Husband = Diet Sabotage

Honestly, why is it everytime I am doing well, my hubby decides he wants to go out to eat? Not only that, but he is "craving" Red Robin. What, is he getting his period?!? If you have never been to this establishment, they serve HUGE gourmet burgers (veggie versions for those of us that prefer the non-animal version) with, are you ready for this, ALL-YOU-CAN-EAT STEAK FRIES!!! I may have failed to mention that I am a potato junkie. I love all potatoes in any form!! Fries are my biggest weakness and he is taking me to a place that lets you order them until you puke!!

I went online to pick my dinner and of course they do  not offer nutrional information, which by the way, really irks the crap out of me, and I am going to order the lettuce wrapped boca burger, no cheese with mustard not dressing and a small salad, hold the F'ing fries. Though I know he will order mountains of those greasy, delicious, wedges of sheer pleasure and I am going to have to tie my arms to the chair to keep from eating them. I figure the boca burger is the least evil and will cost me about 200 cals. Havin it wrapped in lettuce vs. bread will save me a crap load of cals. I am guessing my dinner will total out to be about 450 calories all said and done and that puts me over my alloted amount by 200 and on a "non- exercise" day too. I really wanted a good weigh in tomorrow for the start of the biggest loser challenge.

Sorry, I tend to panic when my food plan get disrupted. Especially on a non-exercise day when I am doing so well. Am I the only one who has a difficult time staying on track because of someone in their life?

I never dreamed so many people had so many difficulties with food in their relationships.  I used to just eat anything; my wife bugged me a little, but not enough to be a deterrent (eh, you shouldn't go that route anyway).  For some reason, just hitting 200 lbs scared the snot out of me.

My mother's been nagging my father for as long as I can remember.  Doesn't do much good.  My father's tried Atkins and WW, and is currently on WW now, but he seems to always bounce back in the long run.  The interesting time about this round is that he made a deal with my mother that she had to stop insulting him in order for him to lose weight.  We'll see how it goes.
 
All in all, after reading all of this, all I can say is that my wife should be much more grateful for the kind of guy she ended up with! :D

I feel your pain, though I have to give my husband his due... he doesn't bring any of the banned items into the house. 

He has a very high metabolism & can and does eat anything & everything.  Even worse, he's passed it on & my son is underweight, while my step-daughter just makes a healthy BMI.  Sometimes a feel like a food pusher.  All the looking & none of the eating.

It's hard to choke down a salad looking at his burgers & dogs.  But, I figure, splurging once in a while is not going to sabotage anything & for the most part I control the menu.  Go this time, plan better next time. 

I usually plan a splurge day for him once a week(shhh!).  I stop at his favorite hoagie spot, I am the truly wonderful understanding wife bringing home yummy greasy food with dessert even.  The trick is I pick out things I don't like so they don't bother me a bit.  Good Luck. 

Try the "no restaurants" rule.  I laid down the law after we went out to expensive restaurants NINE TIMES in one month.  Eating all that food was killing my diet; I don't know how I lost weight that month.  My partner enjoys eating out and always brings home treats for me when I am getting most desperate in my diet efforts (pastries of all things!). The social pressure to eat out with everyone where I live is enormous, but I stuck to my guns on Saturday lunchtime and really hurt the feelings of our friend's wife.  I felt like hell about it long afterwards.  I don't know what to do about it.  Sunday we ate out with my partner's uncle who didn't have anyone to eat lunch with.  It's such a social thing, eating with people.

Hey, Nancy:

Your health is more important than someone's feelings.

Ask them if they want you to die prematurely. That ought to finish the conversation quickly. :-)

That's what I do, LOL...

For those of you who may benefit - like mpershing, for instance - I went to one of those meal prep places last month, and filled my freezer with meals that are pretty easy to fix and are also ALL OK with me on my eating plan. It was not much more money than I would have spent at the grocery store, maybe less. You still need to cruise the store for stuff like bread, salad, and fruit, but having a whole freezer full of "good" meal choices significantly de-stressed me.  They do all the prep work so I was able to package up 22 meals, 20 that would serve 3 and 2 that serve 6, in a little over 2 hours (if my hubby woulda come to help, it would have been an hour).  When you place your order, you can review the point and nutrition values in the comfort of your own recliner, which made it pretty easy to pass on the entrees that are too high in calories or fat. Everything looked good and what we've eaten so far has been good, although we did overcook the flank steaks and dried them out a little.

