HELP!!! Binging EVERY NIGHT - peer pressure?

I have been calorie counting for about a week and though I'm following the "rules" when I'm alone, as soon as my boyfriend gets home we seem to binge all night! He is nearly twice my weight (and quite taller) and is a BIG EATER! (Nothing healthy either). I tried cooking healthy meals, but then he pulls out chips, junk food, orders pizza and eats all night in front of me... That's when I crack and start stuffing my face! Then,  I totally binge until I literally can't eat anything more. (usually upwards of 1200 cals in one sitting) 

I really want to make this work without giving up my evenings with him or pressuring him to change HIS eating habits... any advice out there on how to control my own eating? 

Its really hard when people around you are eating poorly.  Could you try talking to him about it?  You don't have to ask him to stop eating the food he likes but if you tell him how you feel and that you are really trying to lose weight but its hard with all that food in front of you maybe he won't be as in your face with it.  

Defiantly talk to him about it.

Or you can stop writing off his food as "forbidden" and save some extra calories for some night time munchies. Would you honestly reject a piece of pizza or a couple of chips at night with your boyfriend if you were maintaining the weight you want? You don't have to go crazy obsessive, just moderating the food you want to eat will make your life much easier, and you wont feel deprived. :)

Wow that sound familiar and here is what I did. I go and take a excersice class every night, and when I get home my husband doesn't get to eat anything else in front of me. He used to greet me after class with ice cream and after a couple of times I realized that he was the one making me fat. So I gave him the choice of eating the junk that he wanted before I got home or he gets no snacks.  He needs to loose at least 60 lbs I only have 10 to go. Thanks to calorie count oh I also do the shopping and I don't buy any junk food.

Chose Life.  If you have to leave your boyfriend, do it.  And do yourself a favor, don't look back.  Life is too short my friend to be unhappy at your own hand.

Chose Freedom.  Freedom to live and move and have your being.  Get yourself out of that house and environment.  Chances are if you stay you will never lose the weight and you know it.  And if you push through stay and lose the weight, your boyfriend probably won't like the new you.  Energetic, confident, and slimmed down with a new positive attitude that will attract other interesting men. 

If he will not support you do not drag more weight around with you as you try to get to the finish line.  CHOSE LIFE, LEAVE HIM.

From a friend who has walked the road...

Not to sound down on you, but if you keep dieting etc and he becomes more like THREE times your weight you are going to make a post here in about 1 year or so that will be the same as one I just read a few days ago.  It went something like:

My boyfriend, so nice, love him etc.  He's so overweight though, we were similar but now I've changed my life and myself etc.  No longer finding him attractive ... how do I tell him that he's killing himself on grease?

Don't get to that place!  If you are going to be healthy, you can't do it IN SPITE of someone who lives so close to you.  I know, I tried it with my parents and all it created was psychological trauma and passive aggression / resent.

You have to start making comments.  "Oh I feel so much better today, all that pizza grease was really weighing me down last night...."  "Don't you want to go for a walk, it's so nice out!"  "I found these new low-calorie pizzas.  I think I'm going to start buying those seeing as we could BOTH take a few lbs off."   "Are you tired already?  Gosh, I've really been getting fit lately I guess..."

Okay maybe not the one about needing to take some lbs off, but you see what I mean?  Make sure  he notices how hard  you are working.  He isn't going to want to be the overweight boyfriend of the pretty girl!  And you  ARE going to be the pretty girl!!!

@onehumblelady- "leave him" is your helpful support? Thats extremely thoughtless. we don't know the circumstances of her relationship.

@ iamdwalrus- I gained 20# my 1st year with my husband. When I decided to lose and joined cc, he didn't. he's not overweight, but eats extremely unhealthy. We regularly discuss what i choose to eat and not to eat, while he eats anything he wants. I feel proud and powerful when i can resist tempting bacon or cup cakes, even when he can't. If your boyfriend listens and supports you, that better than rude and uncaring. and it doesn't mean he has to change his eating habits too. It may just take time.

@teal-I too find healthier options for us. wheat low-fat pizza or veggie dinners. As long as it tastes good, he'll eat it. And i try to help him understand how the sugar and fatty foods affect how worn out he feels. these are great suggestions that can empower the relationship too!

guys have a higher metabolism, and especially if he's a lot taller and bigger than you, it can be tempting to fall into over-eating when you see him eat a ton.

I would recommend making sure you eat some lean protein (tofu, beans, lentils) before you see him, it digests slowly and will keep you satisfied. If you're starving when you go there, you're more likely to eat unhealthy food and eat it quickly.

Also, maybe bring some low-cal foods that are time consuming to eat, like raw veggies, salad, or a light vegetable soup?

thanks everyone for great advice! I spole to him and at first he didn't take it in the best way but I think you guys will be glad to hear that I came home today and he had a small plate of food ready for me and it was very healthy! He is wonderful, not overweight... just a lot taller and bigger boned than me... so I think this is really going to work well. 

Today is the first day that I'm not going over my cals (so far lol) yay! 

Good for you for not going over your calories that is a very hard thing to do. Just remember buy healthy snacks, fruits and veggies and you're not going to  to eat the junk because is not there. Hummus is great with celery and other veggies. Kepp it up girl.

CONGRATS!!!! I'm proud of you. you not only achieved your goal of keeping your calories but you strengthen your relationship by talking it out. good for you!

Original Post by sarahgordon:

guys have a higher metabolism, and especially if he's a lot taller and bigger than you, it can be tempting to fall into over-eating when you see him eat a ton.

oh I've had that problem! lol. I'm 5'6 and my boyfriend is at least 6'4 and a big guy. The calories I burn in a day is usually 1700-2200, depending on what I do, and he burns more like 2500-3500. He'll sometimes question why I'll be concerned about things, like only wanting 1 cup (8 oz) of milk or why I want low cal substitutes and I just try to explain to him that 100 calories is a lot more to me than to him! I wish I could lose weight eating 2500 calories a day!!! lol 

Fortunately, he is extremely supportive of my dieting/healthy eating and tries hard to make healthy meals for me.  He's actually really proud of his healthy cooking. =)

Just let him know how happy it makes you to feel healthy (not necessarily skinny, because he probably likes you the way you are, but no one can argue with healthiness!) and maybe he'll want to get involved. When you're happy, he's happy!  

I have issues with evening junk food eating too though.  I try and keep really bad stuff out of the house, like potato chips, except for special occaisions. Instead I get things like rice cakes, fruit, and sugar free jello. Even if you mess up and go crazy on them, it'll only be a couple hundred calories. If we do have something like chips or crackers and I eat them, I measure how much I actually want to eat, put it in a bowl, and leave the rest in the kitchen. That way you know how much you had, and you have to make a conscious decision to get more.  Don't know how helpful this is, but goodluck!