honest thoughts please

I have just posted my before and after pics and need to know what you think. Everytime I look in the mirror today (most days for that matter) I do not like what I see. My husband thinks I look hot (ha ha). That is not what I think. We actually got into a little spat about it tonight. I just need some other thoughts (not that my husbands don't count, cause they do). What do you think?

Your husband's thoughts do count, I agree with him hot stuff.

Btw, you don't look 30! Good job on that.

You look FABULOUS!  How tall are you?  My goal weight is 155 - I'd love to be where you are :) 

You look AMAZING!  I would kill for your arms. 

There is no comparison, it's like night and day. You didn't suit being 252lbs, 152lbs looks really, really good on you. Congratulations on the weight loss and stop letting the mirror lie to you!

I am 5'5'' and want to get to 145 at least if not less. Thank you for your nice comments. I just hate the mirror some days more than others.

You need to get use to your "new" body.  You look great and most important, you look healthy.

Your husband is telling the truth and the mirror is lying to you.  Take a few pictures and put them where you will see them, so that you get use to the new you.

Congrats on the weight loss, you did good.

Try not to be too had on yourself - you really do look good!  I only post when I believe it!  I think it takes awhile for what you see in the mirror to really be what you are in reality after changing so drastically.  You'll get there :)

I know I have not gotten use to my new look yet. Every once in a while I will get a comment from someone about not being a very big girl and I think "who are you talking about?" I will take me a long time to realize they meant me. How long does it take to get use to your new self? I have been at this for 2.5 years, I should be use to it by now.

It might take a while to get to know your new body.  Tell yourself every day how good you look, after a bit you will believe it,

Wow you look so cute now! and I love your tan :) Congrats to the new bod.

youve come a long way which is good but you still have a long way to go. unless youre okay with settling..

Did you want honest opinions or were you just fishing for compliments? Honestly, I think you look okay. You've made a lot of progress though, so that's good.

I am not ok with settling. I will reach my goal, that I know.

I have just been a little whinning today sorry. I know I should not think like this but somedays I can't help it.

edit:I am not fishing for compliments. I really honestly want to know what people think about the way I look. I don't know how my ideas about myself and my husbands can be so different. I needed a few thoughts on the matter and who better to ask then strangers, they won't lie to you.

Original Post by pinthin:

youve come a long way which is good but you still have a long way to go. unless youre okay with settling..

Don't listen to the troll, he/she is pathetic.

I understand about not realising how you look to other people. I find myself looking at other women going "is that how I look?"; a process which I have found has brought me into line with what I actually look like now. You're used to thinking of yourself in a certain way, you just need to teach yourself that you're not the same sized person anymore. Trust me, your husband is way more objective than you on the matter and he is right. I swear to god, night and day.

Original Post by p0nda:

Original Post by pinthin:

youve come a long way which is good but you still have a long way to go. unless youre okay with settling..

Don't listen to the troll, he/she is pathetic.

HAHAHAHA the troll. thats funny. Look at how much weight you've lost! Your amazing!

F*** the thread trolls.

Wow!! Tammy you look amazing, 100lbs down do you realise what an acheivement that is!!

Everyone has down days and parts of themselves that they don;t like but seriously you look great, share that achievement with your husband and get that bod out!!  :o)

You look great!  When I had lost a lot of weight (also about 100lbs), I often really couldn't see the difference in the mirror, which is really weird, but without comparing to things about the "old" me, I just couldn't really feel it.  Then I look at clothes I used to wear (such as you did with your pics), and that is when you can really tell what big progress you have made.

Congrats on your results so far!  Well done.

You look wonderful. And if you live where those picture were taken, wow, how beautiful. I think it takes a while for your mind to catch up to where your body is. Let your husband think what he wants, no need to fight about something as subjective as what you look like!

i have to agree with your husband. he is right and cut him some slack. guys hate to hear their women talk about how she looks. they hate it! if he says you look great, you tell him he is lying. if he says you look like you could stand to lose a few pounds he is considered a non feeling pig. how is the dude to win? guys see us out of different eyes than we see ourselves. we are VERY lucky for this. they dont look for flaws. they look at us and love us and the only thing they are thinking is "damn i'm glad she is mine" that's it. true story.

so, for your marriages sake, leave him alone on this subject. it is a place he dreads going trust me. that is what girlfriends are for.

you look great and if you need reassurance, put on a sexy dress and go to the mall and count the rubber neckers!!

I am with your hubby :)