I'm so embarrassed to go back to school!

I've gained so much weight and you can so tell! Yesterday I hung out with a friend of mine who I hadn't seen since school ended and she kept making comments on how much weight I gained, I was mortified to say the least! I can't go back to school, I just can't!

She's not much of a friend doing that to you.

Just remember, you can always lose it.  Just start from today and be sensible about your eating, you know what you ate that caused you to gain the weight and being young you lose it easily enough without having to do anything drastic.  Then all you will hear is how much you weight you have lost :)

Well, take the glass half-full approach!  That is, make it a good thing.

So, other teens might think you are now chubby.  Your friends won't care.  Or they weren't your friends.

Now, think about the good aspects.  You think you are a bit overweight.  Why not use it as an incentive to eat healthy and do a bit of exericise? 

• Can you walk or bike to school each day? 
• Are you going to be in any P.E. classes?
• Do you go out for any varsity or intramural sports
• Can you afford to join a gym?
• Do you have time to take an afterschool walk or jog?

Just think how elated you will feel, when by the end of the semester you underwent a wonderful, healthy regimen of eating healthy and losing a bit of weight.

Trust me, your peers' have short-term memory!  So you think they think you are chubby now.  Well, if you really want to, the last impression you can give them is they will remember you as not being chubby. 

Best wishes and don't worry.  Again, teens (your peers) have short-term memories!

Great advice guys, thanks! I feel so much better already.

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ah,don't worry bout it. comfort urself that weight is not permanent. i used to be really slim,but put on quite a bit this year.so my uniform is stretched to the max and is getting pretty uncomfortable(not gonna get a  new one coz there's only 3 months left of school). everyone has noticed my weight gain but not many ppl hv remarked on it. usually only my friends' parents.

Seriously, what is wrong with people?! Why does anyone feel it's okay to comment on people's weight gain, especially their friend's???

Rudeness. It's no-one's business but your own, when I've had people comment I've asked them why they feel it's appropriate and how they would feel if the same comments were made to them - it generally gets the point over. If not, they're just morons.

If you want to lose weight, do it healthily and do it for you, no-one else.

I think all of you are wrong. Unless here friend was sitting there being a bitch teasing her like "haha piggy fatass" it's not a bad thing. It's perfectly okay to point out that someones gained weight. Its when people doesnt realize that they've gained and they just keep piling it on. if you bring it to their attention they're more likely to fix it.

"she kept making comments on how much weight I gained, I was mortified to say"

That is very  close to "Unless here friend was sitting there being a bitch teasing her."

It would be up to the OP to know if those two are synonymous.  Neither one of us were there, so we just have our opinions. 

But my opinion is that her friend was not being a friend.

Original Post by darkylinky:

I think all of you are wrong. Unless here friend was sitting there being a bitch teasing her like "haha piggy fatass" it's not a bad thing. It's perfectly okay to point out that someones gained weight. Its when people doesnt realize that they've gained and they just keep piling it on. if you bring it to their attention they're more likely to fix it.

I'm sorry, but it is ALWAYS unacceptable to tell someone they've gained weight (or lost weight for that matter), unless you are very very close to them (as in family or best friend). You never know why someone's weight has changed. My best friend in high school gained about 20lbs, but that was because her closest cousin died and she had just started the pill. How dare I tell her she's gained weight! It's none of my business. 

thatfatgirl, your friend is a b*tch. ditch her!

It sounds to me like it's not you that has the problem, but your friend... 

Anwayys just ignore her, and take your time. Don't worry about losing the weight, just try to be the healthiest you can.

I'm speaking from experience, believe me. I recently put on about 20 lbs and now am starting university bigger than I have ever been. I am just plugging away, making sure to eat healthy, and more importantly EAT ENOUGH ( Don't starve yourself!), and I try to break a sweat at least once a day. I'm telling myself that next summer I will have the body I want, and I won't put myself through this again! 

You can do it!

If you get another comment, just say "yea whatever."  Like everyone else has said, it more their problem than yours, and if you brush it off and don't get irritated (or at least pretend not to be irritated if it does get to you) they'll get off your case.

And wearing a smile with confidence will overshadow any weight you may have gained

Original Post by darkylinky:

I think all of you are wrong. Unless here friend was sitting there being a bitch teasing her like "haha piggy fatass" it's not a bad thing. It's perfectly okay to point out that someones gained weight. Its when people doesnt realize that they've gained and they just keep piling it on. if you bring it to their attention they're more likely to fix it.

Well darkylinky, I'm glad you're not MY friend. 

OP, your friend who made the comment is a bitch. Seriously.  Most people KNOW they've gained weight, but let's be real, it's way easier (and faster) to put it on than take it off. And you never know what someone is going through and what caused their weight gain, like jcl76 said.