You do have to pull whatever you want for dinner that night out of the freezer in the morning and put it in the fridge. But even I can manage that, I'm a morning person and am better suited for decisionmaking at 7 am than at 5 pm after a full day at the office.

"I went to one of those meal prep places last month"

sagercih, I've never heard of such a thing. What was the name of this place? Do they have a website?

I have the opposite problem - my boyfriend doesn't push junk food on me and is supportive of my weight loss. Too supportive.  When I'm having a fat day and I mention it, he goes "well, just don't eat then." He thinks the quickest way to lose weight is to just not eat. Its kinda hard when I lose a pound and he goes "you could have lost two if you hadn't eaten dinner last night." He can go for two or three days without eating anything (I don't know how) but I need to eat every couple of hours or I get lightheaded. I remember when I started dieting last year and was doing it all wrong - working out an hour a day at least, eating under 1200 calories.  I'd tell him that I had burned 600 calories in my work out and only eaten 800 and he'd go "That's great!" I've tried showing him stuff now saying that I shouldn't just not eat but he doesn't believe me.

i'm with you guys too!  my husband is on WW (he has been struggling).  so i convinced him to start going to the gym which has helped him.  one of his "comfort foods" is pizza.  he wanted pizza the other night (like he deserved it or something).  so he orders 2 (one of them half veggie for me) :)

well, he isn't on this site, but we just played around and tried to figure out what  his expenditure is etc.  for him, he burns over 3000 cals a day not doing a damn thing!  I was so mad.  me, on the other hand, only burn about 1500.  (he's twice my size). 

so pizza, and he ATE!  i went to Subway, ordered a chicken grilled salad and ate that and one skinny slice of veggie pizza.  needless to say, the next morning i felt sick to my stomach.  it's hard for me to eat fast food

The meal prep places that I know of in our area are Dream Dinners and My Girlfriends Kitchen. I went to MGFK (it's www.mgfk.com) because I liked their May menus the best and they were a little cheaper.  You do have to plan a, because you have to place your order a few days ahead of time and make an appointment to go in (this is all done online). They will assemble your meals for you for a small fee but I'm too cheap for that.

It's way easier and much, much faster than doing once-a-month cooking on your own, because they provide everything you need up to and including packaging and cooking instructions.  So basically in the same amount of time it would have taken you to do a week's shopping you are done with at least half of your meal preparation for the month. You do still have to cook, but all the planning and prep work is already completed so it's very simple to get 'er done. The cost is less than "fast food for four" but more than "real cheap grocery shopping." (I'm feeding 2 teens, hubby and myself.) I split almost all my entrees into "serves 3" because my teens are often at work.

You can adjust the recipes to your families taste - leave out the mushrooms or add extra peppers.   I've been happy with it so far and my husband - who normally does our cooking - hasn't complained at all. It makes life way easier on weeknights.

The other girl that was in there the day I was doing my meals was there because although she was a good cook, she came from a large Italian family and her "good cooking" had put about 50 pounds on her new husband and a few on her as well because she just couldn't dial it back to cook for 2. 

We also have a place like that - "Super Suppers." I think they are mostly locally owned, so you'll probably have to look around in your own area. Sometimes, high-end grocery stores have similar programs.

I feel everyone's pain here. My boyfriend is SEVERELY overweight and a small part of me wants him to stay that way. That's how I fell in love with him, that's how I find him attractive. I've seen pictures of him at a smaller weight and I just don't think he looks as good. Recently though, he had to go to the E.R. for a stomach infection and they did a CT and came back and said he had a fatty liver, which is a sign of high cholesterol. He's 21! This seriously scared me, but it doesn't seem to affect him at all. When there is something he doesn't want to deal with he just shuts down.
As for me, I have 75+ lbs. to lose, and want to do it so I can spend a very loooooooong life with him.
I do most of the cooking at our house and most of the grocery shopping. Scratch that---all of the grocery shopping. So I make sure to make healthy choices and don't bring home any crap. I'm lucky in that he'll eat whatever I put in front of him...broccoli to pizza...to him, food is food. He just eats soooooo much! We do cook together a lot, and I'll ask him to heat the spaghetti sauce up. He'll pour in 2 jars! And at the end of the meal, I've had my half cup and the pan is close to empty. It drives me insane!
I try to tell myself that he's healthier eating lots of healthy foods than maybe a little less of fatty, greasy foods, but I know that he probably needs to change a lot, just like me. I don't want to me the nagging, annoying girlfriend...but I can't imagine living a day without him, I want him to see our grand-children grow up, I don't want him to have a heart attack or stroke at 40! Aaaaahhhhh!