Got hit on again....I wish it would have been a girl.

So this is really awkward but I need some advice. I was at Wal-Mart today and this guy who looks about my age randomly comes up to me and asks me if I wanted to "go out" sometime. I said that I wasn't interested, but thanks anyway. He smiled and said okay, winked at me and then walked away. This has happened to me many times and it makes me wonder what it is that I'm doing to give off the impression that I'm gay. Even at college (which is a strict Catholic college) I have guy friends who have girlfriends who have hit on me. Now I'm not a homophobe, I'm actually flattered that someone would be attracted to me, but it's happening more frequently and it seems like less and less girls are hitting on me and more boys are. My girlfriend always jokes around that she has to keep me away from the girls and the guys but it's starting to bother me now. What can I do to give some visible sign that I'm not gay? I'm always nice to everyone and friendly. Could that be a reason?

could be how you dress or your mannerisms..?

Its cool that you arent like *some* guys who would immediately have their manhood threatened and bunch the poor (wrong) guy out...

Wear flannel.

Original Post by davefiredancer19:

could be how you dress or your mannerisms..?

Its cool that you arent like *some* guys who would immediately have their manhood threatened and bunch the poor (wrong) guy out...

 No, I dress and act like a guy.

Are you wearing sweatpants that say "juicy" on the butt?

Shirt that has arrow on the back pointing down and says "exit only".

 

It could be that they just think you're attractive, and are hoping you're gay? Not that you necessarily look it. I dunno..

Original Post by bettypage4:

Are you wearing sweatpants that say "juicy" on the butt?

 Nope. Ha ha. I do not currently own any sweatpants that have provocative words on them.

Edit: Vicereine I know that this all sounds weird, but that's not the case. I always assume that everyone is straight (I know, bad mindset), and I wouldn't know if someone was flirting with me or not. It's just that guys do ask me out. I mean not frequently, but more often then I think would be normal (if this is normal?). I definitely know that I'm straight, which is why I'm asking this question on how to prevent gay guys from hitting on me. 

Original Post by skierdude:

Original Post by bettypage4:

Are you wearing sweatpants that say "juicy" on the butt?

 Nope. Ha ha. I do not currently own any sweatpants that have provocative words on them.

 I'm sorry.  I had to ask  ;)

I would say there's nothing wrong with you. They simply find you too attractive to resist the urge to ask. And perhaps you don't look like some homophobe who would over-react (squeal and scream), so they think it doesn't hurt to ask.

My ex-boyfriend rather resembles you. He's not homo, but neither is he homophobe. He makes friends regardless of their sexual orientation. He gets hit on by guys more than girls (I happened to witness once...urgh, didn't I look like I owned him?)

Anyway, he consulted some of his gay friends about it, and they said that:

1. he's too cute

2. there is an overall openness/friendliness about him that makes him seem approachable.

 

Hey, skierdude, you must be one charming man!

I think it's great that they're willing to make the effort and take the risk of asking you out.  As long as they take a polite "no" for your answer I just don't see the problem.  You can start cultivating phrases such as.."are you setting me up with your sister?", "I'm still looking for a girlfriend", "I'm so flattered, but I've got a thing for girls", etc.

Stop shaving (your face).

I dont think its much different then a girl hitting on you thats not your type. Male or female, someone hitting on you that you arent interested in is flattering but not something you would act on.

There arent any "signs" that you are gay or straight (unless you run around in rainbow spandex and speak in a lisp saying everything is "fabulous")...well...besides how you look at someone i guess. Oh ho! Now we know the truth! You were checking him out first and he noticed!! *gasp!*

I'm the same way. More guys hit on me than girls.  I usually just give them a polite "not interested" and move on with my life.

Perhaps its a combo of being attractive and seeming approachable.  If it had happened to me several times, I dont think I could resist the temptation to ask if there was anything that made them think I was not that there necessarily would be but just in case, I'd be curious.  With such a question, you may discover though that there wasnt and that the person was just hoping because they were attracted to you.

Original Post by loriklorik:

I dont think its much different then a girl hitting on you thats not your type. Male or female, someone hitting on you that you arent interested in is flattering but not something you would act on.

There arent any "signs" that you are gay or straight (unless you run around in rainbow spandex and speak in a lisp saying everything is "fabulous")...well...besides how you look at someone i guess. Oh ho! Now we know the truth! You were checking him out first and he noticed!! *gasp!*

 Ha ha. Some of these comments are hilarious. I guess maybe I should just forget about it. But he scared the **** out of me because he came out of nowhere and just started talking while I was in the middle of grabbing a bag of Lay's potato chips.

You can't really control it.  Just say thanks and enjoy the attention or don't.  Just be courteous and go about your business.

I have the opposite problem. Girls hit on me, quite often actually. And, while I am flattered, I really wish men would give it a try once in awhile. lol.

dont forget men tend to be a bit more.... headstrong then girls... so it seems as though you are getting hit on more by men because they are more open about asking you out.

whereas you are probably just not noticing the hordes of women flirting with you, just begging for you to realize that playful punch in the arm really meant, "oh my god please please please just ask me out.  and oh i wish your girlfriend would disappear too."

 

I agree with drea. And from my experiences with my gay friends, they're also pretty open about asking guys out (moreso than straight guys I know are with girls). I'd just say, "I'm flattered but I'm not interested." And walk away...