I gained weight my senior year at college, and I was totally aware, (and even okay with it because I was havin' a good time partyin'!) but the last thing I wanted was for anyone to say anything when I got home for the summer! 

Don't stress about it, do what you can to get healthier and be more active and the weight will come off with time.  I'm sure people at school will just be happy to get to see you again, and won't notice or care about your weight.

And if anyone makes anymore comments like that to you, they're clearly not well adjusted, so who cares ;) 

I bet 10 to 1 that Girl a.k.a. your friend is jealous of you...  There's nothing wrong with having a little junk in the trunk.. ^___^ 

Original Post by artisthazzard:

I bet 10 to 1 that Girl a.k.a. your friend is jealous of you... 

for any reason.  i bet most girl fights and bitchiness can be attributed to insecurity and jealousy.

;)  nice call artisthazzard

I think it's rude that they would continually comment on it... But personally, if it were me and I were close enough to them I would want them to tell me.
I usually don't notice when I gain weight until like a year later when I'm trying on dresses or something and realize it.
I would rather be told earlier and do something about it than not finding out until later, but that's just my opinion. Then again, continually commenting on it is just plain rude.

If you're happy with yourself then you should just ignore her. Or talk to her and tell her the way it makes you feel, maybe she thinks that it's not such a big deal because she's never been there? I don't know, but some people are just weird.

If your weight is bothering you, just start off by eating healthier, and maybe each week try and set a new goal for yourself. For example, one week you can try and eliminate some kind of junk food that you eat a lot of and maybe replace it with fruit? If you take it step by step it won't be as overwhelming and will be a lot easier.

Don't be embarrassed to go back to school. Have some confidence, not everything is about weight, your friends love you for you. Look forward to going to school in the sense that if you want you can start eating healthy and losing weight by the end of the year you will be so confident and everyone will probably be jealous.

Good luck!

well said

all your piers at school may even be thinking the same things .... boys who don't feel 'manly' enough yet, the girls who's skin has suddenly got really bad this summer , the folk who may have put a few pounds on ..... i bet everyone is so self obsessed, that any initial worry will soon disappear.

and one summers weight - you will, with healthy eating and exercise shift that. if thats what you want. if you don't, don't feel preasured by friends. the only person who is with us the whole time, is ourselves. make sure you are the happy one, your main priority is you XXXX

You all are so nice, I really appreciate it! Anyway, I've decided that on Monday (the first day of school) I'm just going to walk the halls like I am all that and a bag of chips, cause it's my senior year and I'm not going to let a little weight gain ruin it!

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do it do it do it. its the way forward. good work on getting the right mental attitude, thats over half the battle.

good luck with school sweetheart, and enjoy your new term XXXX

Original Post by thatfatgirl:

You all are so nice, I really appreciate it! Anyway, I've decided that on Monday (the first day of school) I'm just going to walk the halls like I am all that and a bag of chips, cause it's my senior year and I'm not going to let a little weight gain ruin it!

Don't worry about what they think about you hun. Walk around with your nose in the air and if anyone decides it's their business to tell you how much weight you gained, well, we'll be sure to give them the fattest fingers we have :)

Honestly, it goes both ways. I used to be a twig in high school and people would remind me of that all the time. Like the twigs you'd use for kindling. That doesn't exactly make you feel sexy or attractive. My mom was the same way and she said it hurt her feelings when her Dad called her twiggy.

After a while you start thinking something is wrong with you when people harp on your features. Chest size is another example (and THAT goes both ways as well!). So I just don't think it's good to oogle someone's features, friend or not.

However, I see what one of the above posters was trying to point out. You do have to be mindful of your weight, and friends are sometimes ways to help you see yourself when you don't. That ALSO goes both ways. My boyfriend and mom told me I had lost too much weight and was looking gangly, and that helped me shoot for more healthy weight loss with eating and exercise, not starving.

Who knows? Maybe if you had seen her earlier in the summer, and she had pointed it out, you might have been more mindful of your figure. It's one thing to harp on a feature, but it's quite another to tell a friend you're worried about her health. Although if you hadn't seen her since the beginning of summer she doesn't sound like your bosom buddy :)

Chin up girl! Be your own cheerleader :D I know dozens of people who were "chubby" in high school and lost it, and now they're hot hot hot.

Hey girl! I know how it is, freshman year of college I gained TWENTY POUNDS.

Here's the kicker- I was eating healthy, but consuming WAY to many calories. So be careful of that.

Last year, I biked to all of my classes- you don't even realize it's a workout when you've got somewhere to be! I also took a ten week dance class (really fun way to stay in shape), I lost twenty-FIVE pounds last year!

Just keep your diet high in protein so you'll have plenty of energy.

Plus, the exciting part is when you lose the weight, more people notice than when you put it on! So take in all the compliments, I know I did!