Help! I forgot how to be single!

So here goes...

I've been in various relationships since I was 16, with only a break for freedom when I got divorced, which was all of 8 months. When the next one fizzled out, I had a gap of 4 months, and now that ones ended. Nevermind.

I'm 31 now, just got my own flat with my daughter in a new town. I had moved there in the hope of a future with my now ex, but that wasn't the main reason, just part of it. I love the town, and it's near my family and means we won't be in the middle of nowhere lol

Part of me is excited about it, but for most of my life I've been focussed on someone else, and not me.

Any tips/tricks on how to turn that around so that I don't feel weird about putting me more towards the center of my life?

Thank you!

i'd suggest finding something you enjoy doing and doing it! take a class, join a club, something like that. do it for no other reason than to enjoy yourself and meet some new people.

i think doing something like that is a good way to put yourself first!

I agree with jules! Finding something that is of interest to you and focusing on that, just because you like it, will do wonders!

I know it's difficult to adjust to not having a husband/boyfriend/significant other, etc. I just recently separated from my husband of almost 20 years. We were married when we were 19 and had kids right away. So, not a lot of time to "find myself" as they say.

For me, I love to read. We've been apart since July of this year and I have read at least 10 books so far! That's more than I've read in the past 20 years! lol

Best of luck and many prayers!

I've been single and lived alone all my life, except on a rare occasion when I lived with my boyfriend for about a year.  Over-all, being single works well for me, but many of my friends are baffled by how I can do it.  I have even noticed that some think it's a bit abnormal that I don't have to have someone around. I think it's just figuring out where and how you're comfortable.  The solitary life isn't for the timid, it takes some courage to go figure out what goes bump in the night.  I do have a big dog and 3 cats (which explains things that go bump in the night), so maybe I can't say I live alone.  I have a very full life and keep busy with things like rock climbing, hiking, photography, sculpture, knitting, cooking, some volunteer stuff, a full time job and working on my house and yard.  I don't even have time for t.v. so I gave it away. Do I miss not having someone else around?  Yea, at times, but I really enjoy my solitude and the choice of being around other people instead of being stuck and having to deal with them.  I guess this makes me the ultimate selfish woman, but I guess since I'm the only one around that has to put up with me then that's just fine.  :D

Enjoy!