HELLO MISINFORMED TEENAGE GIRLS, may I have a moment?

Caps for emphasis.  Can't sleep until I get this off my chest.

To all of you 12-18 year old girls prancing around in your size 3 jeans sipping skinny cappuccinos, I have a quick life lesson for you.  First of all, you are NEVER going to be the size you were last year.  Ever.  Why?  Because you're growing.  You gained weight over these last 2-8 years because you're supposed to.  Yes, I understand you didn't grow taller.  That's because most girls stop growing taller between 10-14 years old.  However, you don't stop growing.  You gain bone density, your brain develops, you gain fat around your stomach, boobs, butt and thighs-- because your body is meant to hold a frickin' baby and you gotta protect things like that, they're kinda fragile.

The most common opener I see on the YCC is "I ate a lot (of junk) over the last _____ months, and I gained ____ pounds.  I just want to get back to where I was."  Bull.  ****.   In a very, very small amount of cases, this is true.  But more often than not, this is just you succumbing to media and peer pressure to stay in a 10-year-old child's body forever.  You're better than that.

I'll say it again.  You are better than that.  You have no excuse not to be amazing.  So do it.  Be fabulous and healthy and intelligent, because you have as much time in a day as Einstein, Gandhi, and Helen Keller, and you have so many more opportunities.

Yes, you did eat more than usual.  That's how kids grow.  They get hungry, they eat, and subsequently, they grow.  You can't avoid it, not healthily.  If you ever find yourself saying, "I can't lose on more than 1,500kcal/day.", meaning you can't lose while consuming a healthy amount of calories a day: it is because you are trying to do something unhealthy.  You are not some magical waifcreature who can subsist on Coke Zero alone, don't fool yourself into that delusion.

At 13, a 5'5 girl is probably done growing taller.  Let's say she weighs 105lbs, and is happy.  At 14, she gains 5lbs, and doesn't like it, she decides to diet.  So for the next 4 years, she makes herself stay at her believed "happy weight", 105lbs, because it was healthy and wonderful, remember?  Her metabolism is now damaged, because she's had to restrict her calories.  The bone density that is supposed to develop during those years of her life hasn't, because she wasn't consuming enough energy, and now she's got fragile bones for the rest of her life. [source]  The best part?  She's now at the 4.8 BMI national percentile [source]: anorexics are defined as members of the fifth percentile or below.  Welcome to the hospital.

Be accountable to yourself.  Be educated, responsible, and aware of yourself and your surroundings.  Don't let yourself fall victim to pressure from ANYONE, not your parents, not your fakey highschool friends, not those weird fashion magazines.  You are your own person, act like it.

Grow up.

Inb4 doctor suggested I lose: obviously not talking to you, am I?

Nice to know there are some girls who want to be smart and healthy here

Stick around lynnlette and make sure you hit that 'report violation' button every time you see a Young Calorie Counter going down the eating disorder route.... there's plenty here.

welcome back, lynnlette

Thanks a lot -   it is triggering to people with eating disorders when young girls go around saying that they feel bad when they weigh above 105 lbs.

I am 115 and I feel slim at 5 ‘ 5.…. ( 22 years old)    And hate when young girls say how they feel fat at LOWER weights!

Standing ovation! Here here! Bravo my darling!

Send that into every newspaper and magazine you can find! I love that! You should be a writer or social commentator or something.

I only realised last week with my therapist that in my eating disorder my goal weight for now (22yrs old) is the same rediculous weight I wanted at 12!!! Isn't that awful!

Take the Buddhist approach, don't try to hold onto anything, enjoy the constant flux of chaos the universe is enveloped in. Because constant motion means we enjoy or scramble against, the ebb and flow of time and matter. Hahaha, go get yourself a gold sticker!

that's fantastic! (: thanks for posting this... imagine how awful the girls trying to recover from EDs here must feel when they see "ugh, i'm 5'10" and 120, i am such a FATTIE."

although, i actually weighed more than i do now last year since i was overweight last year.... so yeah, i guess some people aren't like that, but it really is ridiculous. if you've gained weight eating your maintenance calories... then obviously it's what your body wants and needs

Original Post by personaltrainer87:

Thanks a lot -   it is triggering to people with eating disorders when young girls go around saying that they feel bad when they weigh above 105 lbs.

I am 115 and I feel slim at 5 ‘ 5.…. ( 22 years old)    And hate when young girls say how they feel fat at LOWER weights!

PT87: you do realize that you just did, in essence, what you said is triggering for you? 

Equation:  I am X height and weigh Y pounds and I feel fat

You wrote: I am 5'5" and weigh 115 pounds and I feel triggered (when I read that girls who weigh less than I do feel fat).

Same deal. 

Just for future reference, things you have said to saturation: 1) you're slim, 2) you have large breasts, 3) you think someone can be healthy at a low BMI if it's they're "natural" weight. 

I think we got it. 

How on earth did you figure all this out when you are so young?

Thanks for the great post, all of at any age can learn from it.

Great post! Well said.

Amen!

Laura916, what were you trying  to say?

Whoo, thanks for all the positive feedback, guys.

coach_k: Thanks.  I missed this place. :D

Original Post by cellotlhicks:

Laura916, what were you trying  to say?

I got laura's post. personaltrainer87 has posted multiple times that she hates it when other people post about their height/weight and state that they are "fat" because it makes her feel bad about her own. She then uses her own height/weight to illustrate her point. This is, to say the least, hypocritical, and seldom adds to the discussion.

edit to add: right on, lynn

Ok. I was just a little confused. I have not followed either of thier posts.

thanks, amethystgirl and I apologize for the confusion. 

this thread sends a great message.  it was just troublesome to me to see the message getting twisted back into the very thing it was speaking out against. 

rock on lynn!

I'm not a teen anymore, but when I was PRE-TEEN even, I was 5'5", and anything under 117 meant no periods and lack of health plus a gaunt look.

A growing girl needs her foods.

Oh not YOU again. *sigh*

I said that I KNOW that I am slim.   

And that it is triggering when teens that are MY same height and weight say that they want to lose weight


That is all I said. Stop twisting my words.

It does make me feel bad when people who are similar heights and weights to me, say that they want to loose weight…

Because I am slim myself, and it is triggering for me to hear, because these girls have no need to lose weight.    They are obviously already slim.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with that I have said.  

You are very annoying. I give good advice on this site so stop attacking what I say.

thank you for this

lynnlette: it sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders and have been around for a while but i haven't met you so welcome back and i look forward to your advice showing up on the threads!! 

Chrissy :)

lynnlette: props to you :) hopefully some of those young girls will read this thread!

And I perfectly understood what personaltrainer was saying...I think there would be a problem if she had said "I weigh 115lbs and I feel fat and it's triggering when girls who weigh less than me say they're fat." I think at any healthy weight it can be upsetting to hear someone at a lower weight say they think they're fat. It's one thing to say you aren't toned, or "skinny fat," but to say you think you're fat is very discouraging. I am in the middle of my BMI range, and when others at a lower BMI say they're fat, it makes me think that they must think I look obese.