okay, im getting annoyed. YOUR NOT FAT.

i keep reading about kids older than me...15/16 etc...that weigh less than me and think they are fat. its so discouraging. when someone thiner than you says they want to lose weight, its like..you must be a balloon! im 14, and people around my height that weigh around what i weigh think they are fat. its really bugging me. i was about 5'2" 1/2 and i was 103. i gained some weight and now im just trying to look good. but appearantly i have a looong way to go. considering everyone else thats already skinny wants to get even MORE skinny.

god. dont you people like food?? i starved myself and was pretty thin. then BAM. i got hungry. :/ im jealous. ahahahhaha sorry, had to get that out of my head.

I totally understand why it's discouraging to read that stuff but you need to focus on yourself not others. You don't know what might be going on in the head of some of the other girls with your weight who want to lose even more. They may have eating disorders, insecurities, health issues, different bone structure etc. They are not you. You are you. And you are beautiful. You have nothing to worry about, be confident in who you are and ignore everyone else. Get healthy, get fit and you will stay the gorgeous gal you are!

Yeah it is definatly discouraging to read about people who are even around the same weight as you who are trying to lose weight it does make you feel like crap.

But as nycgirl said you need to focus on yourself! It is your body, you are living in it. :)

yeah i know i should be focising on myself but im not like that at all. the way i determine if im fat or skinny is by comparing myself to other people. if i think theyre skinny i think if im fatter or thinner then them. sounds silly, but thats how i do it. trying to break that habit. haha

but people have different body types. even those people with naturally skinny body types who say they want to lose weight, could have as much body fat percentage as someone who shows it more.

i mean, i'm 5'0'' & i weight 113. but i'm like my body fat percentage is either 25 or 31 (diff sites keep telling me different things) & my bmi is 22.1. i'd like to get both of those numbers down. get in better shape. i know i'm not fat, i know i'm not skinny. but i just want to get in better shape & if i think i can, why not go for it?

i know how you feel. :) i want to go to a lot of them and say. "EATTTTTT. EATTTTTTTT. HERE. I JUST BAKED COOKIES. I AM EATING COOKIES AND LOSING WEIGHT. YOU CAN HAVE SOME TOO."  i'm about 5'5 and as of today, officially 139.2 lbs!  i'm not fat by any means--i carry my weight well, but i want to be a little thinnier. :)

and today i had a fabulous maintenance day.  in which case i ate whatever the hell i wanted and stayed under 2000 calories.  i exercise (i'm especially active during the summer so this is a way to jumpstart my weight loss).  i don't really eat processed foods.  i stay positive!

but it's difficult, i suppose.  it's taken me a while of on and off dieting to get to this point where i know that i'm not obese or fat or huge.  i'm happy with myself.  i don't hate the fact that my thighs are huge or the fact that my boobs are tiny.  i have a nice butt and when i suck in, i have a nice stomach.  my collarbones and shouldes are absolutely fantastic and my arms are kinda toned.  you have to take the good with the bad, and if you get too down on yourself, the results are no good!

i'm tired of these girls saying "no! no! my numbers may SEEM small but i really am huge!" no, sweetie, at 5'6 and 110lbs you are absolutely fine.  now would you like one of my cookies?  because i'm not allowed to eat all of them.

:) good luck to everyone.

I know how you feel, and I know how they feel. I always get annoyed when I come across those threads or those pages. I can see where they're coming from as well though. I was in love with seeing the numbers on the scale drop when I was losing. It was kinda slow I guess, but I still loved to see whenever I was down a bit. I guess they have those feelings too. Don't be too hard on them, but maybe you should talk to them. Or do what I did to my friends. 'Why do you think you're fat? I'm bigger than you are?' Then act offended.

"i'm happy with myself.  i don't hate the fact that my thighs are huge or the fact that my boobs are tiny.  i have a nice butt and when i suck in, i have a nice stomach."

diddo. ha ha...

you gotta take it all in stride. ;) i mean. i'm already freaking adorable, i'm just going to be MORE adorable my losing a couple of inches!!!

people need higher self esteems! 

We have to realize, many of them don't know any better.  They've had thin-thin-thin pushed at them and they think they have to starve to lose weight.  Many of them don't realize that they are still growing and that means getting bigger.

Many of these youngsters go on to educate themselves about proper nutrition and what weight is appropriate for their age.  This happens because the wonderful people here at calorie count set them straight.

So thank all you healthy young people for being role models for your peers.

I'm about twice the age range that you're talking about here, but understand that there IS some room for variation based on personal aesthetics. Many people prefer to be at the bottom of a healthy weight range instead of the middle or top. As long as one isn't going outside of one's own good range, that's okay.

