he's 25, i'm 19

is that too big an age gap?

he really is a lovely guy but is 5+ years older than me :s

Well if it matters to you then yes --

I've dated guys who anywhere from 5- 25 years older than me.  My oldest daughter is living with her boyfriend - 10 years older than her she turns 21 next mnth.  It doesn't bother me he's a nice guy treats her right and has a career.  They started dating when she was 18.  

If you don't feel right about the age issue then it isn't right for you.  Don't worry about what other people think.  My daughter has had to hear about some bad comments like "Gabe couldn't come to this party cuz he had to babysit Ally"  but that is the other persons problem - heck maybe jealousy!

My husband is 15 years younger than me and we're perfect together. Age schmage who cares about it

5 years is nothing generally speaking once you get older, but at the age you are at now it may be too big a gap.

The main concern for me when I was that age and dated a guy also about 25 was that he was able to get into bars and have drinks and I wasn't. Sometimes this was a problem when we were trying to go out with his friends etc. Plus I was still in college and he wasn't. Our priorities were completel different. These are minor concerns overall but can greatly affect a relationship, especially at the beginning. It didn't last for us.

However, now I am in my 30s and I am dating a man 6 years older than me, and it's like nothing at all, not even a remote consideration.

Overall 5 years is not a big gap, but depending where you are in life right now, it may be. 

Truthfully, it all depends on you and him.

I don't think it's a very big age gap at all.  I used to date guys 5 years older than me because I felt like I was more on the same maturity level  with them than I was with guys that were my own age.  If he is a nice guy and you are interested in him, give it a shot, because you never know.  Love has no age limit or requirements.  :) 

thanks everyone. living in england the getting into bars etc isnt a problem as long as i have my i.d

..i suppose i'll just see how it goes :D

I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 23. We started dating 5 years back and we moved in together a few months ago.  It really depends more on your personalities I guess; if you have stuff in common etc. We're both artists so we can do fun things together but we also argue about art :p

I used to date a guy that is 25 when I was 17. (I am 18 now). I thought that I wanted someone mature and all...but I really felt that he was too old for me, it was weird:S

you're over 18, you're a big girl now.  You can make your own choices.

I agree that if it is an issue for you right now (has you concerned or anything) than it might be a problem going forward.
It really is a personal thing, and no rules or guidelines apply to everyone.

How do YOU feel about it?
Him?
Your family? (guessing that might be an issue?)

i think i'm okay with it personally

he says he thought it might be an issue just cos his friends are teasing him etc but theyve stopped now he seems a bit more serious about it

i'm not sure how pleased my parents would be - i think my mum knows he's older than me and she knows we've been out with eachother [to gigs and for drinks/food]. we all work in the same place so its quite nice that she can know about what he's like and form an opinion on him before i might have to introduce him to her

..i know i can deal with talking to his friends and older people, i'd just like him to spend some time with my friends but know, as i feel a little more mature than them that they'll reflect on how mature i seem. i love my friends, but they are damn silly sometimes x

Im 25, and my bf is 34.   You're an adult!   Have fun, and if hes a great guy, and it doesnt bother HIM, then it shouldnt bother you! 

as of yesterday he is my boyfriend! its all lovely

..he's even met my parents and most of friends havent done that

hehe!

nothing wrong with it.  My hubby is 12 years older than me.

My husband is 6 years older than me and I'm still more mature!

congratulations -- and 5 years is nothing in the grand scheme of things, unless you let it be.

what seems like a big age gap now, isn't going to matter much once in about 5 more years.  I'm glad he's met your parents so you can feel more comfortable.

I am 23 and my boyfriend is turning 31 next week.  We have been together for a year and a half and are very happy.  I don't think age is important as long as the couple has a lot in common.  I met my boyfriend in college, it was my first time and he had come back to get a second degree.  That made a big difference since we had school in common and we are both in the same field (wildlife biology), both looking at graduate schools and doing field jobs.  SO as long as you are equal and can relate, don't sweat it.  Good luck to you two!

I don't think that's a big deal at all, especially since you are over 18.

When I was 15, I dated guys who were 20 & 21, and when I was 17 I had a 26 year old boyfriend. At this point, all I can say is that not only does that make them weird, where the heck were my parents?

Now, of course, I'm 29...and my husband is 23 :)

i love him *blush*

he is the best thing that has ever happened to me

My mom and dad are thirteen years apart.  They've been together for more than twenty years.  If you dig him, go for it.  Age is just a number.  Unless one of you is under eighteen and the other isn't.  Then it's a potential misdemeanor.