i'm FAT

       Some time in January, I became obbsessed with counting calories, and I've lost most of my friends because that's all I can talk or think about. And now I've dragged in my best friend. And its like serious counting. I feel super guilty about everything bad I eat, to the point of crying.

 

     I'm a size 00 in pants, and extra small to small in shirts. People say I'm not fat, but when I look in the mirror all i see is FAT. I really want to see someone skinny when i look in the mirror, but that never happens. I WANT TO BE HAPPY WITH MYSELF.

 

Help me?

Um, not to be mean or anything, but I think you have a problem. You should probably see a counselor or something. Size 00 is not fat. And your are underweight being 90lbs at 5'2. I looked at your pictures, and you look pretty darn skinny to me. And I'm sure other people will tell you the same thing.

we are in the same boat.

i'm 5'3" and 92 pounds, and i swear i am fat.

how many calories are you eating a day?

you sound like you're experiencing (at least) borderline disordered thoughts regarding eating. there's nothing better to do than to go see a counselor. if you don't feel ready for that, try the health & support or weight gain forums. there are lots of ed sufferers/recoverers there willing to give good advice.

You may have an eating disorder, and from what I've seen and heard, I think you probobly do. Please see a councilor or another trusted adult ASAP! 90 pounds is far too low, and a size 00 is nearly sickening for someone who's 13. Most ten year olds wear that size.

You look too skinny in your picures; how could you think you are fat?

I would second the motion of getting help. Immediately!! You know it is only going to get worse if you don't talk to someone about this problem, and you don't want to look back in a couple of months and regret not having stopped this distructive behavior dead in it's tracks. It doesn't sound like you are "developing" an eating disorder. It sounds like you have one already. Normal teens have better things to do than constantly worry about calories and weight, and do not have distorted images about their body. 5'2 and 90lbs is underweight, not fat. It's already starting to effect your relationships and your self worth, so please, talk to your parents or a trusted adult.. even your doctor. And get help. now.

it sounds like to me you almost got a eating disorder. Please get some help, becuase this will get worse if u dont

Are you sure it's fat that you're seeing and not just muscle? Do you exercise? Because if you want to firm up the "soft spots" running or walking (while also eating sensibly of course) is great exercise. Although if you're 5'2 and 90lbs "fat" may just be the way you think of your body and not how your body actually is. You shouldn't feel guilty about eating because you're supposed to eat in order to survive and I agree with the other posters that said that counseling would be a good option. It's better to kick the bad eating habits now while you're young rather than watch them get progressively worse.

try toning. it really helps. if you are toned you can really tell that you are very thin. and then you might not mind gaining a few pounds even.

i understand what your going through but your far from fat...i tell my boyfriend basically everyday that im fat but its because i have areas on my body that are strickly fat but thats because im used to being really skinny, as i used to be but now that im older i have a shape and am not all skin and bones...dont worry though, some curves look nice...just try not to worry so much about what you eat, instead focus on something else, and just eat freely when your hungry!

It sounds like anorexia. Go see a doctor and tell your parents about this, otherwise you could, (and might already have,) seriously hurt yourself. This is a serious issue and should not be taken lightly. Get help!!

You clearly do not weigh much.  If what you are seeing in the mirror seems "fat" to you, you probably have a distorted perception.  I do understand, though, if maybe you see areas that you would like to tone, maybe have some more muscle.  Do not translate having no muscle into im fat.  Instead of obsessing with food, you can do some crunches, or squats to tone up (which Im sure you dont need, but if it makes you feel better about yourself then go for it).  Just eat healthfully.  That means putting in enough fuel so that your body can function properly.  You can be healthy and thin without having to count calories or obsessing.

One of the side-effects of starvation is depression.  When you're depressed you look for reasons why.  If you've decided the reason why you're depressed is because you're overweight and then eat less to correct the problem... you can see how it becomes a downward spiral

Being 'skinny' never made anyone any happier or improve their self-esteem.  Self-confidence and assurance comes from looking outwards rather than inwards... through achievements, friends, activities, family, having a goal in life, a purpose.

Obsessive calorie counting, depression, isolation & a distorted body-image are all classic signs of an eating disorder.  You really do need to talk to someone close about this and get their help before you become very, very ill.  (20% of anorexics die)  Your parents would be a good place to start.  If you can't start eating properly you may need medical assistance.

Okay no offense but bbydre, you don't belong on here. your thoughts and comments on your eating disorder are triggering for the rest of us on here actually TRYING to recover

so please, go to the healthy and support forum, thats better off there then in here

Original Post by gi-jane:

One of the side-effects of starvation is depression. When you're depressed you look for reasons why. If you've decided the reason why you're depressed is because you're overweight and then eat less to correct the problem... you can see how it becomes a downward spiral

Being 'skinny' never made anyone any happier or improve their self-esteem. Self-confidence and assurance comes from looking outwards rather than inwards... through achievements, friends, activities, family, having a goal in life, a purpose.

Obsessive calorie counting, depression, isolation & a distorted body-image are all classic signs of an eating disorder. You really do need to talk to someone close about this and get their help before you become very, very ill. (20% of anorexics die) Your parents would be a good place to start. If you can't start eating properly you may need medical assistance.

i was lurking and i thought i'd add just for the hell of it that being skinny boosted my self-esteem and confidence by a long shot. i got confidence in everything else, too, including school in which i am now a straight-A student. when i was fat i didn't care about school at all.

i don't think it's true how people say being skinny doesn't make one happy. maybe it doesn't for some people, but it really helped me.

also, to the person who said size 00 is sickening for a 13 year old: really? 13 is pretty young.. pretty small. my sister is 13 and 5'2" or 5"3 and is a size 00.

also, to the person who said size 00 is sickening for a 13 year old: really? 13 is pretty young.. pretty small. my sister is 13 and 5'2" or 5"3 and is a size 00.

I'm thirteen and I wear a 0 in women's, but a 1 or 2 in juniors and teens. Does that make me 'bigger than average'? The only time I could fit into a 00 was when I was (sickeningly) 80 pounds and anorexic. I'm only 5' 1" and still, 00 is not a healthy size... except maybe for a fourth grader.

Everyone comes in different shapes and sizes.  I wear a size 6 on average while most people my height and weight wear a size 10-12.  Different figures, different muscle mass, different styles, different manufacturers and having a different opinion on how loose clothing should be all play roles in this.

Please refrain from insulting anyone.

Knowing that you look good (even with a distorted version of good) can be a confidence booster.  One of the problems is that everyone again has a different version of good.  When you have a distorted view point you have to learn to go by the numbers either BMI (18.5-25) or body fat percentage until you can retrain yourself in being healthy.

hey dont be like that :)

ur lucky but maybe ur just really small boned also...but i sugest if u lose any weight or get smaller or still think your fat, u should go to see a doctor.

I was like that too, I became so super obsessed with calorie counting that i lost a bunch of weight and i literally thought that even when i was at my lowest weight i was still fat like seriously obese! So i know how you feel and my advice to you is to talk to your family about it maybe your mom or dad or something. That's what i did and i got over that hump! Good luck!

Knowing that you look good (even with a distorted version of good) can be a confidence booster.

Comments like that just seem to perpetuate eating disorders.