could say something like that, he's neither nice nor a good friend.
Not all guys are like that, my boyfriend's actually 8 years older than I, and I love him to death and back. He's a track and field athlete, so he's very ...well....SEXY, with a body to die for, no fat anywhere whatsoever. I, on the other hand, am the artsy kid who sits around all day and draws or plays with the computer.. but he still loves me. He encourages me to do better and drags me to the gym whenever he goes; not becuase he wants a model, but because he cares about my health. The jock and the lazy, i call it.

I always thought guys like he would only just go for the extra thin girls with huge boobs, but he proved me wrong, and I'm soon moving in with him. Proof that not every man's as bad as they say he is.

Chin up, babe. You'll find someone who's actually worth your time. And just for the record, I wish I could fit into a size 6. o.O

Ok here is what I think! Loose the F^&$*  weight, so you will have a sexy figure. That guy will be all over you, like you are over a chocolate cake! From your picture I see that you have a lot of potential, plus you have beautiful skin. I believe that one day you will be one hot chick. Just trust me! Work hard!

Vincenzo, I appreciate your opinion and you have a right to it just like any other, but I disagree.  Maybe to this guy being sexy means being a size 2, but that's just his opinion.  I think in America we've lost the perception of what "fat" means.  Fat has turned into a degrading term anyway.  But what it does mean is overweight.  And that's entirely up to a doctor to decide, not the public, not someone who thinks that the only attractive type of body is a Britney Spears type of body.  Why should she change for one guy when there are others out there who would appreciate her for every asset she already has?  Why should anyone change for someone else?  What puts him in a seat above everyone else to dictate what's "hot" and what's "not"?  He's equal to everyone else, susceptible to everyone else's criticism as well (obviously from the passionate responses here lol). 

Well, that's my opinion.  Not meaning to argue.  Just felt the need to say my piece.  (again...)

Vincenzo, I'm going to jump all over you here.  What weight?  The girl has no excess weight at all.  She is not at fault - she's terrific.  The boy is an immature, stupid, inconsiderate, rude little twit.  "One day she will be a "hot chick"?  What are you, some kind of pervert?  Do you spend your days looking at airbrushed porn?  If this is your idea of supportive and encouraging, then I suggest you go crawl back to where you came from.

Are you satisfied now?  You trolled, we took the bait.  Now go home.

If somebody doesn't like you for who and what you are, they aren't worth awknowledging. Nobody is worth beating yourself up for or risking an eating disorder for. It is what a person thinks of themselves that matters, not some immature pipsquick who is probably nothing specatucular himself, yet thinks all women have to look like famine victims to be attractive.

He really oughta look in his own mirror sometime, and look past his body.

The sooner we stop judging each other's appearance and learn to accept people for waht they are, getting to know them before making character judgements, the better off we will all be.  Weight is an indicator of health, it has nothing to do with character or personality.

I know my life long goal is definitely for vincenzo to think I'm "one hot chick."  fer sure!  *thumbs up*

I like you, layna ;)

But I have a think for smart a**es ;D

Also, I totally heard the Janice (from the Muppets) voice at the end "Ferrr Sure!?: