Husband said "I'm just not attracted to you anymore"

Wow did that hit home.  We've had maritial problems for the past 10 years in 2005 we split up and I ended up loosing 40 lbs went from 215 to 175.  He then asked me to come back took me to a nice restaurant and put my wedding ring back on.  At the time I was on the 6 week body make over.  It was great when I was alone but as soon as I went back I went back to his old eatting patterns... his favorite thing for dinner is reservations! Well not really it's McDonalds.  I don't care for iceberg lettuce. So when we would order I'd try to get something kinda good like a grilled chicken sandwish no mayo and a small fry.  I wish they would put mashed potato's or baked potatoes on the menu.  Yes I could have ordered apple slices or a parfait but have you tasted their apples I don't think they are real apples least they don't taste it and the parfaits actually have more calaries then a small vanilla cone! So slowly the lbs packed on.  I was working as a waitress part time during dinner hours and got out at 10:00 at night by that time I was starving! Threw burger king I'd go to grab a bite before heading home.  I then joined wieght watchers, quit my job an got a new one where I was building filing cabinets.  I dropped 25 lbs then I hurt my back picking up and turning over a file cabinet.  I could hardly walk started going to a chiropractor it took over a year to get back to being able to move again.  Meanwhile I was out of work I put back on the lbs I was now up to 230 lbs!!! Well he finally says you need to get a job I can't handle the bills alone.  I had been trying but Michigan isn't the best place to find a job any more.  The last straw fell when the taxes came and my college loan desided to take all but $400 of our taxes.  He was so mad at me he actually told me to leave he couldn't be around me.  I ended up going to a friends house took our teenage son with me cuz he didn't wanna stay home.  Well he came to pick up our son who had gotten sick I asked if I was coming home too.  He said "yeah I guess" afterward we had a long sit down talk about me jobless, me fat, me worthless.  Well lady luck just happen to shine down on me that week cuz as I walked into the local grocery store there was a sign for open interviews that week.  So I gathered my resume and my papers and stood in like for almost 2 hours.  There were a ton of people that came and went that day.  I got my turn told the person what I've done what I can do and they were impressed I got a call the next week for a 2nd interview then a 3rd with the head manager then was told I was hired.  So I've been working now since the 17th.  So now I can pay my own car payment, put in my own gas and still be able to pay for some grocery's.  I started the job weighing in at 234.5 I work in the deli so I'm always on the go.  

We'll see how he starts to see me after a month or so.  I do so love him I've loved him since the day he walked into my life. 

Anyone else have a husband that just don't want them since they've packed on the lbs?

Honey, there are lots of us. However, in my case, I own the house, I have the job, etc.  So he can kinda bitch all he wants he does not have leverage. But, I do believe there are two things happening: 

1. He wants something pretty on his arm just like a woman wants to wear a nice diamond necklace well in alot of cases women are like jewelry for a man. 

2. He wants me to be healthy so that I can be alive for quite some time. I do believe this. 

3. We both like to run long distances and he wants to do more outdoor athletic activities , etc. But you have to fit into the kayak, ya know? 

So, that is my justification for my husband. BUT, we fight about it all the time. He would actually like me to get anorexia for a few weeks so I could lose weight - I told him he was a sick bastard... 

Figure out what your motivations are. What do you want for YOURSELF? What will make you happy? Clearly you are bothered by your weight and your health, take steps for yourself...