No help from significant other

Anyone else have a problem with their spouse?

My boyfriend thinks I'm fine the way I am and always tries to get me to eat whatever he is or eat more than I have eaten. It almost feels like sabotage sometimes.

I would think he is just concerned for your health.

Explain to him what this means to you, and why you want to lose weight.  Once he realizes that its a personal issue, and not that you are concerned that he doesn't find you attractive, ask for his support, and hopefully he will give it freely.

If you are eating healthfully then just tell him you are finished or not hungry.  If he persists and this is a source of temptation for you, then have a knock down drag out and find out if he really is sabotaging you or just not thinking about the impact his lack of encouragement is having on you.  Maybe he feels bad because he sees your efforts and isn't doing something similar for himself.  Misery loves company, after all.

Yeah, it could totally be a subconcious thing. If he's "overweight" he might feel insecure that if you lose weight you'll lose interest in him. If he gets annoying then you have to talk to him about it.

You are fine the way you are (& by fine I mean sexy!) & you need to keep yourself happy! Just keep doing what you're doing for you!

He's VERY fit. Big muscles and not an ounce of fat (see why I feel the need to get my butt in gear?).

I know he thinks I look fine, but I'm suspicious he doesn't want me to look too good. I have told him repeatedly exactly what I'm doing and how important it is to me that he supports me instead of temps me. But he doesn't seem to really care/understand.

Luckily ALL my other family members are quite supportive and accommodating.

Best thing to do is stay consistent, don't argue with him, and keep making good choices. Maybe because he is so fit he doesn't understand how you feel? He is probably just trying to make you feel good about yourself telling you that you look fine. My husband is very supportive of my healthy eating but just this past week he bought 2 bags of potato chips, pizza, soda, mac and cheese and then pondered picking up some ice cream. I finally had to tell him "enough is enough already with the junk food" and he got the idea. I think once your spouse sees the benefits of your healthy plan (ie. you look and feel better) he will see there is no need to sabotage and will back off.

IF he is fit and active, then I would expect him to want the same for you! Sometimes you need to call it like you see it! I guess...if he looks good, and likes the attention he gets, then why wouldn't he want that for you? If He knows your trying really hard to loose weight or get fit, then asking him to support you should be all it takes! If he continues to bring in the junk food, then ...like I said call it like you see it! Sabotage!!!

I dated a guy once who was always trying to get me to gain weight. It was weird. We would go to the store and he would get fat-free, sugar-free ice cream for himself but talk me into getting regular Ben n Jerry's. I gained a lot of weight in the 1.5 years we were together - I kept thinking wow I must look really, really good (better than I thought) if this guy keeps pushing these foods on me. And I was NOT skinny - I was like a size 8 at the time, just normal.

Really he was just very, very jealous and very insecure. I think he wanted me to look worse so that no one else would find me attractive. Weird, and not rataional at all.

Not saying your BF is like that. But - does he have any jealousy issues? Maybe he is afraid of losing you to someone else if you improve your appearance (regardless of how attractive he finds you now)?

My boyfriend thinks im crazy that i want to lose weight and that i look great no matter what. he didn't even really notice id put any on. Have you had a serious talk with him? Tell him you really need to do it for yourself and that it doesnt have to change his eating habits. my bf was really supportive after i did that. he still accidentally tempts me, but he wont buy thing if i tell him i cant resist it. It pretty cute how he makes our dinners even healthier than before and tells me all about it. none of this happened until i made my goals VERY clear and that i was serious.

This is a major issue with my boyfriend and I.  He has told me he doesn't want me to worry about my weight, that he liked it better when he met me at 116 pounds, two years ago.  Since then I've only lost three pounds.  He keeps buying me candy when I don't want it and places it close by when we watch t.v.

I've taken it to heart and decided not to lose any weight just maintain. 

My boyfriend is the same... actually he is a big time runner (he burns over 1,000 calories on a run) anyways, he thinks i can eat what he eats- he eats a really healthy diet, but just lots of it- he has to- so his mentality is as long as it is healthy, you can eat it- he doesn't get that i need to consume like a gazillion calories less than him.

I've tried a diet and told him how serious i was, it lasted for three days and then he (not thinking) wanted to surprise me and make my favorite (healthy but not part of the detox stage) dinner......

I want to lose weight as i have type II diabetes and when my doctor said that i had to take some other precautions for my high blood pressure and cholestorol(?), i advised my wife.   The response that I got was lovely < this is a direct quote>:  Rob, your health is not my responsibility.  you were like this before we got married. 

Talk about supporting ones spouse..........in sickness and in health.....

 

i didnt know that when i said "till death do us part",  i was setting a goal...............