How's this for a break up letter! ;D
we are over with all of this. you threatened to shoot me in the face and you have no concept of space. u called me a dumb bitch on the phone on the way over to the house (among other insulting comments i can't remember exactly) i was taking it slow just in case you turned out to be as crazy as you did turn out. we have only known each other for a short amount of time and you completely attached yourself to me to the point i couldn't breath (you dont even know me, you couldn't possibly "really" know me enough to already have the feelings you were expressing) you seem to need a woman in your life regardless who she is. im not a mean person (ever) but you found a way to rub me the wrong way.
here is a list of the things i couldn't take
1. calling me your "baby" every 4 minutes (and or) asking me "whose my baby?"
2. constantly making sexual induendoes toward me (spelling?)
3. telling me what i like/love all the time. (i know what i like, im not weak minded)
4. the fact that you could never understand why i was mad at you when i made it as clear as day from the very moment you would do something that pissed me off. (it almost seemed like you thought i would just forget if you acted ignorant and or confused)
5. the fact that you would joke about hitting/smacking/shooting/stabbing women.
6. you have every possible sign of a control freak.
7. insisting that i was your girlfriend when i never agreed to that but i got tired of denying it.
8. you obviously had a huge problem with me not wanting sex yet (I ONLY KNEW YOU FOR 1 WEEK AND THREE DAYS) but you would deny it being a problem... i hate people who just tell you what you wanna hear which u were doing so very obviously.
9. you are a tool.
10. you have temper tantrums like a small child...
11. you blame everything on the alcohol.
12. you even tried to manipulate me through my friends!!!
13. you are paranoid all the time about stupid ****; you seriously need to be on your own for a bit to gain some self esteem. you have alot to work with. you just need to work on your mental security/stabilty and you could be the coolest guy ever. but right now you are a mess.
- so, i probbably could go on even more... but that would just be mean and over kill.
i wrote all of this the way i did and as harsh as i did because this seems like the most efficiant way to make myself clear to you and/or help you take a look at yorself. i like to be perfectly clear on my feelings because you really shouldn't go on into a next relationship thinking that that behavior is acceptable.
i tried to develope feelings for you because my friends liked you (well... did like you) and you did seem like you were sweet (you really weren't, it was just a form of control weather you realize it or not)
if you are still wondering why i am mad at you (you always do...) then you can scroll up and read over the list as many times as you need. ^_^ i believe i gave you 13 things to chew and swallow.
~moon_bay~
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good thing he has no clue where i live :D
Lolz Thats harsh, but sometimes thats what people need...
um...wasn't the second sentence enough justification?
that guy really brought the bi*ch outa me :P
wtf...he threatened to shoot you in your face!!?!?
Original Post by jblarghp:
wtf...he threatened to shoot you in your face!!?!?
yeah, did i mention he had just gotten out of jail two weeks ago... he is not aloud to own a gun anymore. lucky me.
- i learned a lot from this experience.
am i allowed to say hes an a**hole? lol
Run, do not walk, as far away from this freak as you can! Sounds a lot like my ex-husband: really sweet and thoughtful when we were first together, ended up punching my in the face while I was 7 months pregnant with our twins! Took me ten whole years to get rid of that little piece of ****, but rid of him I was and thrilled when he left! Didn't care that he left our three children at home alone while I was at work, and stole everything he possibly could get into his car when he left!
Last December I married my best friend/lover/companion after we'd been together over 13 years. Happiest I've ever been.
That little piece of **** is living in his truck, unemployed, still psycho after all these years, and really doesn't have too much of a relationship to our 3 grown children. The kids figured him out a long time ago. Smart kids!
Watch your back with this guy. Sometimes they don't give up easy. And, by the way, there's no way to fix his bad wiring-he is what he is. Bad news.
If you've only gone out with him for a week and a half you don't owe him a "break-up letter", just tell him it's not working out and you don't want to see him anymore.
Like mrsdustbag said, this letter won't fix him, and from the way you describe him it sounds like there's not much that will. Just walk away, don't waste any more angst or frustration on him. He's not likely to read this and suddenly be introspective and enlightened, but he might get angry, and he doesn't sound like someone you'd want to have angry at you.
Just walk away. Quietly.
I agree with shandykat. I was about to write that it is not safe to get that person angry. Just run away from him. you don't want to put yourself in danger.
Just because he isn't allowed to own a gun doesnt mean that he can't get one. I wouldn't send him this letter. I would just say hey its not working out and leave it at that. Speaking from experience, you don't want to piss off these types of guys and a letter like this would.
Good Lord, run don't walk. Just because he is not supposed have a weapon, does that really matter? Actually, I might be at the police station telling them what he threatened to do.
I am not passing judgment, but do you know what he was in jail for? The letter is not a good idea at all and he will just put the blame on you anyway. Do we know what he do, no we don't
Why do you feel the need to explain to such an awful person why you want nothing to do with him? You owe him nothing and shouldn't care what he thinks or feels. Just cut off all contact and ignore him from now on. That means ALL CONTACT. If he gets nasty, report it to the police. Save any nasty emails, phone messages and any other evidence of abuse and harrassment.
the reason i had to go into explaination on why i dont want to be with him is because he was so incredibly clingy... i dont know if i can emphasize that enough. this dude could not take no and would do anything to get what he wanted so i descided to put it in his face. besides i was really pissed off and it was a good anger relief.
this guy has no clue where i live btw, and he has no form of transportation yet, that is why i am not afraid for my life, he kinda lives far away.
seriously - do NOT give him the letter. You have PLENTY of reasons to put a restraining order out on this guy. I agree with the above people - he is NOT going to change just because of that letter. But he might get violent - he's already told you so, according to your statement above. If he's told you he wants to shoot you in the face, slap or otherwise abuse you, BELIEVE it!
dump him, get a new cell phone/telephone number, tell your friends to tell him they don't know where you are.
v.
I think a restraining order might be more appropriate than a break up letter.
Original Post by moonbay:
the reason i had to go into explaination on why i dont want to be with him is because he was so incredibly clingy... i dont know if i can emphasize that enough. this dude could not take no and would do anything to get what he wanted so i descided to put it in his face. besides i was really pissed off and it was a good anger relief.
this guy has no clue where i live btw, and he has no form of transportation yet, that is why i am not afraid for my life, he kinda lives far away.
not trying to scare you but how do you know if one of your friends or anyone for that matter who knows where you live wont tell him.. he might threathen them or act like nothing has happened and they might be like sure she live here...
Original Post by sadiehope:
I think a restraining order might be more appropriate than a break up letter.
I agree.
The guy sounds terrifying, and just because he's not allowed to own a gun ... well, if he's been in jail sounds like he's probably OK with breaking some rules!
I wouldn't instigate him by saying things that you feel are explanatory, but he might take as seriously insulting. Maybe a one-line "I'm not actually interested in being your girlfriend, please stop contacting me" would cut it.
I agree that giving him a letter such as you've written above could be dangerous. I think you should just tell him you're not interested in dating him and leave it at that.
I agree with the posters above who suggest getting a restraining order. This man sounds very dangerous.
well, i hope it helps put everyone at ease to know that all my friends know that he is a jerk now and to not talk to him because they were all there to whitness his drunken episode and that caused it to be the last stand.
i know my friends wont disclose my location let alone talk to him. i didn't mean to make everyone worry, i thought this would be a very interesting read for anyone, maybe a little funny. but i apreciate everyones concern, i really do, you guys helped me see things a bit differently.
ha, to be honest all my friends and family just found it funny, but now i realize that it could be a bit dangerous.
~moon~
