Heavier Petites

I'm just wondering if there are any heavier set petites such as myself in this group or is everyone pretty much around the 120'ish range?

It's just a little depressing when I see all of the other ladies being around that weight and still wanting to lose more (yes, I understand about the small frame and the weight looking differently), but when someone of that same height and body shape are up at my weight range (high 160's), as I'm sure you can tell, it's quite frustrating.

I guess I don't feel as though I have as much support when there's not someone else working to lose as much weight as myself versus only about 10-15 lbs.

Sorry for venting - just something that I've noticed. I love this group because there really is a lot of interaction, but it seems as though there's not as much weight to lose in it as what I have (unless you combine all the other members and compare to myself - which makes me feel HUGE).

To be honest, I only have about 18 more pounds to lose. My highest weight was around 130. However, we all lose weight in pretty much the same way-- watching calories, portions, and excercising, and our longterm goals are going to be similar, so I hope that even if we are working from different weights, we can still encourage each other. I am not sure about everybody's current weight, though I recall generally where a few people are. But also keep in mind that this is a pretty new group, and it continues to grow every day. I imagine that if we don't have as much variety in weights right now, we likely will in a month or so.

I do understand what you are saying, though, and I might would feel the same way if it seemed that most everyone else was starting from a lower weight than I was. I really do think the group will get more members of all sizes as the days go by. Also, if you see a short person somewhere else on the site, remember that we can all invite people-- another great way to get more variety and to meet new friends to share with!

I hope this helps. And I hope you have a great evening and feel good about you!

You're not huge! You just have a bigger body frame. I hate that it discourages you, but we're all in the same boat--we're all not satisfied with our current bodies and are looking to drop some weight.

The reason I made this group is because it was discouraging for me to be berated and laughed at when I said my goal weight. I have a small frame and I'm short so my ideal weight is less than a lot of other people. 

But this group isn't just for people with small frames! Everything we talk about--I think--can be helpful to anyone trying to lose weight. We want to support other losers (of weight, that is!) and help them achieve their goal, no matter what their goal weight or starting weight is.

So I really hope you don't let yourself get discouraged! We're all trying to do the same thing.

I know that when I was at my ideal weight I was considered to have a small frame, however, since I can only touch my fingers around my wrist now (because of the extra weight) which puts me as being a medium frame.

Being 4'10" and over 160 is quite discouraging. Especially because the weight is settling in my "pouch", hips, upper thighs, and I have a serious ghetto-booty. :(

I guess I'm also a bit discouraged because I did have a full hysterectomy which put me into early menopause, which has also decreased my metabolism by a lot, as well as has made it extremely difficult to lose any weight.

Also, in reading one of the other posts and seeing that it was stated that once a person has been stuck at a certain weight for any length of time, it's the body's natural tendency to jump back to that weight. Perhaps that's part of my issue also, because I've been stuck at this weight for sooo long. My weight, after having just given birth to my last child was at 198, so I'm very thankful that I've been able to get down to the 160's, but getting back down past that has been so difficult, regardless of the amount of exercising, calorie counting, and healthy eating lifestyle I have had (we don't purchase or allow into the household any junk food, chips, cookies, etc.).

With all of that being said, I'm going to change and head to the gym.

My highest weight was about 150 pounds when I was 15. (four years ago). Since then, I've come a long way, and am now 115. I am also 4'10" and I went from 150 to 120 in a year. (although, it wasn't in a healthy way... starving myself and practically being anorexic...)

I am now 19 and about 115 pounds. Losing the weight was really hard, and I remember still having loose skin until I was 17 and I still have stretch marks on my lower body.  (sorry if it's too much information) Even though I didn't do it in a healthy way, I just wanted to tell you that it's possible to go down. I remember being 150 and thinking that once I'd slim down to 110 I'd be "perfect" and I also remember how my thinner friends would go on about how they were getting fat - so I can somehow relate to your frustration. 

Whether it's a 15 pounds or 50 pounds, I think us shorties should stay together. :) We're all working to a goal, and even though it's not the exact same goal, what's important is that we're helping each other out. :)

I used to also be anorexic and bulemic in high school and it's really difficult. Even though I was about 120 at the time and wearing between a 5 and a 7, there were kids in school that were just so mean and cruel and they were constantly telling me that I was heavier than what I was. Even being a cheerleader, they refused to give me a skirt that actually fit me, but gave me a size 10 instead and then picked on me because I had the waist safety-pinned to the right size (thankfully it was a pleated skirt).

