hi! im ttc # 1 and need advice!

hey there, well heres my little story, im 19 yrs old and married 3yrs,  and 5'7 weighing at 169 lbs. my husband and i decided we want to try to have a baby but i want to lose atleast 39 lbs! i dont want to be in the 200's wen im pregnant. believe it or not some women(like me) say they gonna maintain a light weight and not gain much during pregnancy but i know im gonna gain a load....(example) im not pregnant now and i gained 40 over 1 1/2 yrs!!! scary! i just want to know just incase i maybe preggers what type of food and exercises can i do to loose weight but not too much ab work???  thx! feel free to add me as a friend, i really need some lol i know it sounds cheesy but i do need some buddies that are on the same boat as me! lol thanksssssss!!! 

If you are pregnant your doctor will tell you that you cannot & should not diet during your pregnancy or at least thats what my doc told me and I was over weight to begin with. When you get preggers you dont have to eat an excessive amount of food I believe in the beginning you only need a around 100-200 calories more than when your not preggo again thats what my doc said. I didnt want to gain a ton during my pregnancy and I only ended up gaining about 25 pounds with my twins. The first time however I ate like it was going out of style and gained 70-80  Sorry long story short just watch what you eat and try to eat really healthy and you should be able to keep the weight gain under control. About the exercise my doc said I could do anything I was already doing but couldnt start anything new and no ab work. HTH you can also feel free to add me as a friend I would love to help you out in any way that I can. Good luck!!!