Help.

I am 5'3, Female, 115 pds. I know that sounds low but all of my friends weigh in at less than 100. I'm pretty muscular because I play soccer and softball but right now I do nothing because the season's over, so I don't burn very many calories. Lately I've been eating between 900-1300 calories a day for the past two weeks. I'm not losing any weight. What can I do?

why would you want to lose any weight?

SO WHAT  if your friends weigh less than 100 pounds??? If they stopped having their period, would you be jealous and try to eat less? This site is for people who are trying to be HEALTHY, not for people who want to be a twig.

crazyness, i would really suggest that you evaluate what your reasons are to want to lose weight.  i am 5.0 tall and weigh 125 and i have been at 115 and i know for a fact that it's a really good place to be so i'm not understanding why you'd want to go any lower.  unleass your friends havent' hit puberty, they probalby should not be weighing less than 100lbs. dont' go down a path that may lead to self-destruction.

Hun, first off, you need to be eating at least 1200 cals a day. thats the bare min. to keep yourself from basically digesting your organs. 5' 3" and 115 lbs seems great. If you want to lose some weight, go to the doctors first and get a profesional opinion on all of this. And what sparkles said is true, this site is designed for people who are getting healthy and staying healthy. If you wanna get healthy, welcome, if you wanna look like britany spears, sorry. Youre probly not losing anything because your body is already starving. You wanna stay in shape while your out of season? Find a work out that you enjoy. But like I said, get your butt to the doctors, and let him/her tell you where you stand healthwise.

yeah, i second what sparkles said. maybe you need some psychological help.

britney was maybe not the best example (holy baby weight, batman!) but yeah, i second what sandy said.  But...

COME ON, PEOPLE! BE GENTLE!

crazy, how old are you? how tall are your friends? and are they muscular?  Because I think your bodyfat (as an athlete) is probably pretty low, so to go much lower than you are, you'd have to lose muscle.  I know as a runner and martial artist (so-so, but getting better!) I weigh in between 10 and 20 pounds heavier than my friends, even when we wear the same size jeans.  I had to stop comparing myself with them on the scale, and try to remember that I can run 10 miles and they can't.

But step one, it's unlikely that you're going to lose weight doing what you're doing, because your calories are kind of in equilibrium- too low for healthy weight loss (that's right, too LOW) and too high for actual starvation where your body digests its organs and bones and you technically lose weight, but it makes FAT out of anything it can (hence those really skinny flabby people! ew!).

I will third forth and fifth everything said here - including the baby-weight-britney comment!

I'm 5'3" and I know that 115 is the lowest of the spectrum for our height. Especially if you're muscular!!! You should DEFINITELY not need to lose weight.

Your friends are unhealthy if they are under 100 lbs. Unless they are midgets, you should not envy them that.

And now I ask you to re-read Saroful's comment above me. VERY very very good points she makes. Especially the part about you eating way too little and your body is going to start eating itself. The less calories you eat - the more your body holds onto!!!

ok, ok, Youre right. Im out of touch. How bout the Olson twins? Is that better? Also, gentle.....

I may have gotten a tad bit irritated. It happens. SO.... I will TRY to be gentle.

I worry about young girls. *assuming that crazy is young* You guys have a lot of pressure. God, I wouldnt want to go back to high school, ever. I stand by my comment about you needing to go to the doctors. And you must remember that muscle weighs more than fat. So you are fine. Id really like to hear more about you. Could you let us all know the facts, so we dont worry about you like mothers? And, if you ever want some suport, check out my profile for my email addy. You can email me anytime to talk further about what you are going through right now. And listen to the people on this bord, they are smart, and carry good advice.

I agree with all of them. I'm only 19 so I'm fresh out of high school, which is where I'm assuming you are. I have a few tips for you:

1) Don't worry about the numbers on the scale. Just think about how you feel, and how much BETTER you feel when you actually eat a healthy number of calories. Think about it: Do you feel better on the days that you eat 1300 cals than you do on the days you eat 900? I bet you do, and you didn't even notice.

2) So many people lie about their weight. Tell yourself that all of your friends are lying about being under 100 lbs. Honestly, unless they're all really tiny (as in short and small-boned), they probably aren't that light, and if they are they're probably very unhealthy.

3) Think about why you want to lose weight. What are you unhappy with? How you look? How you feel? What you think your friends think of you? If you're doing it for YOU, then lose weight if you must, but do it the HEALTHY way. No eating under 1200 calories, and if you're doing sports then you really need more like 1600. If you're doing it for other people because you're nervous about what they'll think of you... rethink it. Other people are not worth starving yourself over. Talk to your parents or a psychiatrist, or start a diary. Get your thoughts out without harming your body. You'll feel better, trust me.

If you need someone to talk to, you can email me if you want. Just ask me for the address.

I forgot about the age thing when I snapped. The summer before 8th grade, I went from 100 pounds to 120. I was so depressed! I thought I was so fat. I wasn't anorexic -- I just didn't realize I was becoming an adult.

If she is around that age, that would make more sense why her friends are under 100 pounds.

my 2 cents.. also if she is young and her friends are, they are most likely sucked up into the new "anorexic thin is in.."
I recently found out there is this new trend in young women.. they actually applaud anorexia...   that is disturbing and immoral to me, but it is REAL..    but anorexia is a REAL disease that can do much more to you than make you skinny..

Back to the subject at hand..  Lanicita said it all...   :)

I just want to hop in with a message.

It is never fair to compare yourself to others. Honey, it doesn't matter who you are.. there will always be people smarter than you, nicer than you, thinner than you, and prettier than you.

Don't compare yourself with.. your peers or supermodels or that girl in the movies. Compare yourself with who you have been and what you can realistically become.

People come in all sorts of varieties.. some of us are tall and lanky. Some of us are tall and muscular. Some of us are short and curvy. We were born this way and no amount of dietting and exercise is going to turn you from short and curvy to short and "beanpole". if that's your natural body type.

Part of doing this in a healthy manner is to LET GO of pieceved societal demands and peer pressure and just become the best YOU that you can be.
Summed up, if your friends were all jumping off a bridge, would you?
The answer should be no, because I know the best thing for me to do for myself.

Oh my goodness. I am 5"3 and I am a very muscular and curvy person (my hips are huge!). When I was 115 I looked so thin and ill that my mother commented - my skin had a yellow cast, and I felt shakey all of the time.

Your body type has A LOT to do with how much you should weight (and how good you luck). For me, 130 is just right. Because you exercise and are lovely and strong, I don't think that you should be less than 115.

Instead of dieting, just make sure that you keep exercising like you were to maintain your weight. Find a solution that you like. Go to the gym, take a martial art, dance classes, go for runs, join another soccer team for fun, or do what I did - buy Dance Dance Revolution (oh it's so much fun).

You are not eating enough to lose weight.

I'd suggest speaking to your doctor about the issue.