heartbroken... "i don't date fat girls"....

I was really good friend with this boy. I know I have gained weight since freshman 15, but I CLEARLY remembered he once told me that he likes me for who I am. when I was willing to commit into a relationship with him, he rejected me and told his friends that he doesn't date fat girls.  what the?!!! so the fact that I transformed from a size 2 to size 6 changed everything... I am still in the healthy range. why?  are guys all like that?  sigh...now not only my mom called me  a chubby lamb... a boy who used to like me thinks i am freaking fat..... heartbroken....(tears)

i am going to run 3 miles today!!!!!!

P.S. sometimes, i feel like only you guys can understand me and motivate me.  thanks everyone.

Okay, I definately have to reply to this.  I had this huge crush on a guy once but he said he wasn't interested. Well, I still talked to him when I saw him around.  Then I lost weight and started dating one of his friends.  He had the nerve to come up to me and tell me how good I was looking and that "he just didn't date girls that weighed more than him".  I looked him right in the eye and said "Well, I don't date guys shorter than me" and walked away.  I know, it was kind of low. But what a jerk not only did he have enough nerve to say that to me but I was dating his friend!Count yourself lucky that you didn't start dating and then found out what a big jerk he really is!!!

And a size 6 is not fat!! OMG, what has this world come to when a size 6 is concidered fat. 

Kimne

man, what a f&%#er. First of all, the difference between a size 2 and a size 6 can be 10 to 15 pounds, which is really not a lot in the grand scheme of things. Second, a size 6 isn't fat unless you're a size 6 and also happen to be like 3' tall. I was a size 6 for a very long time, and while it's not exactly skinny, there's nothing wrong with it. Also, just because someone "likes you for who you are" does not necessarily mean that they're into you. He probably just said that to his friends to make himself feel like a macho big shot, which doesn't justify it - it just makes him a jerk.

To tell you the truth, I've given up on persuing men altogether. They're so whiny, and they only want me when I don't want them, so I've decided to just not give a damn and have been acting like they are insignifigant people who should be thrilled to just bask in the glory of my presence. I'm on week 3 of doing this, and I have to tell you, it works really well :D. Guys keep stopping me wherever I go and ask for my phone number, and I have two dates this week!

I hope it gets better for you - people can be real schmucks.

Aside from the whole "being fat at a size 6 issue," my immediate reaction was f%*# him. Honey, take this from someone who's been there, life is too short to spend on jerks like him. You're young, pretty, and he is not worthy of you.

Whether your size 6 or 26, his reaction deems him unworthy. There are so many other men out there who would love to bask in your company. You might not feel that way right now, but later down the road it will become clearer.

::Hugs:: and love yourself.

I didn't read all the replies to this but the ones I did read are SO RIGHT.  If a size 6 is fat, I will just swim out to sea now to be with my kind cause I am a WHALE!

You need to tell his friends that you don't date guys with small "equiptment"!  ;0

I know its been a couple of months since the original post, but I just had to post my thoughts.

OMG! Run far far away from anyone who says things like that.

I sympathize with you about your moms comments.  I have always been bigger (big boned, big hips, but with a slender waist, which just makes the hips more promenent).  Both my parents are short (we are all around 5 ft, 5in) and slender (although my mom just lost a ton ... but she had 5 kids, so the weight she put on is understandable). My mom is Fillipino, and so I am constantly compared to her and her family. She was 99lbs when she got married. I get comments from them about how I'm putting on more and more weight, how I am so fat (now I am 170 ... size 11/12 pants).   When I saw my grandfather (filipino also) after not seeing him for months, the first thing he said was, "My, you are expanding."  I was furious!!!

I understand your confusion and frustration.  You know they are wrong, but you also somewhere inside think they are right cause they are family, etc.  But know that they are wrong. 

About that boy.  He's trash ... sorry.  AFter reading your post I realized how really lucky I am.  My boyfriend is italian and he always tells me that he likes what he calls "Mediteranian women", or women with meat. He tells me that even now that I am good. That he wants someone to hug and snuggle with.  But he is understanding that it will be healthier for me when I loose some weight.

My final thought ... Size 6 is not fat. I'm a size 12. I'm double you. If a size 6 is fat, then what am I????

  I'm getting from your post that he was interested in you before, and you either rejected him/hurt him somehow, but later on changed your mind. He doesn't think you're fat...he's mad that you rejected him before, and he's lashing out by saying what he thinks is the worst thing he can come up with. It has nothing to do with your weight, it has to do with his hurt feelings and his need to strike back at you.

This is just my opinion, but you don't want the guy anyway. What a _________ (fill in with an appropriate adjective).

And also, I don't get why some guys would choose a Mary Kate 80lbs figure over Scarlett Johansen, for example. Who wants to bed with a sack of bones. Guys are so nuts sometimes *screams head off*