When I started with CC, I wasn't at an unhealthy-high BMI. At 5'4" and 131 pounds, I was fine according to the doctor, and at a weight some people my height would think was good. But I, personally, was not comfortable with that weight or the size I wore. Now at 110-ish, I still have a BMI between 18.5 and 25, but at the low end instead of the middle. I feel much more confident and happy with my appearance now.

As long as it's done in a healthy manner and isn't done to weights that are medically too low, weight loss during one's teens isn't dangerous. And there is tons of difference between body types. My sister and mom (both out of teens, but sis just barely) are almost the same height. One weighs 110-115 and one weighs about 145. Both look great and would look less healthy at the other's size. The person one is judging might have a tiny frame and poor natural ability to gain muscle; a lower weight would be entirely appropriate for her. Teenagers also sometimes have slightly lower natural weights than adults of the same height.

Yes, we need to discourage starvation diets and encourage a positive body image. But what's a good weight and what's "too thin" varies very much by frame size, muscle structure, age, and personal taste.

And I'm tired of the "teenagers are still growing" argument. Most are. Some aren't. Three out of seven people in my immediate family (including me) were done by 13 - another Individual Variation thing, and it's up to each person and his/her doctor to determine that. Eating like a teenager instead of a young adult, even at 14, would have caused all three of us to gain significant weight without growing taller - which is exactly what happened. Applying age standards without more information is as silly as saying "Everybody at X height should be Y weight." You just don't know for each individual.

i agree. my bmi is 22.1 but i'd like to be down to 20, or 21.

This is what society does to us. We care more about what the other person thinks about us than what we think about ourselves. Little do we know, the other person cares more what we think about them than what they think about themselves also.

jainasolo, most of what you are saying is true, but just because someone has reached their full adult height doesn't mean they are not still growing and developing.  The bones and reproductive organs are not fully developed until adulthood. 

There has been some research lately about teen dieting. I'll try to dig that up for you.

It's also helpful to focus on what your body can DO, as opposed to what it LOOKS LIKE. How many flights of stairs can you run up? How much can you lift? Feeling STRONG feels GREAT.

dont get angry at people who want to positively influence their lives.
maybe they're smaller than you already, but if they have a healthy ideal a few pounds lower, so be it.

There are a million people who know they are thin but bring focus onto it just for attention. Those people annoy me, as well. But you do need to take into consideration the fact that maybe some people are different and don't fully feel comfortable in the skin they are in; I am eating disordered and because of my mental disorder of BDD, I honest to God see myself bigger than I am. I feel bigger than I am. I don't go around complaining about it, I keep my insecurities to myself and tackle them in a very unhealthy way, which is my unfortunate burden. But some people do voice their unhappiness with their bodies. Some people just want attention, some people have real problems.

Just focus on yourself and your goals and don't live under the influence of anybody.

I'm with you. I'm getting irritated with people who complain about gaining back 1/2 a pound - after weighing themselves two days in a row. Or the 18.1% BMI people saying their muscles are too big - haha! Ok, just had to vent.

Original Post by juicebox04:

i keep reading about kids older than me...15/16 etc...that weigh less than me and think they are fat. its so discouraging. when someone thiner than you says they want to lose weight, its like..you must be a balloon! im 14, and people around my height that weigh around what i weigh think they are fat. its really bugging me. i was about 5'2" 1/2 and i was 103. i gained some weight and now im just trying to look good. but appearantly i have a looong way to go. considering everyone else thats already skinny wants to get even MORE skinny.

god. dont you people like food?? i starved myself and was pretty thin. then BAM. i got hungry. :/ im jealous. ahahahhaha sorry, had to get that out of my head.

lol its cuz you think they look normal, but they're actually sucking it in the whole time xD

 

Hmm. Reminds me of the jerk in class who whines about scoring a 96 on a test when the rest of the class bombed.

But then I think, "If I want to score higher, is hating that person going to make me better?" Just concentrate on you and your goals. Set small, reachable goals and reward yourself each time you achieve one. Remember: people come in all shapes and sizes, and the weight on the scale should be less important than your actual body and your confidence.

Hehehe, I could say the same about you! 

I am quite a bit older than you and 5"11, but I am trying to get back down to 200 lbs!

As others mention, weight loss is like many other things in life, you are much better off comparing yourself to just yourself.  What are you now, are you happy with it, and if not, lose a little more and see how you feel. 

When I was last around 200 lbs, the indicators said I was overweight, but I felt healthy, had good muscle tone, and could run 20k in under 90 mins.  And yet, to be considered a "normal" weight for my height, I should apparently be 154 lbs, which aint ever gonna happen!