I'm a prisoner in my own home

I go upstairs to get  a cup of coffee, bringing my cup I used before up to go reuse it and my stepmom sees and she starts screaming at me for bringing a cup downstairs.

So now, I am coffeeless and I will probably be in my room for the rest of the night without any supper. Seriously, this is the third day in a row.

that stinks, as a survivor of a step monster I feel for you.  Don't mind my asking, where is your father? 

How old are you?  Can you have an adult conversation with your stepmom about house rules and expectations, etc?

And, as the previous person asked, is your father involved and can you talk to him?

My father is here, he was outside, but he doesnt care. The time my stepmom slapped me I phoned him and he didn't do a thing.

Ha. my stepmom would say "my house, my rules" so I can't do a thing.

Again, what age are you?  Slapping is physical abuse.  Perhaps you need to contact protective services in your area.

I'm 17, slapping with an open hand is considered fine.  My older sister came home and when I told her she confronted my stepmom.  I don't really know what's going on right now, but my stepmom used to yell, scream and hit my older sister and she is sick and tired of the BS.

I lived through was was probably worse but with a stepfather. He was an angry drunk and would tear the house up. I'm SO GLAD he's out of my life. I'll never know why my mom put up with that monster, and I'm not sure I'll ever forgive her for keeping him in our lives when we had no choice as kids.

Yeah, I'm a little bitter over here.

awww, that blows! sorry, i dont really have any suggestions for you...just wanted to say i have my fingers crossed for you over here in canada!

hey...im 17 too :)

I live in Canada too.

I don't know what to say, I'm depressed right now.

where abouts in canada do u live? i live in BC.

that really sux that your step-mom has to be so mean....and that your dad doesnt care, or do anything about it.

at least your 17 though...you can move out on your own soon. do you have another relative you could move in with for the time being?i've read some of your other posts, and from what ive gathered, your home life is doing nothin for you but holding you back?

do you have a Childrens Ministry near you? if you do, you could try talking with them.maybe they can put you on an independant living program. i was going to go on that a while back.

what that is, is they give you money for rent and food and basic needs to survive. they help you to get your own place, or a place with roommates. doing this, however. takes a long time (a couple months)....so maybe your better off just waiting to turn 18?

You'll get through this. I spent 4 years as a minor while my mom was dating this abusive ABUSIVE man. He gave me a black eye once, grabbed me, held me down, touched me, and my mom forgave him in a heart beat. some people have twisted relationships.

Just keep to your own and learn from all this. If you feel harmed, reach out for some other help. I know how aggravating it can be because you dont want to break up your family worse than it is. trust me, I KNOW. My mom told me she'd kick me out if I got police involved. Said she'd disown me. I didn't do anything about my situation, but the first thing I did do was go to college and move out of state.

Glad to say my moms not with that guy anymore, but it doesnt mean i havent lost a lot of trust for her.

Hang in there girlie. We are all here for support.

I lived like this for 14 years and I am so glad it is all over! My step-father was very, very abusive! He loved to beat me and my family up every single day. But I don't blame him. I blame the Vietnam war he was in. It messed up his mind for the rest of his life.

Pretty soon you will be old enough to move out on your own and you might find it a very wonderful feeling. I live alone and I love it! But I am very close  to my family. We all live on the same block.

I live In B.C as well O-o. Chilliwack.

I wouldn't say she is abusive, but I would say that she brings her problems down on me and my older sister because we are not of her blood.  It's much easier blaming someone else for your mistakes, is it not?

She used to pick on my brothers, then they left, she picked on my sister, so now my sister goes out for weeks on end, and I'm the only one of my kin that is home. 

I can't move out on my own until I get a birth Certificate and a stable job (plus have the money to), or I would in a heartbeat.  Before my older sister left (after my stepmom screamed at her to and called me a liar saying she just "told me not to bring cups downstairs nicely") she brought me down some food.

I'm not complaining, but seriously, the meat was hardly cooked, I didn't notice at first until I realized that it tasted funny, I looked, about a millimeter was cooked, the rest red. I wanted to gag, but when you are as hungry as I was, you don't complain.  It took over an hour to eat it, and I wouldn't do it again. Med. Rare is good for me, not rare. O-o.  I would say she did it on purpose, but that would start an arguement.

Once again, I'm probably going to be in my room all day long, It's so boring.

Rawr....... >.> Seriously, if you live in the Chilliwack area and need a babysitter, Id be glad.

Wait, let me get this straight.  She verbally abuses you, makes you stay in your room without food for three days straight, and they won't allow you to get the documentation that you'll need to live a normal life with a job and apartment?  I'm sorry but you need to contact the authorities. 

Last time, when my sister was getting picked on, she tried calling social services, and they did nothing.

and let's say they DO do something, then what? I end up in a home and then I really have no hope for college.

Don't think that way, there are loans, scholarships etc. for college if you can get the grades etc. to do it.  You need to do whatever you have to do to get yourself into a safe situation.

I don't think I can apply for a loan with the info. I don't have, but trying to get.

Sure there are scholarships, but gr 12 just started and I dont want to run the risk of not getting one and then having no money...

Ok i feel for u. My biological father physically abused Mary ( mother, cant call her mom anymore..prefence) and my sis, danielle. I told him to get out when he attempted chocking danielle over the Tv remote. I was the one strong enough to pull him off and i was the one that made the descion to get him out of my home. I did call the police and they said it was a father disapling his child. I had to get a order of protection and get him out..yes it took alot longer and was alot harded but he is out of our lives now..4 good. I wasnt abused by my biological father but i was abused by Marys next boyfriend. I managed to get out of the house.

I am 16 years old and I am a senior. I have 2 years collaged paid 4 and i am working everyday to keep my grades up and get more scolorships. If ur household is unhealty in any way u need to get out. If u feel threatened in anyway, get out. Im not saying this is going to be easy but u will feel better in the end. I filed charges against Marys boyfriend and I am still taking the hard way. I AM in a better home and i dont have to be worried about being harmed, EVER! Nobody should put up with anytyoe of abuse. GET OUT!! If u want to get through school u will, but it wont be easy...good luck

you go girl.  it is really hard, when i was 16 my father died leaving me with my stepmonster, my mother had died much earlier.  i left her house with only the clothes on my back.  luckily her sistr and family were there for m.  trust me, it is not your fault, and you absolutly do not deserve to be treated like that....and shame on your father. 

kumi, try to take the situation and change it to your advantage.  do you like to read?  are you going to college?  find things to do that you enjoy, and that will benefit you while you are in your room.  maybe you can find a way to enjoy your time alone, and even to look forward to it, and then it won't feel like such a prison.  discover which things you are good at, do you like to write?  i wrote and wrote and wrote when i was in a situation similar to yours.... got to the point that i really looked forward to writing.  helped me to tune other things out.  you are 17, not such a really long time to wait.  spend time planning what you will do next.  something to look forward to.