I'm new and I'm scared!! Any other scared yo-yo's?

Hi!  This is a first for me.  I'm 48 and I just gained back 18 of the 20 lbs that I lost a year and a half ago.  I was fit and healthy and at my goal weight!  I just started this yesterday and I feel pretty confident I can lose the weight AGAIN, but it's real tough and I'm real scared that I'll eventually lose it only to gain it all back AGAIN.  Not a very positive attitude, I know.  Any suggestions???  I might add that I enjoy the bennies of working out, but when I slid I reaaaallly enjoyed sleeping in, eating "whatever", drinking wine, and pretending the fat fight was over.  The weight didn't start coming back right away, but when it did, WHAM!  It was like no turning back.  What happened and how can I avoid that crazy slide this time??!??  Thanks.

 

 

I guess in some of us the fat fight is never over!!! You just have to see all of this as a lifestyle change FOR LIFE, and not a diet. We all slip afterwards... You get to target and than wanna start living again!!!

I have got to the stage now where I realise that we have to live carefully forever, but this is a good thing, for our health and happiness. I am still struggling with it but can feel my attitude beginning to change.

Stick with it, keep coming on this site, and most of all don't give up all the things you have learned once you get to target.

I am at 19lbs to go, so our goals are similar.

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OK so I need to start thinking of all this as a new, different life forever.  I will definately need help.  The thing is, when I was at target I felt great and wanted to stay there forever.  I just didn't follow through with how to stay there! 

This is my first time trying with an actual program and support on-line.  Thank you so much for your input.  I will bug you when I need another boost, ok?!!??

 

 

 

One of the best things about this site is that you can come on the forums at any time, and just say "I'm having a bad day - help!" - and you'll get it.  It's amazing!  Heck, I see posts every now and then that just flat out ask for a "kick in the backside" - LOL. 

I found real motivation after I had been at it long enough to see that small bit of success.  I was about to drop the whole healthy living thing one month into it, but then noticed a 1.5 lb drop, and that the waistband on my pants didn't feel quite as tight.  I figured, "hmmm, where can it go from here?" 

Keep coming back for great support and ideas!  You can do this!

Welp, here goes. . . I'm gonig to go eat a healthy breakfast, and then lace up my tennies and exercise.  A new day and a new life !!!!

 

Hi there, you have just described me to a tee! I am TERRIFIED of losing the weight and put it back on again.

I have yo-yo'ed for 14 years now and 3 years ago I got down to a healthy weight and was determined not to get over weight again. The weight crept back on and I gave up because I developed an eating disorder. The thought of the eating disorder returning was scarier than thinking about losing weight. Every cream cake I ate felt like a triumph against the eating disorder. I burried my head in the sand for 3 years and now I am heavier than I have ever been in my adult life.

I have now sought help through the GP who is referring me to a pyschiartrist. This has given me the push I need to get started. I have been doing this sensibly for 2 over weeks and lost 6lbs now. I have bannished the scales and my husband now keeps them in the loft only to be brought down once a week to stop me getting obsessed.

 So now for me the weight is only PART of why I am doing this. I have noticed I am less tired, and have more energy. I am eating plenty but the right food. I am hanging onto those good feelings instead of standing on the scales all the time.

 

I wish you loads of luck with this. It is really scary and terrifies the heck out of me to.

Hello!  Interesting. . . our intense relationship with food.  I also battled with an eating disorder in my 20's and 30's.  I'm beginning to really see how my weight is really just an indication of how I treat myself.  When I take good care of myself, the healthy weight naturally follows.  When I get into the "crazy thinking" and obsessing about food and not exercising is when I get into the most trouble with my weight, not to mention the disasterous effects on my self-esteem.  For today, I believe that taking care of myself will eventually become a habit, and this is the first time in my life that I've reached out for some help for support. 

Isn't the energy amazing?!!?  It is important to remember that we deserve to feel this good.  It is our right!  I hope your psychiarist helps you to overcome whatever it is that would keep you from taking good care of yourself!

I added you as a friend so feel free to write anytime!  I always appreciate the encouragement and support. 

Thanx for adding me as a freind. I could not find this post to reply again until now! I don't know where you are from, but here in the UK on Telly we have Gillian McKeith and she talks a lot of sense. Yesterday I was really proud of myself as Gillians words echoed through my mind. I had a fantasic day yesterday, had a fantastic triumph with something, and for a weak moment I thought of "celebrating" with a takeaway.

  My junkie brain was telling me "you deserve a treat" The Gillian's words came to me "Just why would you punish your body with such a bad choice of food?" Blow me she is RIGHT! Yeah yeah, we all know that chinese food tastes great, but what the heck is it doing to our bodies, it is NOT such a treat when you look at it that way!! I settled for wholemeal pittas with chicken breast and salad. BOY OH BOY it felt SO good to avoid the temptation of the takeaway, and that feeling carried on until this morning where I felt SO good for making the RIGHT choice.

Tonight I made my own chicken stew, right from scratch, all good fresh ingrediants and it was soooooooo good. The feeling of making the right choice, feels SO much better that any kick I get from binging on rubbish food.

Don't get me wrong, the thought of NEVER enjoying a chinese takeaway EVER AGAIN is horrifying. BUT those GOOD feelings of making the right choices, THAT is what we need to cling onto, not mourning what we don't have.

I do somehow feel different this time. I am almost too scared to say it, but I am feeling positive, MUCH more positive this time. I just HOPE and pray I can keep it up! This site is awesome though, such a big help and I can't believe it is FREE!!

I'm really starting to see the benefits of this support!!  Number one, I was about to indulge in a nice bottle of wine (my weakness) and after reading what you wrote decided I would feel better tomorrow if I left it alone.  Right choices!  Number two, I am also feeling positive, but also worry whether I can keep it up.  So I've decided that we don't need to hope and pray that we can keep it up, we ARE going to keep it up because it is in our power to do so!  The support we have here will continue to encourage us, but ultimately we must know that we are strong enough to do it ourselves!

I'm in the US so I'm not familiar with Gillian but she sounds great.  BTW My very first trip overseas was to London and we absolutely loved it!!! 

Ahhh Kathleenie, I am so glad you are feeling positive. You will feel so much better tomorrow for not drinking the wine. Oh I do love this place, the advice and support on here is like nothing I have ever known! I have my first weigh in tomorrow. I was weighed by the DR almost 3 weeks ago, then I weighed last Monday, and my scales have been in my loft ever since out of my reach. My husband gets them down for me tomorrow. I have worked SO hard this week. Lots of working out, no fast food, no "fatty sugary treats" So I hope the scales reflect that! Even if they don't I am proud of myself for working so hard and not letting myself down, despite my monthlies!

I'm new too.  And I also yo-yo.  I don't understand why we keep doing that.

I set up a "weight ticker tape" to help keep me on track.  Why don't you try doing that?  You can then view your daily progress and be VERY aware (and take immediate action) when there's no improvement.

http://www.tickerfactory.com/ezticker/ticker_ designer.php

http://www.tickerfactory.com/weight-loss/wqHv eDv/

 

Good luck!

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Wow Darky,

 

Good for you for such incredible methodology.  Scale out of reach???  You are showing great restraint.  Let us know how you did.  It can ONLY be good news with your ingenious technique.  Sometimes we must "trick" ourselves to lose weight.  I hope you found a way that works for you.

I wish you the best of luck (actually it's not luck...it's pure hard work)!!! 

Regards,

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