I'm Out of Here

After recieving a few private mesages indicating that people here don't like my tone, and questioning why I'm even here in the first place, I've decided I'm not going to post in the forums anymore.

I'll still answer private messages if anyone actually wants my advice.

Good luck to everyone.

-David

Good luck to ya!

You're the bicep curls guy. Are you clearing more time for bicep curls?

Okay, who's got my pink tribble gun?

lol,you dont like me do you i sense the tone :-)

shame

shame on whom?

I checked some of your recent posts and honestly I don't see anything wrong with what you wrote in any of the threads I've seen. If you don't post in the forums anymore, you can always find friends to chat with in journals by looking into your friends' friends.

I usually dont post to these goodbye threads because I dont know the story behind what has happened, and I havent checked your posts.  I have seen you around though.

Just figured I should throw my 2 cents in for what it is worth. 

1) The posts that I have seen from you have been informational.

2)  People have different opinions on how things work and how certain things should be, and just life in general.  Doesn't always make you right or always make them right, it's just different opinions. 

3)  It is very hard to tell someones tone online.  Often this is because they may be a blunt person or very open.  Many times they have a "harder" personality than others and that doesnt always mean they are trying to be hateful.  Things can be taken out of context online easier than in person.  You don't know their personality, you cant see their facial expression, or actually hear the tone of their voice. 

4) Even if they are trying to be hateful or just be nice and disagree with how you see things, you shouldnt let that determine whether you are going to share what has helped you.  We won't all see eye to eye, just as there are personality clashes in the "real" world.

5) Only exception to just going on about your business is if the concerns or comments came from a mod...which in that case it is probably not because they dont like you, but instead because there are certain posting guidelines they have to enforce.

I hope you don't let others determine what you have to offer on a site where many need help and are looking for advice from a wide variety of people.  After all, what works for me may not work for someone else and so on......

Good luck with whatever you decide.

I took a look at some of your recent posts and I do not see anything that should have resulted in complaints about your tone.  I only looked at a handful of your posts but they seem pretty tame to me.  Most were thoughtful and helpful.  It is a good thing that I do not normally post here.  If people think David has too strong of tone or opinion I can only imagine what the response would be to me. :)  

Just want to say,

• everyone is welome here
• we all benefit from sharing diverse opinions
• no one benefits when people leave

Rather, please stay and help make the forums a better place. 

Also, you can use the block feature, but if you are harassed thrugh the pm system, please contact support@calorie-count.com  

To use the block feature, click on a person's name.  On their profile page, you can click add to friends, block or journal.  Click on block. This will prevent people from sending you private messages.


 

After reading the first few replies to this thread, I became convinced it really was time for me to leave.

But after seeing the last few replies, it's made me reconsider.

I am a very blunt person, both online and offline. Some people like it, others don't.

My goal is not to make people feel bad or hurt their feelings in any way. However, when someone is looking for validation of unhealthy habits, I feel obligated to inform them that what they're doing is dangerous, as painful as that is for them to hear. I made mistakes when I was losing weight (eating too little) and I don't want to see other people make the same mistakes I did.

Thanks to everyone who encouraged me to stick around. :)

Yay!! (even though I don't know you )

I am glad you are staying.

I meant shame that he's leaving, chunk, but rereading it it definitely sounds like sarcasm. Wasn't sarcasm.

I've always liked your posts.  You can also block someone on the Personal message screen.  At the bottom of their message, on the right, is the "Block" button.  Click on that and they can't send you any more PMs.

I see nothing wrong with your posts. Some people just can't handle someone being brutally honest with them. Personally, I like it because that's how I am too. I hope you'll stick around!

Love and Alohas
Ihilani

You can be a bit of a hard-ass but so what?  Some times the poster needs a kick in the ass.  You're quite "blockable" as needed :)

Does anyone who posts one of these tirades ever actually leave?

No Spirochete. It's an attention-seeking trick for the most part. People post these things with a deep-seated hope of replies, preferably the kind that say something along the lines of: "Nooo, you can't go!" just so they can say "Meh, you've convinced me to stay."

Well you guys can rest assured, if I'm ever mad enough to post one of these the last thing anyone will be saying to me is "oh no, please stay". Otherwise, what fun is it?