I'm gonna punch my boyfriend in the FACE...not really :p

I am trying to change my habits of eating...not just dieting. I am however cutting my calories to 1500/day so I can lose some weight in this process. I live with my boyfriend and it SOOO hard to lose weight around him since all he eats is fast food, cookies, cakes, chocolate milk, and anything else that is super bad for you...he IS the processed king! I am trying to eat more healthy with chicken, veggies, and NO FASTFOOD, but I do treat myself almost evryday with a small portion of something I love!! You wanna know what he said to me last night: "I don't like you when you're dieting, you're no fun to eat with" OMG...then he says : "Oh but you were so frickin hot before!" I could have punched him in the face...he's such a moron sometimes. I am not only losing for him, but for myself. I feel like a blob of flab and I would like to look better all around. I have lost 5lbs in the last week and half, which is great, I just wish he were more supportive and join me in the process...he could stand to lose a few himself. Any ideas on how to get him to work with me instead of against me?

Amanda

Did someone say chocolate milk??? lol

My husband looooovves chocolate milk.  The thing is, his metabolism doesn't follow.

Why don't you simply tell your boyfriend how you feel about his attitude towards you trying to lose weight?  Simple, but sometimes simple works.

Good luck anyway and don't let this keep you down!! 

Oh trust me I have and he still is the most unsupportive person when it comes to dieting. He comes home and is like let's get taco bell, or mcdonalds or wings or olive garden.....almost evryday! I love all these things but I wont allow it more than once a week. I am not wasting my calories on a frickin taco or wings...not worth it. It just bothers me that I am not fun b/c i dont eat with him....i dont need to eat with him to enjoy my food...just strange. I sometimes think that he doesn't want me to lose b/c I get more attention from the "competition" when I am thinner. Ugh...I have enough will power...thank god.

It WILL catch up to him that always makes me feel better atleast. My boyfriend is the same way, very muscular and has never had to work out or watch what he eats and then there's me. I say, when you guys go out to eat together get the healthiest thing on the menu and just try to make little changes that add up, like lower calorie bread, diet soda, fruits in the fridge. Buy some of your own food, so you guy can still eat together but maybe not the same things. Just because you're not stuffing your face with fried things dosn't mean you're not fun to be around :) Do other things that aren't eating related.

It always kills me when guys wonder why some girls gain weight when you start dating, eating junk food and less time in the gym? Come on now.

Ahhh meganclifford... you hit the nail on the head. When I met my sweetie, I had been exercising and eating healthy for about a year and had gone from a size 12/14 to a size 2/4. Well, flash forward 3 months into dating and I gained about 20 lbs. and went to a 6/8. Now I'm back on the bandwagon. My honey is blessed with an incredible metabolism (and great genetics - his parents are in great shape) and can basically eat anything he wants. For a few weeks it seemed like I was getting away with eating what he ate, but then it seemed like overnight the weight crept back on me. So for the last few weeks I've been mopey and depressed over how I gained it back.. so, back to healthy eating and running!

i wonder how he'd react if you told him you'd think he'd be hotter if he toned up and lost some chub himself.
i'm very accepting of my BF's weight and eating habits, although i wish he'd be healthier.  in return though, he is always 1000% positive about my physical appearance.  he knows i'm sensitive about the issue, because i told him up front.  if he started getting critical, he'd start to get it back from me 2 fold.  i'm not a "visual" person and i'm madly attracted to his loving heart, but i'm never going to let anyone get away with double standards around me.

My boyfriend is exactly the same way, and it is very frustrating. I just had to learn to suck it up, and eat what i knew i should. 

when i'm hot and skinny again, then maybe he'll appreciate it.

i don't think my boyfriend really makes the connection between eating chocolate cake and being fat.

but yeah, just do what you know you have to do and ignore him. its working for me.

Awww...that sucks! I hate when ppl invite you out to dinner as soon as you start dieting...=P

My bf has been rly supportive.  He will purposely go places that serve healthier food, and he wont eat dessert when I am with him.  He also exercises as much (or more) than I do, and works construction, so I feel like Im not the only one who has to work hard to stay in shape.

The thing that IS unfair though, is that he could completely stop doing all of those things and not gain any weight.  If I splurge two nights in a row I get a muffin top...lol...

*sighs*

I think you should regard your boyfriend's lack of thoughtfulness as a great big red flag. 

alot of boys just lack understanding, but really don't mean to be rude. they just don't get it. put it into perspective for him. go buy a really hot nighty that he'd be really in to that is about the size you think you'll be when you lose the amount you plan on. then tell him if hes supportive of you he gets to see you in it. lol. this would work on my hubby.

I live with my boyfriend too! We joined a gym together; he has a little bit of a different spin.  I like to eat dinner early (like 6 pm) but every time he gets home around six, he tells me to let him relax for a little while. At the same time, he snacks on junk-y food all the time and complains about his appearance. 

I say you make it clear that this is not something you are just going to 'give up' on!  Maybe if you push the healthy points, he'll actually listen? Or pretend to?

Oh My Gosh my Fiancee WAS the same way.  But then I got a great idea.  I will make him a deal, so that he can get something for every step I take towards my goal weight.  Now he is my food warden.  He even yelled at me (in a loving way) for eating half a peanut butter cookie yesterday saying I am messing up his chances of getting his reward at the end of the week.  OK this is what I did, but you know what works with your man.

I told him for every 3 or more pounds I loss every week (I will weight every Tuesday, we go from Tuesday to Tuesday since that is the day of the week I started my change of life style).  I will make him any meal he wants and serve it to him, or give him a manicure, rub his feet, and treat him like a king for the night.  I will be darn if I have not lost 4 pounds since the deal and the week is not even over.  He even pushed me out the door to the gym.  Lol.  Oh the other half is if I want him to back off so I could have that half a cookie with out him jumping all over me I knocked off .5 pounds from his weeks goal.  I hope this helps or gives you an idea for a deal of your own.  Home cooked meals works for him because I done cook very much because of my weight goal….lol

 

If all else fails punch him in the mouth so he will have to get his jaws wired shut and there you go….you get the idea……lol….just kidding don't you do it….lol 

Thanks everyone for your advice!! I like the idea of treating him when I lose weight...i think that may be my ticket...b/c he likes when I cook and slave around for him...hahahaha. Thanks!!

Amanda

it really sucks when those around you dont support yournew eating habbits or your diet, my mum and step dad are always eating chocolate and having really bad junk food and it drives me nuts but luckily i have my boyfirend who helps me lots, we do challenges like when i am going through a difficult time we do a challenge if i can go the  a week or 2 with out certain foods i get a prize like a trip to the movies (his shout) or a dvd i want or something i want, and he'll do the challenge with me so i am not alone. try asking your boy to do something like that awell

The only reason I was successful at loosing weight this summer is because I moved out on my own and bought my own food and cut the junk. What really gets me is when I visit my parents. There is a whole bunch of junk food around the house and it is sooo tempting. What I do is I tell someone that it is  not mine and i'm not allowed to have it and if they see me eating it they get to slap my hand, and take it away from me. With no consequences. This really works with my younger sisters. They are very vigilent, just waiting for a chance to repremand me. I'm sure if you used that approch with your boyfriend he would think that was funny and play along.