"Im not pregnant..........just fat!"

Okay worst thing you can ask a girl is, if she is preggers when she is not. Let's see this year alone I got asked by the sushi chef (which was by the way in front of all my friends!) the massage place on saturday, my new apartment manager (in which i replied" no Im just fat! and well our friends 4year old daughter. In fact the 4year old was cute and embarassing all in one. She asked if I was having a baby and I said no and she replied " but you have a big belly!" awww kids so cute, honest and innocent you cant be mad, but still a little hurt. Oh and lets not forget my client I hadnt seen in a few months. ERrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!! People should know not to comment unless they know for sure.......RIGHT!!!!!!!!!

My best friend has had the same problem, and looking at her, I really don't see it and cannot understand wtf is wrong with people who would make such comments. I'm sorry to hear that happened to you, and I hope you can just shrug it off as idiots being themselves.

I think it doesnt help that all the baby doll tops and baggy shirts are in style and unless you are twiggy maybe they just make you look pregnant. Thanks for your kind words :)

my friends and I were just talking about this because of what my sis said to me. She said I should gain 150 lbs so I can go on that show, the biggest loser. I would never wish that on an enemy. It's right up there with the "are you pregnant?" question. I hate it. If I was pregnant it wouldn't be anybody's business either!!

That sux! Yeah I am with you wouldnt wish that on anyone!!!!

This has happened to me multiple times too!  I hold ALL my weight in my middle, so I really do have quite a tummy.  Once my little niece asked me if I was going to have a baby, and I just said, "No, I just have a big tummy--some people just do."  The other time, which was much more mortifying, was when a total stranger (a woman) came up to me and my then boyfriend (now husband) and said, "Hey, you're going to have a baby!"  I was sooooo embarrassed, and upset, because it was in front of my bf (whose parents had recently made a big deal about me being overweight).  I actually started crying, and he was very sweet about it and just kept insisting that he thought I was beautiful...but it still totally stunk!  I mean, who does that?? Just walk up to stranger and say something like that???  People should really know better!

You have a great husband :)  Yeah, I just dont get it why would someone comment if they are not sure????? Its just asking for a foot in the mouth!

Gosh this post hits a sore spot with me. All my life i have been asked this question. Its the absolute worst feeling in the world.

I can totally relate to you Mindalynn. A few weeks ago i was out with my friends and my boyfriend. I went up to the bar to get a drink of water but i was within earshot of everyone. A guy my boyfriend works with went up to him to say hi. I heard him say "hey man i didn't know you were going to be a father, thats great when is she due?" The worse part was having to hear my boyfriend explain that i wasn't.

I have spent many times crying in the bathroom over this. My belly is just so out of proportion with the rest of my body. I'm just over 5ft tall, small skinny legs and arms etc and them theres my stomach.

I'll never understand though how a complete stranger could go up to someone and ask this question. I mean my gosh. Like why do you care i dont know you!

But anyways I sure do know that feeling. I would rather go to the dentist and have 5 root canals without novacaine than hear this again. It always happens to me on the days when i'm feeling good. Like that morning I stepped on the scale and saw i lost 2 pounds, i have a cute new outfit on, my hair and makeup look great and i'm feeling good. How fast that can make you crash.  It sure hurts.

I've been asked that a few times myself over the years.  People can be so ignorant!

(The last time was when I was ooing over someone else's baby.  She asked me when I was due.  I simply said, "unfortunately, that's not baby fat! I'm just fat."  She was extremely embaressed and appologized profusely, but it does hurt.)

On the days that I am feeling really good about my weight loss (34 pounds now!), I still have to remind myself that strangers don't see me as someone who has lost that much weight - just someone who needs to loose a lot of weight (still). My friends, family, and co-workers are commenting about what an awesome job I'm doing! I just keep that in mind & keep on keeping on!

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I think it doesnt help that all the baby doll tops and baggy shirts are in style and unless you are twiggy maybe they just make you look pregnant. Thanks for your kind words :)

 Yeah, those shirts are awful. Some of my son's friends are little stick figure teenaged girls and they look 6 months pregnant in that style. Whoever thought of those shirts needs to be taken out back and shot.

Ug i have gotten this many times too. I too have the skinny body and gross tummy. (if anyone here has lost the tummy please do share how you did it) I live in NY and even though i have seen people ignore VERY pregant women who need a seat i always get those oh so kind people who want to give me their seat. The worst was a day that the trains were a mess i was in a packed train car and this Asian women told me to sit, I said no I'm fine and then she made a gesture of a big belly, pointed to me and so YOU SIT. she got up and so man leaped into her seat, she then yelled at him to get up because i needed to sit. I was mortified and she made such a seen that I yelled at her and told her to leave me alone. I cried the who way to work. I know she was just trying to be nice but it was terrible.

the last time it happened i was at a meeting for work at a very large magazines office which shall remain nameless. This very large gay man came over to me after the meeting and said "so when are you due" I responded with the "I'm not pregant I'm actually just fat, but thanks" what made it worse was he went "oh honey don't worry me too" and rubbed his giant belly omg it was awful...like thanks... i had try so hard not to cry in front of everyone.

Yeah it completely sux....glad to know i am not alone. Well girls we are here and before you know it we won't look preggers anymore :) and surely we will be wise enough not to ask unless we know :)

i refuse to wear those empire waist tops baby-doll tops-- they are pseudo maternity tops created by the fashion industry for only a few reasons I can think of -

a) they are trying to mass produce fashion created for emaciated runway model types

b) they overestimate how flattering a flowly mid-section top will be on the average american woman who is a size 14

c) they are an evil empire trying to make all women look as if they have a bun in the oven regardless of how small or large they actually are to increase embarrassment

i agree with spiro-- let's just take em out back & shoot em!

Ugh, I totally agree with the shirt thing. I'm a 0 and I refuse to buy them because they're so ugly and unflattering.

If someone said that to me (in the future) I would totally say something to make them feel bad about being ignorant... or I would play along...like:

"When are you due?"...

"OMG! I didn't even realize I was having a baby! Thanks for pointing it out!" (and not in a sarcasitic way... be totally serious)

"Two and a half years" (just some crazy far-off date)

"I'm sterile."

"I can't HAVE children!!" and burst into tears

"Actually, it's a malignant tumor and I have 3 weeks to live."

"Well, seeing as how I'm actually a man..."

"Wow! This sex-change operation IS really convincing!"

"When are YOU due?" (even if it's a man)

omg that is hilarious. I will try that next time!!

 

I have the same problem as many of you...skinny arms and legs, but have a fat gut. it doesn't make any sense. last year i had two different people within a month of each other ask me if i was pregnant and when the baby was due. i'm only 132 lbs and i'm 5'5!!! :-/

 

 

 

I can relate also.  I was approached by another church member.  She came up to me and said " I just have to ask, are you pregnant?".  I thought oh my god.  But now that I look at my starting pictures and my updated pictures, I think to my self, no wonder people were asking me that, I looked like I was about 9 months pregnant.