I'm freaking out, so so sad

I made another thread about taking an ID picture and just not liking what I saw.

I am trying my best to calm down but I just cannot. I used to be so skinny, a size 6, happy could wear WHATEVER I wanted.

Then I met this guy and he had a thing for thick women, he would tell every thin woman that they needed to gain weight, they needed a big booty..and I fell for this hook line and sinker

At first the additional lbs were okay, but over the years (3  years) it is not a good look for me anymore. I look at myself in the mirror and I don't even know who the hell I am looking at. The weight has gone to my face. I look so chubby and cherubic, no longer have that thin face with those cheekbones you can see.

Now, I am desperate to get this weight off. This is the last of it. I am still very young, I do not want to waste the rest of my 20s thick and so solid looking. I want to be thin and feel young again.

What should I do as far as exercising? How long should I stay on the treadmill to get rid of this weight? I am so embarassed that I leave out the house this weight. I feel ashamed and I want it off immediately

the hardest part is the patience. You are determined now. that is good! keep that with you.. this won't be a quick fix if its going to be permanent.

Realize that it won't be overnight. Make one change at a time. Use the tools on this site!

I know that feeling you are having. I KNOW it. I also know that when I felt it, there was pretty much nothing anyone could say to me, ha. But maybe after reading this (and the others that are sure to follow)... it'll run around in your head for a while and you'll be focused and calm and know that you can trust the process. And as long as you do the plan, you'll see results.

They won't be immediate. But they'll be permanent.

we aren't alone in this. and i have felt those feelings and they suck. but they get quieter every day.

Original Post by crazydiamondchrysalis:

the hardest part is the patience. You are determined now. that is good! keep that with you.. this won't be a quick fix if its going to be permanent.

Realize that it won't be overnight. Make one change at a time. Use the tools on this site!

I know that feeling you are having. I KNOW it. I also know that when I felt it, there was pretty much nothing anyone could say to me, ha. But maybe after reading this (and the others that are sure to follow)... it'll run around in your head for a while and you'll be focused and calm and know that you can trust the process. And as long as you do the plan, you'll see results.

They won't be immediate. But they'll be permanent.

we aren't alone in this. and i have felt those feelings and they suck. but they get quieter every day.

I appreciate the support right now. THIS IS IT! I am so done. I have been doing "okay" for the past few weeks but I haven't been giving it my all like I should

After taking this ID picture, I am so ready. I just want the weight gone. And I have a way to go before I look the way I did 3 years ago. But I am so determined. I'm at the point where nothing will stop me. I am so willing to do any and everything. After I get off the computer I am going to the grocery market to buy my diet food and stick with it.

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Ugh.. men. -_- We all have to learn this lesson the hard way - find someone who loves you for what you are, not what they want you to be.

On a smaller scale, I`ve felt what you`re going through as well. It was only 20 pounds, but boy, did they make a difference, especially on my face! I have a weird type of body, in that I look emaciated at 110 pounds but a bit chubby at 117, and my face really changes a lot with any slight gain/loss, so I feel your pain.

I`m rooting for you all the way and hope you have a successful weight loss journey. Please do try to keep self-criticism to a constructive level, though. Optimism, a positive attitude and learning to love yourself as you are - these are all essential for healthy, sustainable weight loss.

You have options:

1) Beat that guy to death with a frozen turkey drumstick - I hear some prisons have great gyms and low-cal options for meals.

2) Stay focused, forgive the guy for being a smelly, ugly, flatulent, horse’s ass, and get back to where you were over the upcoming months, then find a guy or girl or dog (or combination of the three) who will love you for who you are.

Exactly what crazydiamondchrysalis said.... I was exactly where you are. I gained over 100 pounds with one guy and at least another 40 with another.  I was almost 300 pounds along with 3 health related issues (high blood pressure, diabetes and acid reflux).  I stayed that way for at least 15 years. I tried every diet/gimick I could find at first.  When nothing worked to lose the weight - I just accepted it. It was pretty pathetic.

I finally woke up and got tired of looking at myself in the mirror.  I have been working slow and steady at a new lifystyle since August 2008 - just healthy eating and exercise.  No diets - no gimicks - some exercise.  Once you decide "this is it! no more!!" you will see results. But you do have to be patient.  It is a slow process but you are worth it.  I know you can do it.  This site is awesome for the tools to help you as well as all the support you require.

Good luck! 

jaylamarie,

Stop, take a breath, look at yourself in the mirror, and smile at yourself. I know it's hard, but loving yourself enough to make YOU your first priority is the first step. The second step is to formulate a plan. You can go out and buy every diet food and exercise DVD that exists, but the best tool you have is between your ears. Use CC, listen to those of us who have walked your path, too. Every last one of us has woke up one morning and saw ourselves as fat, dumpy, overweight--whatever the term--we weren't happy with what we saw. However, here at CC, it isn't about diets--it's about lifestyle change.

You asked where to begin your exercise program--whatever is available and works for you. However, as all the others have said--it involves patience. You cannot lose weight overnight, you cannot lose inches, pant sizes, whatever rapidly and sustain the loss. Slow, gradual removal of bad habits and replacements with good habits will serve you well.

Look at how and when you eat. Look at what you eat and the emotions involved. Most importantly look at that person inside of you who lost herself in the desires of someone else. Make this more about becoming better, brighter, stronger and more confident rather than weight loss. As one grows, the other will follow.

Most of all, know that we are here--we understand--and we care. You are NEVER alone and will never be criticized. We applaud your successes and will support you when you fall down. Becoming healthy is a rough road sometimes, but one heavily traveled.

If you need encouragement, friend me and we will stay in touch.

Good luck.

J-mom

Jayla - You can do this. I have gone to bed so many nights thinking, "I'm so sick of feeling this way. I'm going to do it this time." It's almost a panic really, the way you feel like you need to lose it NOW! (And in my case, I would always have that panic around 11p.m. - too late to go for a run, too late to undo all of the bad food choices I'd made that day. ) But the only way it happens if you just do it. Remember to  be proud of yourself for every healthy step you take. This site is awesome, and there are a lot of people here who are going/have gone through exactly the same thing.