Anyhow, I did end up going to the gym last night as I said I would, and then I was able to actually wake my butt up this morning (before the alarm), and went again! Although I have limited mobility from having surgery just a few short weeks ago, I was able to do a full mile in 20 minutes on the treadmill this morning, and then last night I spent a combined 15 minutes on the treadmill and then another 5 each on the stairs machine and on the cross-trainer. I woke up this morning as 167 rather than 168, so that's a happy bonus! :D

Girls can be so mean! There were so many mean nasty girls around when I was growing up that all but one of my friends were guys, pretty much until maybe the last 5 years, and I'm 32 now. I wasn't rude to girls, but I didn't make an effort to get to know them and was very very uncomfortable in a group of them. I remember working in an office once when I was 21 or so, and we had cubicles. There was a table at the end of the cubicles, and the office ladies were gathered there. I went to leave the room, but I forgot something so I circled around back to my cubicle, which was right beside the table they were at but there was the wall in between us so they didn't see me. They were ALREADY talking smack about me! Now that am older and most of my peers are older, though, I have met quite a few women who I think are absolutely wonderful. This is not to say that I don't like any younger women, by any means, but either I pick better or a lot of high school age girls are just mean. (again, not ALL-- I don't want to alienate any of my young lady shorties!) My one girlfriend from high school I am still best friends with, 17 years now!

Wow I went off on a tangent! Anyway, I'm sorry they treated you like that, Jennifer. I wonder if they were actually jealous of you the whole time? Wenches!

Way to go getting out there and doing it no matter what! I didn't get to walk this evening at all because Jimmy needed help putting up the molding in the living room (we're remodeling) so I hope I can do as well as you did and get my butt up and walking in the morning! I should just go ahead and say I will. That way if i don't I will be a liar liar pants on fire! I'm going to walk tomorrow morning too!

I was actually quite excited because I not only went to the gym when I said I was going to last night, but went again this morning. It felt awesome! Even though I couldn't go for any real length of time, when I first started years ago and had lost a fair amount of weight, I started out slower than what I am now, so, if that's not an incentive, I don't know what is! lol

Yes, I had the same issues with women in teh workplace and whatever (part of the reason why I'm excited about being a sahm, homeschooling mom, and Virtual Assistant from home). I have learned, although it really did take such a massive amount of time, that there really needs to be more common interests at the root of things, and not on a superficial level. I think that's part of the problem that I had back in high school. The girls wanted to be friends with whomever had the best of whatever, and aside from that I didn't really have any of that (although I was the first of my peers with her license - go me!), but I was looking for a deeper connection; something that they weren't too interested in.

What's sad is that I have the same issues with my in-law's - they're always trying to keep up with the Jones' (so to speak), whereas I'm very thankful for what I have and don't see the need for extravagancies.

I guess it comes down to just wanting to be real - to everyone - myself most importantly! :D

I can totally relate to you guys with the mean girl thing. When I was a freshman in high school I just moved from Illinois to Alabama--can you say culture shock? And almost everyone was really nice to me except this one girl. She used to call me "moo" and told me my fat was nothing compared to my cellulite.

I have always been more comfortable around guys, like you Holly. Girls can just be so mean--especially when it comes to weight and appearance. 

And jbedore, that's wonderful about going to the gym! I keep trying to make myself go but alas...to no avail.

i know you posted this awhile ago.. but i just joined tonight.. i am 5'3 and 170lbs.. 

just letting you know if you're still wondering.. 

I'm in the same boat - well, actually, a heavier boat!  I'm 5'1" and 218. I think what's so hard about being so much heavier is to read the posts that say "OMG I couldn't believe I had hit 160" and such...shoot - I'm BEGGING to be at 160 again. And so many women here are at a weight that I eventually want to just maintain (120-130) so it can be hard to relate when I'm screaming inside "Why are you even trying to lose weight?!"

But it's nice to hear that there are some bigger shorties out there - helps me not feel so alone.

You're definately not alone! I'm 5"1' and currently around 160lb Don't be discouraged by others, it's about being happy with yourself. Loosing 1-2 lbs whether you're 120 or 160 still needs support and encouragement so get down about it. Staying positive is one half of the battle!

hi ladies i'm also in the same boat... i'm about 5'1" and ~140 lbs. so i'm happy to have some heavier girls in this group too. :) and i like hearing how everyone else is exercising because it makes me want to get out there and exercise too!

Hey, i'm 5'2 and am about 170 lbs... defenitely not fun being the short, fat girl, i know... Hopefully that will have changed by the time i turn 17 :)

I am only 4'8" and I weigh in at 127, but when I started I was at 137ish. I can definietly relate to being heavier. I was wearing a size 13 and even that was a bit constricting.

