No help or encouragement at home

Hi, what can I say about myself.....

I am one of those desperate housewives with two grown daughters and nothing better to do with my time than figure out "My Space/facebook". I am a humorous person that enjoys country music, comedies and meeting new (normal)people. I live to embarrass my daughters and I've passed that goal and have done it well. Do they fear me? NO. Do they ignore me? HELL YES. Do they claim me as there mother? DON"T HAVE A CLUE. But I can live with that.  The one thing they don't understand is about losing weight and how hard it is. My husband is lucky if he weighs 150 lbs at 5'9", my daughter is about 108 lbs at 5'6" so I am the odd one out here. I need to get more motivated and just get out there and get going. Its the get out & get going I have trouble with. The good intentions I have are just that good intentions. At home no words of encouragement just little remarks that bring the self esteem down. I know what I need to do ................ just need to do it! As they say "don't put off tomorrow what you can do today"?

Hey I know how that goes. My husband the other night bought me a box of buncha crunch my favorite candy.  I usually eat the whole box in one sitting late at night.  Shame on me.  But this time I divided it out into baggies with the appropriate serving sizes that way I'm not so tempted. 

Now I wouldn't say my husband is against my dieting, he just doesn't always do the best things to support it.  I actually got the best inspiration from him the other day, he hugged me and said he couldn't wait to see the end result.  So you just have to think to yourself, about how you'll feel and look once the goal is finally reached.  Maybe it'll even spark something up in the bedroom.  I know for me I get a lot more sexual once I feel more comfortable with my body.  And my husband definitely wouldn't have any objections to it. 

So just keep pushing on, block out the remarks and think to yourself "I'll show them."  Also by telling a lot of people your are starting a diet your are less likely to deviate because you don't want to tell everyone you gave up.

My husband is totally for my dieting, and says mostly encouraging things. But the problem with our own situation is that he will (when we go out) put some of his own order on my plate, whether or not I ask for it!

For example, I will order egg beaters, scrambled, with 2 slices of dry whole wheat toast (thinking to put 1tbsp grape jelly on them). Also, maybe some OJ or applesauce. He will order the works: poached eggs, rye toast, bacon, hash browns ~ and then, while I am saying how full I am, he will proceed to pour his potatoes onto my plate, throwing in a piece of bacon to go with it.

So, there I am, forcing down a few bites of hash browns, even tho' they weren't even part of my order. I know he means well; just today he was saying that he wants to stop doing that, so he can support me. His family is Italian, so they have always insisted on seconds for everyone; I guess it's the old-world influence, eh? It's just the way he was brought up...

It's sweet how he worries about my getting enough to eat, but seriously, he doesn't need to bother about that!  

I guess what I am trying to say is that it is really nice to know that I am not alone; like you I am nearly desperate to lose...and I wish I was at my goal! But maybe we can encourage each other, eh?

My husband has been endlessly guilty of getting me treats, chocolates, yummy breads, desserts, etc. He knows I love them, and it has been his way of showing me he loves me. However, they make me fat!!! :P So, my solution, which you ladies might find helpful, was to flat out tell him to cut it out! To stop giving me food to show me he loves me, instead do the dishes for me once and awhile, or go for a walk with me. These are new ways he can show me he loves me which are so much healthier, for both of us, and especially for my tummy!

Try it, be honest, let them know that giving you treats is sweet, but hurtful to how hard you are working to lose weight. Instead give them new ideas to show their love...

Lynn, I know how you feel my husband is 6 ft tall and 150 lb and I'm 5'5 and weigh 240 lbs! What really gets to me is my husband seems to be able to eat about anything he wants. He's only 24 and one of these day his metabolism will slow down.  

My husband trys to be supportive but when I've been really good about my diet he wants to give me food rewards like going out for chinese or buying me candy... he just doesn't seem to understand that that is counter productive. And then when I haven't been so good about my diet he'll say "aren't you suppose to be on a diet" which helps get me back on track but is still irritating!

Wow  that sounds so much like it is around our house.  Everyone kept telling my husband his metabolism will change as he gets older. Well it has, except now when he loses the wight at hunting time (he gets to 140-145) he can't put it back on. Why is it men have the good metabolisms? Anyways It makes me feel better about myself that others are going through what I am. You don't know how it feels unless you've been through it.

Thanks so much for your words....Lynn

This morning we went out to breakfast, and I had 1/2 my order, putting the rest in a box for our son. I ordered the crepes, cottage cheese and strawberries...which is just over the 400 cal. limit. It is delicious, but too too much for one person, lol.

Anyway, my husband gave me a couple of bites of his cottage-fried potatoes ~ yeah, I know I should know better, right? ~ and when I logged everything in back here @ home, I had to add 70 cals to my total.

So I told him about it & he said, "Ok, that's enough of that...no longer will I put anything extra onto your plate. You're doing fine without my 'help'!"

Ye-eah...I think he gets it now...