hmm...boyfriend and guy on the side BOTH in town this weekend. ahhh....

i'm still soo infatuated with my old neighbor who moved 3 hours away a few years ago. every time he comes to town we rekindle what we had, and he is so amazingly perfect. but i've been dating this other guy for months now, who is now my "main squeeze" (hahaha). he's in college, and i'm a senior in high school. they're both coming into town this weekend, and my parents are OUT of town for friday night and have given me the go-ahead to let my boyfriend stay over that night. but how do i resist my old neighbor? HE'S GEOOORRRGEOUS and yummy...

don't be a jerk to your "main squeeze"  either be true to him or let him go.  don't string people along.

I don't know, I've been married 12 years and have managed to keep my hands off of every hot person I see out of respect for my wife and the promise I made.

I know a BF is different than a husband, but every time fool around you are **** all over the trust he's given you and you're not worthy of it.

What's sad is not that you're asking how to "resist the temptation" (like this guy was just some hot fudge sundae), rather than how to deal with the guilt, because apparently you don't feel any, which I guess means that you don't really care about your "main squeeze" at all, just yourself.

Sorry if you are getting responses you don't like - don't know what you expected.

Dump the poor guy and go out with your old neighbor. What you're doing is horrible.

I take it you've never been cheated on? And that you don't believe in karma?

 

Hm...OP has 30 posts under her belt.

Methinks more attention has been given this thread than has been warranted.

I agree. There is a diferance between dating and marriage. Still yet. That being said the only way this is okay... Is if they're under that impression you're ' dating ' different people.  Meaning neither of you're set on the other. You're dating different guys and he's  dating an assortment of girls. If you're both ' dating ' other people and each other it's fine. If you're both aware that you are just casually dating.  Otherwise, it's considered courtship meaning you're exclusive to each other.  Progressing into serious steps towards marriage. If that is  the case that loyalty isn't anything to be scoffed at. If your current boyfriend ' doesn't know ' because you're pretending you want an exlusive relationship that's betrayal. Shame. Dishonor. 

In the words of Mushu " Oooh! All right, that's it! Dishonor! Dishonor on your whole family! Make a note of this. Dishonor on you, dishonor on your cow."
 

I swear some of you were never teenagers before........

Granted the parents letting the bf stay over on the weekend and she is only in HS I dont agree with but having different bf's and experimenting as a teenager is not unheard of and certainly nothing you guys should be calling her a PIG for. GEESH so freaking critical of ppl on here..............

I suppose you are all Nun's and Priests.............never even had sex and your children are emaculate conceptions!

elbows, just think of how hurt your "main squeeze" would be if he were to walk in, and all of the reasons why you like him.

I know when the "other" guy's around, it's easy to only focus on the bad in your bf.  But you're obviously with him for a reason, so focus on those reasons.

You might also want to establish some "no touchy" ground rules with your neighbor.  That way nothing can accidentally go too far.

I think there's a wee difference between having sex and cheating on your boyfriend, angie.

This is poor judgement on your end, elbowsmcgee. If you care about your boyfriend at all, stop seeing the other guy, no matter how yummy he looks. Cheating in a relationship is not acceptable, no matter what age you are.

HK no doubt cheating is never good. I am taking it for what it is though and im thinking the bf thing isnt that serious.......otherwise she wouldnt be wanting to cheat with the neighbor guy????

I just think ppl tend to forget what its like growing up and becoming an adult. Boyfriend or not she isnt married nor is she tied down to this guy.

I guess, as I see it, I don't think we should be condoning bad choices simply because she's growing up. Clearly, she's going to make some bad decisions as she grows up. We all do and have.

I agree, it doesn't sound like the boyfriend thing is very serious at all, but.. still... *shrug*

I was reading.. what was it? I forget.. that actually it isn't until late teens that a person's worldview starts extending past themselves. That, really, yes all kids and teens ARE selfish. That's just how they grow up. It was an interesting read. Wish I could remember where it was so I could link to it. 

Angie,

 It's thinking like that that leads to cheating and divorce in marriages.  I wasn't a tramp when I was younger, I'm not THAT old, really, and I haven't forgotten what it was like to be a teenager.  But, seriously, I wish I HADn't dated any of the guys I did date.  The only good that came from those relationships was that I experienced bad relationships firsthand, and that when I got married I wouldn't marry a guy like that.  In all actuality, that is common sense and I didn't need to date them, but I digress.  Elbows is on the path to becoming an infidelitous wife, who will probably, once married, cheat on her husband with "yummy" guys off the internet.  Eventually, one day, she will be the fan and it will all hit her.

HK if you find the link post it or send it to me you got me curious.

thats funny you say that because I been married for 12 yrs now and have yet to cheat on hubby are you saying in my line of thinking im doomed to do so..........lighten up seriously shes a teenager!

just want to be sure I'm understanding you Angie, are you saying

Go ahead and have your BF over and then figure out how to hook up with your old flame?  You're a teenager so you're still learning how to make your way in life and you're bound to do things like this?

na im not saying that at all in fact if you actually read my first post i said I dont condone it........im just saying you guys really need to lighten up and some of the comments throwed at this girl were not neccesary to get your points across if you ask me.

If I could offer my opinion on a few things...

I dont think Angie is advocating that the OP sleep with her "main squeeze" and then turn around and sleep with her former neighbor. I think shes more or less saying, the OP is young and likely on the immature side (as most teens are) and to cut her a little slack. I take what Angie is saying as shes young and should be dating other ppl too - no sense in being tied down at 17 or 18. And I agree - have fun, play the field! I dont think Angie was saying "sleep around" or "cheat on your boyfriends". And if she did cheat on him - yes its wrong and it hurts. But come on, it doesnt necessarily set her up for a lifetime of being a cheater. Shes young, shes foolish - werent we all at that age? Plenty of ppl were faithful to their high school sweethearts, yet have cheated on their spouses. And vice versa. I had a boyfriend when I was younger and ended up making out with someone other than him. Im not saying it was right, but you know what, I learned from it. I learned that it hurt him and it eventually hurt me - and Ive never done that again.

Sometimes I feel like ppl jump all over Angies responses unfairly or too quickly. Yeah, shes wacky and sometimes controversial, but all in all from what I know of her - she means well and is here to offer her opinions just like everyone else. Just sayin...

My advice to Elbows - if you want to date 2 guys, fine. But you need to let them both know that you dont want to date exclusively at this point of your life (and hell youre young, why should you - sorry, thats how I feel). And you need to be prepared for the fact that one or both of them might not accept that. But please - be honest with everyone involved. I also STRONGLY advise AGAINST sleeping with more than one man at a time. That to me, just isnt right. Dating doesnt have to equal sex. I have told this to my son when it comes to sex - Im realistic about premarital sex, it happens, I know. But I think you should wait to have sex until youre in a committed, loving (singular) relationship and when youre truly mature enough to handle the possible consequences of sex (pregnancies etc).

Just my 2 cents...

aww thanks kerry my slut in shining armor hehe

may i just point out...her BF is in college and she is back in high school. i'm sure he's getting her back for her cheating ways. just sayin....

Original Post by angiethe1_2005:

aww thanks kerry my slut in shining armor hehe

No problem Ang, you crazy bish! LOL Just stating my opinion on things I read =)