I feel like loosing weight is impossible. I know others have lost weight but I have been hitting the gym for a year and 10 lbs is all I have to show for it. I got a little depressed about it about 2 months ago and haven't been going to the gym like I should.

Hang in there though....there are more of us out there wishing you luck and understanding how hard it truly is to accomplish even 1 tiny pound of weight loss!

I just got back to this today - been gone for 2 years - almost 50 and at 137lbs now and just barely 5 feet tall.  Been as high as 175lbs so you are not alone.  It takes a long time but you can do it!

It took a year to get to the 130's.

You said no junk food in the house - move that goal to the outside as well.  I do not eat fast food - and actually rarely go out to eat - so much harder to lose weight.  I do other activities for fun.

I try not to get on my soapbox about organics - but if you don't eat certain foods because they mentally upset you because of how they are produced or what they contain - it is easier not to feel deprived - instead you feel heroic when you say no to the "big mac" or "flo's filet" and huge GMO corn and potatos.

Nothing tastes as good as thin feels

I am a heavier shorty as well.

I am 5 feet!

I started at 146 in September and now I am at 136-138 (fluctuate...errrgh)

I am really finding it difficult to loose at a faster rate, i mean people are all like i can loose 1 pound a week and im like ok...how?

hi ladies,

I'm also in the same boat as most of you :)

i'm 5'1 and almost 150 lbs, couple of months ago i was 115/120 lbs, i gained so much weigth in a short period.

i want to lose all this extra weight and get back to what i used to weigh :(

it is hard, everyday i say today i will start and then i find myseelf craving and eating al i want.

:(( i wish you all the luck ladies in ur weight loss journey ..

I feel the same about a lot of my friends. They were short like me (and like at 110) and kept saying they needed to lose weight! I started at 5'2, 148 and I just wanted to be back to my 120's.

I'm back in my 120's finally and bought new clothes and can now fit a size 4. If I actually got down to 110 I think honestly I would be way to thin. I'm very happy with my size right now.  

Now I think I have a healthier view about weight then my friends. I will still eat the stuff I like (in moderation of course) and I make sure to get a lot of physical activity while they pretty much deprive themselves of any food just to lose a few more pounds. Honestly it looks like a miserable way to live.

My goal is to be at my healthiest weight, not my thinnest.

Well, I pretty much take the cake around here.  I am 5"2 and 267 pounds.  I know it is horrible, but I am working on it and that is why I am here.  I am 33 years old which makes it harder to lose, but I have a six year old that I really need to improve my health for so i can be alive to see grow up.  It would be much easier if I was taller and the weight was proportionate! 

Hi Ladies,

Wow...I can't believe that I had actually almost forgotten about this.

I haven't been on since I don't know when; probably around Thanksgiving time, and can't believe how quickly time has since passed.

I don't really have any positive news by way of weight change is concerned, however, I have been eating an almost entirely organic/vegan diet since the last time I posted in. I haven't really lost many lbs - only about 5, but I have lost what I assume to be many inches (I will need to re-measure soon) because not only can I really see a difference in the way my body looks and feels, but today I just went out and purchased a pair of size 12's. I haven't tried them on yet, but when I first began CC I was wearing size 16's and had recently gotten into size 14's which are now quite loose on me.

My 33rd birthday is next Friday - the 6th. For a birthday present to myself I have an appointment for a colonic. I have tried using the weekly cleanses and things like that, but they really don't work, and since I have a horrible case of IBS, it was suggested that I try this. They are very hopeful that not only will it help my IBS, but that it will also help with getting my weight loss moving.

Trust me ladies; I really understand about it being hard to lose the weight. It seems that once you get past that 140 mark, the weight is much more difficult and takes a much longer time than it should to come off. That 5 lbs that I lost has, within times of fluctuation for when I have "flare ups", stayed consistently off - if it comes on again it's only overnight. I'm still around 163 - 165 lbs, but I'm not past the 170 mark which is where I was when I first started.

Anyhow, I had become very discouraged because other women were stuck in the 120's and it totally frustrated me so I figured that I'd take a small hiatus - didn't realize it was going to be months long. :( If anyone wants to chat, at all, please IM me through yahoo at bedorefamily - I would love to chat with you! I'm in the finishing strip of my Associate's Degree so I really haven't spent much time on any of my blogging sites - or anywhere else really, so IM'ing me would be the best way to chat.

Please keep up the great work ladies. We have to remember that it will take at least double the amount of time to get the weight off as what it came on - to expect any more than that would be unreasonable and unhealthy. :)