I think my husband's a little *too* supportive of me!!

So this is pretty funny... Every time I put on weight, and point it out to my husband, he comes up wtih a new "excuse" for why it's not really a weight gain, and why I look fabulous.

This is marvelous, of course, but not when I'm trying to lose!  I guess he wears rose-colored glasses when he looks at me or something :)

The latest..... We came back from the Jersey shore this wknd, and I weighed myself Tuesday (let's just say the scale was up a few).  His response was "It's normal to gain water weight when you're at the shore - it's something with the heat." Huh??

Other fun excuses: You're gaining muscle in your legs from running / your pants boobs just got bigger (response to gapping buttons on dress shirt) / you're harder on yourself when you're thin.

Hilarious!  Anyone else know what I'm talking about?

-Dana

Indeed!  My husband is exactly the same way.  I think they have taken the "never tell her she is fat" thing to an extreme.  However, it is nice to know that my husband loves me no matter what, and I think his break from reality in regards to my weight gain is kind of hysterical.  Also, it doesn't upset me because he is very supportive of my weight loss as well. 

As for the water retention at the beach, your husband may be right if you didn't drink enough water in the heat.  You could be slightly dehydrated which would cause water retention!  I too just got back from vacation, but I know that my small gain is not from dehydration but from eating wayyyyyyyy too much greasy American food (I live in Italy, so I go nuts when I visit my family in America). 

Original Post by dls337:

you're harder on yourself when you're thin.

I'm going to have to remember this one.

In all seriousness, he probably honestly thinks you look great just the way you are and doesn't want you to beat yourself up over an inconsequential few pounds.  Confidence is part of sexiness, and as long as the weight gain isn't drastic enough to affect your health, he's just trying to help and make you happy.

My DW's weight (or how much she appears to weight) fluctuates quite a bit with various "cycles."  I try to be supportive and encourage her to ignore it because: 1) she really beats herself up about it and shouldn't; 2) she is still at a healthy weight even with the extra pounds; 3) she still looks great; and 4) (and this is a selfish one) I find her sexier (and more fun/happier) when she's not obsessing over her weight and beating herself up for it.

Would you rather your husband was TOO supportive and enthusiastic of the idea of you losing weight?

Hey, KBella - thanks for the tip on the beach! Maybe it ISNT so ridiculous after all!  I love how you said "break from reality" -- very funny.

Haunted:  I agree that confidence is part of sexiness!  Unfortunately I think I appear confident to everyone BUT my husband, because he gets to hear the stuff I don't tell everyone else (i.e. no one else who knows me would have a CLUE that I think about my weight this frequently!).  Good point.

Also - I love the question you posed on the _alternative_!  Yikes - I would NOT want a dieting zealot for a spouse / someone tearing snacks out of my hand!  LOL.  I guess I have it pretty good :)

Ditto! My husband is the same way. But after I've expressed that he can't make a bit of weight gain trivial, he's more accepting of my weight woes. Now, he's more encouraging of eating healthy, but still he tries to make excuses for my weight gain, which I know in my right mind, are plain old excuses. He offers one like, "you're just bloated" "you drink alot of water" "it'll be back down tomorrow". Sometimes he's right, but it's still a  battle, and in the end I'm sure they will be supportive no matter what. One time I asked if he would still be attracted to me if I was 300 pounds, and he replied "I'd love u, and still do u". To this, I kept on admently saying that it was not possible...n he finally broke and said "250lb max, happy?" Lol.

My husband is the same way, “loves me just the way I am”, loves my “curves”. But the bad side is that I really let my weight get out of hand. No I didn’t NEED him to tell me, like I didn’t know my clothes were to tight, but maybe if he had mentioned it… I don’t know I think I wouldn’t have gotten so lazy about it. So now that I’m eating better and exercising he is very encouraging, goes with me to the gym & helps me with the weight lifting. BTW After much prompting on my part he finally admitted very gingerly that I could stand to lose some weight, LOL like I was going to break or didn’t already know that! But I’m grateful that he loves me regardless. And it sound like your husband does too.

Haha! this is so true, I said a few of those lines to my ex, but I did mean them of course. It be harder to reach your goals with someone always telling you that you look fine the way you are.

I'm glad I haven't got a husband

Azule - very cool that your husband is supportive to you no matter WHAT!  I think we are both very lucky :)  We'll always have that, whether we're a little heavier or a little lighter that day/month/year!

4Sparta - very funny lol!

You guys are very lucky! I have one of those husbands that has been telling me for years that I need to loose weight. His excuses have always been so I can be healthy and stay with him and our children longer but he ocassionally reminds me that some things would be easier without my belly in my way. Every now and then he used to tell me "Should you really be eating that? or You don't need that put it down." I have to admit though he is trying to be supportive of me trying to loose weight even though he has to eat an insane amount of calories a day just to maintain his weight.  He still tells me everyday no matter how much I have weight that I am beautiful though and he is proud of me for trying.

My fiance is worse than too supportive sometimes - he downright undermines my weight loss goals!  I keep a lot of my weight in my hips and thighs and have even gone up a cup size since gaining 20 pounds, and he doesn't want me to lose it!  It is super sweet knowing I'm appreciated and admired, but I'm ready to trade my oversized hips for a flat tummy!

My boyfriend will honestly tell me if I look like I've gained weight or if the outfit I'm wearing is unflattering.  He'll say "You look great the way you are, but maybe you would be sexier if you lost a few kilos," and "That dress kind of makes you look fat, maybe you should wear another one," etc.  At first it really hurt me, but I've come to appreciate it.  He's also Japanese, and it is culturally acceptable to comment on other people's weight in Japan.  I think if more Americans were like that then maybe we'd be more motivated to lose weight.

My husband has to be asked numerous times before I leave the house if I look ok. Sometimes he won't tell me till right before we leave what outfit I "should" wear instead lol....I love him though...he does tell me the truth after I bug him a little. He just tries not to hurt my feelings...He tells me if I do lose weight to not let my butt get too small lol. MY BUTT IS HUGE. So I don't think it's going anywhere lol.

My boyfriend's in the overly supportive category as well. He doesn't think I need to lose weight and sometimes, I think he'd prefer if I didn't. I don't want to be uber-skinny, I love my curves. I just really dislike my belly pudge.

Anyways, my boyfreind is constantly teasing me because he thinks I don't eat. I generally don't eat if we're with a group, but most of the time, I eat around him. He also comments on how the size of my T&A are perfect.

However, we had a conversation on my weight loss the other day that sums it up.
Him: I like you just the way you are.
Me: Now we just just need me to like me.
Him: And that's why I support your weight loss.

He's always been supportive of me making changes that make me happy. ^_^

I am a disgustingly happy newly wed. My husband and I are honest with each other. I put on 40lbs when I quit smoking (probably because I started drinking). He noticed that things were getting bigger and that I was buying a lot of new clothes, and agreed that while going up a cup size was nice it wasn't healthy to gain that much weight in a year. He is totally supportive and even comes to the gym with me on the weekends, but won't tell me I look great if I don't.

I think that is because before we met, he was a fat guy. About 3 years before we found eachother he lost about 120 lbs and has kept it off since. He says part of the reason he thinks he got so big is that no one ever said anything to him about it and his family are all obese. Then, one of his friends asked him if he was happy like that, and he realized he wasn't. Now he is 190lbs and I love him more because he has the old stretch marks from losing the weight.