im getting frustrated!!

Ok so im young, yes. but me and my fiance are wanting to have a baby. I was on birth control pills for about 3 years and have been off of them for 3 months. Every month when it comes to that time of the period. i keep wishing it wont come. I know it takes awhile and i should let my period become normal eventhough i believe it already is...i just want to have a baby so bad that i get upset and frustrated when it doesnt happen. Anyone have advice or thoughts on this? it would be great thanks!!!!

Hi aKramer21, i understand exactly what you mean and i went through it for a very long time. My husband and i had to go through fertility treatments for both our pregnancies. We have a two and a half year old and one on the way, i am five months pregnant. If you don't get pregnant in a year with regular intercourse or trying around ovulation i suggest contacting your doctor to get info on fertility treatments. also try the clear blue digital ovulation monitor. it is around $200 cnd funds and the sticks 60.00 it tells you exactly when you are ovulating...it's great!

The feelings are totaly normal but it takes patience, a  good friend of mine told me that it is God's will and you can't control it. It sucks when you are trying and not getting pregnant believe me i know. 2 years for our first and 2.5 for our second but it will happen. 

Good Luck.

Amy:) 

You said you were young, does that mean you are 21 years old?  You also said that you and your fiance are wanting to have a baby.  Take it from an old married woman, having a baby is harder than you think it will be.  My suggestion, marry your boyfriend, have some time together as a couple to do things you really enjoy, like traveling.  Then when you both are truly ready, have that baby.  I was 28 when my son was born and it was wonderful knowing that my priorities were straight and that I was bringing him into a very solid situation.  My husband and I love our son very much but are both appreciative of the time we had together as a couple before he was born.  I hope you are not offended by my unsolicited advice, but I felt compelled to share some of my life experience with you.

While I can appreciate the above advice, my husband and I had our first child when I was 22. I'll be 26 on Friday and just had my second child 2 weeks ago. My husband and I have known each other since we were 14 years old. We dated all through high school and most of our college years (we broke up for a year or so when we first went to college). We got to have the "alone time" before our daughter was born and are very happy that we are young parents. We aren't the wild, partying type who leave the kids with the grandparents every night. We do still enjoy doing things as a family that we might not enjoy as much had we waited until we were older to have children. The only downside we've experienced so far is that not many of our friends have kids. It makes it hard to turn to someone for advice or find playmates for our children however, the benefits far outweigh these things.

I cannot offer you advice on it taking a while to get pregnant since both of mine happened so quickly. I hope it happens for you soon but if not, just be patient. It can take quite some time as it was said before. Have you tried ovulation tests or anything of the sorts or have you just stopped taking the pill?

I am so glad that everything worked out for you bier.  I am not the wild, partying type either, but I'm sure you know that while your relationship had a happy ending, the majority do not. 

My advice was to wait a little bit and make sure that this is exactly what akramer wanted and she wasn't rushing in to a decision that will change the course of the rest of her life.  I'm sure you can appreciate that your life is a bit more complicated as a busy mom of two children.  Also, you and your husband had eight years to get to know one another before becoming parents.  It sounds like you have a nice, solid relationship and I wish you the best of luck and congratulations on the new addition to your family.

Again, my advice was not meant to be harsh or cruel.  I'm sure you are well aware that marriage is hard work and parenting is even harder.  Sometimes when people are young they have the idea that it will be easy and fun.  And it is sometimes.  But life has a way of throwing curve balls at you once in awhile and it is nice to have a strong, solid relationship to fall back on.  That's all I was trying to convey.

I don't know I think It's awesome when people have babies at a young age (Not too young) my mother had me at age 21....My grandmother had my father at age 18......My uncle had my cousin at 24....SO ya I think it's really cool when people have children at a young age really.

And somewhat these relationships remained really strong.