I'll be 43 this June anyone around the same age want to join my weight loss quest?

Greetings!

I am hoping that this site I stumbled on will help me out. I have been on a diet or fighting with food my entire life. About 8 years ago I lost about 100 pounds, my lowest weight was 204 then I had my first child at 40. Now I am 220 and he'll be three this June. The only good news is that I do not weight 300 + pounds anymore having said that - No excuses, my food addiction problem has been out of control now since his birth. I try - and try - and try - and still nothing seems to be working. Maybe I can find a friend here who will help give me the strength I need to be healthy. I need to stay alive for my family.

Terry, that doesn't really sound like lack of endurance to me.  Are you sure you're getting enough fluids while you're out riding?  Maybe you're just coming down with something.  At any rate, I hope your ride tomorrow goes smoothly.

The cramping was a fairly new thing yesterday....although it happened once before a month or so back. My stomach and side were killing me.

I am just really tired and don't have a lot of strength lately. I mean it could be the heat. It has been pretty warm the last couple of weeks. I think yesterday was in the high 80s when we took off.

Hi everyone...

I won't be weighing in this week. It is my least favorite time, if ya know what I mean.

On anthother note..My youngest son is home from college and man do I wish I had his energy. He never slows down. Between his music and sports stuff I never see him.

Hope everyone has a good week.......

The ride went extremely well this morning. Not sure what is up. One day I am dog tired and the next I have more energy than I know what to do with. Finished the ride this AM with no problem. It was the most hilly ride I can remember. There were times when I honestly did not know if I was going to make it up, but I didn't have to walk the bike once. I finished an hour behind my son, but he is a 21 year old athlete, so I am okay with that. I finished well ahead of the others in our group.

Great news on the ride Terry. You probably should keep a log of foods and fluids to see if there is any connection with the days that you end up being too tired. It could be that your body got too "drained" on your ride days and didn't get fully "recharged" on your rest day.

So do you guys think the way your clothes "fit" can make you feel thinner or heavier? I went out last weekend and bought a few pairs of dress pants in size 34. I had been wearing 36 and they were getting pretty baggy. I really like the way the 34 pants fit, but they make me feel heavier because they fit a little more "snug". I guess I subconsciously relate my clothing fit to my weight. If my clothes are loose and baggy, I feel thinner. That is so weird. Seems wearing a smaller size would make me feel thinner.

It seems to work both ways with me.  I am thrilled when I can go down a size, but then when I look in the mirror, I feel like I look fat, and if I can feel the clothes touching me, I feel fat.  Then again, body issues are part of the reason I got fat to begin with; there is a certain level of invisibility that goes hand in hand with being overweight, and I am comfortable with that.

Hmmm...what do you mean when you say there is a certain level of invisibility with being overweight?

People don't notice you, or if they do, it's a random notice that doesn't stick.

I always felt like I “stood out” when I was much heavier…but that could have very well been a self conscious feeling. I can see what you are saying, but I don’t get the feeling that people notice me more now than before though.

My wife and friends say I am quieter and less social now. I suppose it could be that I felt invisible as you said and felt the need to initiate or join in conversations or activities? I am not sure…I do think part of it is a lifestyle thing. I mean what fun is going out for beer and wings after work or during a game when I don’t drink beer or eat wings? I typically avoid situations or activities that are centered around eating, drinking, etc.

I heard something on the radio last night coming home that I thought was interesting. I listen to John Tesh alot and he said people who are loosing weight still feel fat sometimes. Its like when people who are missing a limb they have phantom pain. Well people who loose weight have something similar to that. I know with me I have lost about 30lbs since I started my journey and I still feel fat and I don't see where I lost the weight, but friends at work see it and my clothes are 3 sizes smaller. Now thats a good feeling.

Anyway I hope everyone will have a happy and safe fourth of July. I won't be weighing in tomorrow. I am going out of town for the weekend.

Alicia~ 243

I know what you guys mean about body image.  I see myself as much heavier than I am; I get "fat days" fairly often.

Well, I went away for the weekend and *bam* 9 lbs at the start of the week.  I've since dropped 3 of that, but 6 pounds up from last week is still very discouraging, especially since there's no way I ate 3500 extra calories x 6 in four days (Friday through Monday).

It's been cool with showers here, so I've been getting in my runs at least, in between the showers.  If nothing else I'm getting in better shape, but I really would like to see downward movement on the scale without the sudden jumps upwards :(

Alicia~ 243

Cynthia - 192.4 (up 6.0)

Cynthia, I doubt you really gained 9 lbs in one weekend.  I'm willing to bet you ate more salty foods than you normally would and most of it is water weight.

As far as body image goes, even when I lost over 60 lbs doing Weight Watchers, I still did not see a difference in my appearance when I looked in the mirror.  Everyone else would tell me how good I was looking, but I still saw the same old fat Kathryn.  I wonder if I will ever see the difference in myself.

Only lost half a pound this week, but it's been a high stress, low sleep kind of week.  Hopefully, I will do better next week.

Happy July 4!  Everyone stay safe!

Alicia~ 243

Cynthia - 192.4 (up 6.0)

Kathryn ~ 211.5 (- .5)

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Sorry my friends....I forgot yesterday. I was off work for the holiday weekend. We for a ride with some buddies and then a movie and dinner with my wife. It was a nice day!

I have a holiday ride this morning. Probably be around 50 or so riders. It should good fun. I think it will only end up like 20 miles, but still getting outside and moving is always a good thing.   

Cynthia...I also doubt you gained that much in one week. Several months ago, I was away for a week and when I came back the scales said I gained like 5lbs, but it all "disappeared" within the week. Our bodies do some strange things. Don't worry about it and hang in there.

Alicia~ 243

Cynthia - 192.4 (up 6.0)

Kathryn~ 211.5 (-.5)

Terry - 191 (same)

Hello everyone....

I will not be weighing in this week. I have not been working out  and my eating has been kinda crazy.

My husband was in a bicycling accident on the fourth of July and is in hospital. He is pretty messed up. He broke his arm crushed bone in elbow and has head trama. He can't remember much of anything since the accident. He also has double vision.

So I have been spending time at hospital and that about all I am doing..

Hope everyone had a good week.

I'm really sorry to hear that Alicia, especially the head trauma with memory issues.  I hope he recovers quickly.  I can totally understand spending all your time at the hospital and eating the cafeteria food there.  I don't know what else to say except he's in my thoughts.

I'll start off today.  I had a pretty good week, except that I missed my run on Tuesday because it was pouring rain outside and I was feeling headachey anyways.  I'm down half of what I gained over the cottage weekend, so you guys are probably right and it's just fluid retention or whatever.

Alicia I was thinking last night about your husband.  I really hope they're able to treat his head injury and he doesn't have loss of function in his elbow.

Cynthia - 189.2 - down 3.2

Not a bad week, until today...I got rear-ended on the way to work.  Everyone is fine, so it could've been worse.  Alicia, I hope your husband will make a speedy recovery.  While you're taking care of him, remember to be good to yourself, too.

Cynthia - 189.2 - down 3.2

Kathryn - 210.5 ~ Down 1