I'm Not The "Fat Girl" Anymore!
An abusive relationship and emotional obstacles led Kris82m to her life-changing moment. She is now using Calorie Count to put herself back on track, physically and emotionally. She’s successfully lost 55 lbs and loves herself for making the decision to get healthy again.
She contacted us through our Share Your Story feature, and provided the following answers to our questionnaire.
1. What made you decide to lose weight this time? Did you have an "Aha!" moment?
I did have an "Aha!" moment, but the reasons I chose to diet I wouldn't wish on anybody. I was in a really bad mentally and physically abusive relationship for 3 years. When I finally came around, I went home to the house we rented and found another woman walking out of our house. That made me wake up and realize just what kind of person he was. Of course his main target of mental abuse was me being overweight and he would tell me nobody else would want me so I can't leave him. Well I finally did, and I vowed to never give anyone else the chance to use my weight as a control tool!
2. What other "diets" (programs, products, plans, or services) had you tried in the past?
I never tried any programs per say. I just would diet and eat healthy, follow tips from websites, other people. I've tried different types of eating healthy like low carbs, low fats, fruits and veggies only, and found the best way to lose weight and be happy was just to eat healthier and eat less.
3. What changes did you make to your usual diet, activity, lifestyle, and attitude?
I ate the things most people do when they're overweight like stopping at McDonalds and getting a Big Mac and fries, ice cream and chips at night, big servings of lasagna, potatoes, etc. So when I dieted I cut all that out. I started eating chicken, turkey and fish for dinner, sweet potatoes, wheat bread, wheat rice, lots of veggies and fruits etc. I'm not big on exercise and at the time I worked 8-5 so I was tired after work but I made it a point to stop and go walking on the park trail at least 3 days out of the week for about an hour. I wanted to lose weight more than I hated exercising! The most important change for me was the weight loss of course as well as my attitude change after I lost the weight. I was always somewhat of a bitter teenager, always jealous of other girls, not popular in high school and picked on, so when I lost my weight I was 23 and I felt good. I no longer had a chip on my shoulder or felt myself hating everyone that was thin. I made it a point to change my resentment as well.
4. How did Calorie Count help you to lose weight?
I didn't use Calorie Count the first time I lost weight. I went from 220 pounds down to 115 by the age of 23. I kept it off almost 2 years just by maintaining my healthy lifestyle with a few cheat treats every now and then! Then I met my husband at 24, we got married and over the last 2 1/2 years we've been married I gained 60 pounds back! I got happy, and my husband loved me no matter what, so I got comfortable I guess. I tried to diet for the last year with no success. I signed up for Calorie Count a year ago and never stuck to it. Then with my friend's wedding coming up, I ordered my dress about 6 sizes to small back in January and I told myself this is what's going to make me get back in shape again! So I signed back up for Calorie Count and I'm sticking with it this time. It's so motivational and I've learned so much! The calories I thought I was eating... I was so wrong! Calorie Count lays out for you everything you need to know about what you eat. I realized how many calories and fat I really was taking in, learned to adjust my diet and get my calorie count down. It's nice to see how many calories you eat in a day, how many calories you burn just in your normal lifestyle, then how much you burn from added exercise. It's so simple and everything is right there, they do it all, which takes the guess work away from you. One less thing to worry about while dieting! So now I'm back on my mission to get back to the weight I used to be, I'm not going to be that fat girl again! So from the time I started the diet this time around I was 175, now I'm down to 157! And closer to fitting into the dress!
5. What was most challenging about losing weight?
Everything is a challenge; it takes hard work and lots of willpower. Giving up the foods you love is hard, and exercising if you don't have anyone to do it with is even harder! I am not motivated to get my butt out and walk, but I do it because in the end the results will be well worth it!
6. How long did it take you to see results?
The first time I started dieting I lost the majority of my weight in the first 7 months then it slowed down some, but I still got to what I wanted to be! Now, I started losing weight the first week I started eating healthier again, and it's progressing steadily! I don't weigh myself often, once every 2 weeks or so I just go by how my clothes are fitting me. One of my biggest weaknesses is, if I don't see a change on the scale I get discouraged and mad and think "what's the point?" So I pig out that day, depressed. The best thing for me to do is just stay away from the scale for long periods of time so that way I'm bound to see at least some weight loss, and that will make me feel good!
7. When did you realize that you were a success?
It took me a long time to realize I was a success the first time around, the real jolt came to me when my best friends and I decided to have some fun and we both slipped into my size 22 senior prom dress, AND we zipped it up over BOTH of us! I thought to myself, wow...I really did lose all that weight, I lost a whole person! Literally, one prom dress for one big girl, and two 115 pound people can fit into it together! That opened my eyes wide to what I had accomplished, I couldn't believe it!
8. How do you prevent relapse?
Well, for two years I prevented it by looking at myself every day, reminding myself how hard it was and that I didn't want to ruin all my hard work, how much better I feel and look! I put a picture of me heavy, on my fridge and I carried pictures in my wallet of me heavy. I never hesitate to tell people I meet or know that I used to be heavy and show them the pictures. I wasn't embarrassed to show them how big I was, I was proud that I wasn't that size anymore. And to see the look on peoples' faces from before to after really helped me stay on track. Then unfortunately I gained some back because I met a wonderful guy that I married, and cooked wonderful dinners for him and it became harder to hold onto willpower, because the food was right in front of me every day. My husband loved me no matter how I looked so my willpower started slipping and I slowly gained 60 pounds. So now my heavy pictures are back on my fridge and in my wallet and I'm getting this willpower back!
9. How has your life changed now that you've lost weight?
I'm a better person inside and out. I feel so much better and have so much more confidence! It's a wonderful feeling to know how much you accomplished and how hard it was to accomplish it. Really nobody can truly understand just how hard it is except other people who have accomplished it themselves. It's easy for people who have never been heavy or had to struggle with weight to say "big deal eat one, it won't hurt". They don't understand just one can send your willpower over the edge.
10. What five tips do you have for other dieters?
- Let yourself cheat once every couple weeks! Once ever couple weeks I will have that hamburger I want, or that ice cream I want. I tell myself I can have it any time I want but I don't want it today. I'll wait till tomorrow, then the next day, and once in a while I will have that treat I deserve! It won't set you back any, it will actually help some! Your body gets used to your diet and lifestyle after a while and stops burning calories as effectively. Sometimes you have to shock your body!
- Don't give in to what other people say to you. I found it the hardest to resist food at family functions because I always had my family saying things like "one day won't hurt, big deal you're not going to gain weight from one meal". However, when you go to families houses and functions a couple times a week in the summer, then that one day will hurt if its 2 and 3 days a week. Just tell them "I am eating what I want and I want that chicken and fruit salad"!
- Put up a picture of your heavy self on the fridge, it really did help me!
- Don't weigh yourself a lot if you're one that gets frustrated and disapointed easily. Stick to once every 2 weeks. As long as you keep track of calories eaten and calories burned on Calorie Count, you'll know you're eating healthy enough to lose weight so you won't need the scale for a couple weeks.
- Last and most important, always tell yourself you're so strong and capable! Always congratulate yourself for doing so well, and love yourself for the great decision you made to get healthy!
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