my hips (love handles) make me cry at night

I for the most part like my body - i find at times though my eyes swell up with tear at the sight of flab on both sides of my waist - i have a short waist so to me it doesnt look like an attractive silhoette.

it just seems like they are there and they make up most of my body! *sigh*

Im trying everything i can possibly so - i want the perfect boday  - even if they were a bit lower at least i would feel they are a nice shape - and dont get me started on the view from the back- its look like my bum is huge cause of my hips :(

Don't cry...you are not defined by the size of your hips! I"m sure you have a lot to offer the world, and that's what matters. That being said, if you aren't happy, resolve to take action. I don't know if you're exercising/dieting, but if not, find an activity you enjoy and go for it. I feel your pain...I get really depressed too, about my body. But, then I remind myself that I'm trying really hard to change it, and that it just takes time. And at the same time, I realize that I'm the only one with a problem w/my body! No one else cares! I think about all of my positive aspects that make me who I am.

Do it for yourself...and don't cry. Chin up!!

hips aren't the same as love handles, anyway. Hips are determined by the size of a woman's pelvic bone - which will never be smaller or bigger than the size it was meant to be. Love handles are those floppy things of fat on the woman's waist/stomach area. Those can be changed.

if it upsets you so much, then do something about it! you have the power!

every think of belly dancing?

I have love handles too..Belly dancing does help with tightening your core  I only do basic moves and it wears me out and leaves my waist area sore. Ive lost 5 inches off my waist since I started losing weight and toning still have 5 inches to go.  Give it a try!!!

wow belly daning that sounds great!!!

wow belly daning that sounds great!!!

Be kind to yourself. Love your body for the strength and health and beauty of it, don't look to match an impossible ideal.

Your body should not make you cry. You are 5 foot 8 and 142 lbs (or were, about a month ago). That's a lovely slender weight, and any grossness you see is in your mind, not on your hips.

Please please listen to me on this. You are at a healthy, slim weight and you could be spending your time SO much more productively than trying to lose weight!!!

@ penniepie i'd trade you bodies any day. There are so many of us who have a long list of things we hate about our bodies. I'll take your hips!

Love your body no matter what your shape is. I bet the belly dancing would be a blast to get involved in. Go for it girl! But please don't cry about it. Feeling that low is not healthy for anyone. Take a stance and shape your body, or love it for the way it is.

@ trustwomen - i LOVE that website. It really puts you into perspective. 

Trustwomen, I'd seen that website before, but I was shocked again after seeing it. These are some of the most stunningly beautiful women in the world, but that is not enough. They have to have every last vein, bulge, shadow, under-eye bag removed. This is beyond silly.

You look at the pictures and say, yeah, that body shape is actually impossible, women do not have ribcages like Barbie's, really they don't. BUt not having the before and after when perusing magazines, you cannot really tell how much reshaping has gone on.

 I'm just surprised that any woman (or most men) has a shred of self-respect left by the time she reaches 25.

 penniepie, I know it is difficult, but you are not only what you look like, but what you are and what you do. Do you think your friends and family would be at all happy if one day you woke up one day without the love-handles, but with a meaner personality? Would you trade 10lbs for one of your skills that you are proud of?

Don't give up on the goals for fitness and health, but don't spend a minute worrying about what other people think of you. When I was fit, I was confident, because movement and action was so easy. I want to get back to that again.

Maybe the focus on being able to do stuff you couldn't do before is something that could appeal to you. The more you do for your body, the more it will give back to you.

Ooh :( i feel exactely the same. I am 5'3 and 126lb (32e bra which I hope is where my weight is) but ALL the rest is love handle. I hate it and it is the sole reason I use calorie count to try and minimise it. No matter what I lose they never seem to go down, I just drop a bra size then end up wasting money by having to buy new bras!! Nightmare.