I'm sick of it ='[
I'm just 17, I could have the perfect body, but everything i've tried this year has just done nothing for me
I just want to be normal!!!! ![]()
I'm sorry you feel frustrated, but as you haven't shared any details, there is no way we can help you, other than say that trying to get the "perfect body" really isn't a good goal.
Let us know how we can help you.
Like the poster above me said, there is no perfect body, just a healthy one. I hope that you share more so we can help. :)
Its Ok, I know how you feel. But here's a trick that helped me to lose weight and fast. I don't count calories I just eat only what I know is healthy. Like for example I'm 28 and 140. I lost 16 pounds and was down to my "Ideal weight" then sadness and stress made me gain it all back. It felt like it was over night that it happened. So what I have done in the past two weeks was take a walk wearing a sweat suit, carry a bottle of water and keep in mind its no longer exercise its distance and challenge.
A few days of this then a 30 min workout on the elliptical and I have lost 4 lbs in two weeks. Also remember that at the age of 17 I know your viewing women on tv as having the ideal body. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder so what may look good to you may not look good to a guy.
So stay happy and healthy.![]()
As the other memebers have already said, since you haven't given us any detail we don't know where to begin. . . I can tell you that I vented last night because I am so tired of this cycle of letting food overtake ANY happiness that I have. It's ridiculous to allow something so insignificant and silly to RUN your life. Basically, today is the beginning to an 8 week test (I chose 8 weeks because it's not too short and not too long of a goal) to see if I can combat my emotional eating and truly LISTEN to my body's needs. I hope that I am giving you some helpful advice : /.
Also, last night when I made my post, I felt AWFUL, so terrible that I felt ALONE, DISGUSTED and EXHAUSTED mentally and physically from this ongoing cycle I have put myself through. . . I was at an all-time-LOW. Within in an hour, people started leaving me posts and I felt relief and did not feel as alone. I have friends and I am sure you do too, but it is funny how EASY it is to feel so alone and feel like you don't have anybody to turn to. The truth is, your friends are there and willing to listen to you, you just have to realize that they don't know what is bothering you because they can't read your mind. . .open yourself up to friends and family.
Please understand that there is NO "perfect body". You know that saying, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder?" Well, it is TRUE. Lets say you are out with your friends and a REALLY hot guy walks by and you automatically say, "hmmm, he's really cute!" But your friend says "who, him? haha, definitely not!" See, what you think and what someone else thinks don't relate. The same thing goes for a girl. "Perfect" is whatever YOU think is "perfect." I really don't even like the word because it is IMPOSSIBLE to achieve. Like when you think of the work "perfectionist." You simply cannot have EVERYTHING the way you want it. Believe me, I have tried and FAILED lol. You are so young, as am I, and should know that life is to be ENJOYED, we only have ONE, right?
Continue to vent and incorporate NEW ways of thinking and making goals for yourself, REALISTIC goals. Each day is going to be different, whether it is easier or harder, it's NEVER going to be the same. Eating a SET AMOUNT of calories; I cannot HIT the EXACT amount I decide to eat. . .I try to be as meticulous as possible (trying not to use the word perfect, since it does not exist lol) and either going under or WAAAAAYYY over. For instance, I decided that along with my 8 weeks test, I am going to begin P90X and see how I can transform my body. (I personally LOVE muscle and think it's pretty darn cool) I do NOT plan on looking like a bodybuilder, BUT I do want to see IF I can stick to this 90-day program and achieve a look that I have always admired (I used to dance competitively for 8 years and had REALLY toned legs and LOST it over the years : (. ) We could try it together!?
Enough about me, Take a DEEP breath in and let it OUT and get out of the house, call a friend, go shopping, plan a trip, DISTRACT yourself from these negative pestering thoughts.
I'm struggling at the moment with a cycle of problems linked to bulimia and anorexia.
I need to count calories because I need to make sure that I am staying at the level set by my doctor, but I just want to lose weight at fast.
I think all the members gave you a great advice, but I would consider what are "the problems linked to bulimia and anorexia." It seems to me that there is more you are willing to share here...
Those two disorders are emotional ones and should be addressed by a professional. Often times, eating disorders are connected to the issues of control. Maybe as a seventeen year old you don't feel like you have much control of your life (school, home, peers, etc), and the only thing you can control is food. Just an idea
aniczek, you are right about that. I kept denying the fact that FOOD is the ONE thing I CAN control. It is difficult to comprehend what it means, because you rightfully want to shun the idea of something so "pathetic", but it is true. I am dealing with it RIGHT NOW. Uggghh, the CONSTANT urges to eat/under eat because I THINK that this is the ONLY way to FIX myself. When I say FIX myself, I mean retrain my brain and my stomach. I honestly, do not know if I am doing myself any better.
I actually just started speaking to a psychiatrist. At first I did not want to do this, but I decided that I needed to make a change. You may be thinking, hmm, ok, maybe I can do this, but where do I start to get help? Well, use your toolbar and SEARCH.
We are all here to give you suggestions and aid your quest for a better life that is free of bulimic and anorexic behavior : ). You must realize that YOU have to seek out help. These forums can only do so much. Reading is helpful but TALKING and GOING out for help is what will make the difference. We do not know how to help, we can just give you advice because most of us have either been in your situation/feel bad about the pain you are going through.
best of luck.
"Retraining" your brain is a LOT of difficult and hard labor. We all have maladaptive coping mechanisms and the easiest one and most accessible is food.
Good luck with your soul searching
when i said "retraining my brain" I meant LISTENING to my body, not eating out of boredom, stress and because I just want to. I realize every time i do this, that i do not feel any better afterward. so, now that i finally realized what i have been doing and what i need to change, i now know my inability to find happiness in anything has resorted to food and now i have become bored with that, so now i can finally find a new hobby. eating doesn't make me happy; it never has. up until now, i have ostracized from friends and family because i feel inadequate. i can't stand feeling like this, which is why i am determined to actually be happy again taking part in things and not using food as an excuse not to do anything. . . i hope this clarifies what i actually meant, but i am not firing back or anything, just elaborating on the term i used.
I think you are very insightful and seem to have a good handle on what is causing you to reach for foood in times of distress. I didn't take your comment in a negative way.
I have to agree with the other posters who stated that there is no such thing as a "perfect body". There is however a healthy body... and I think that this is what you should strive for. I have read a couple of your posts and it seems to me that you are restricting your daily caloric intake far too much. Eating only around 425 calories a day can lead to self-destructive dietary patterns (which it seems you have already been encountering), and your body may be entering 'starvation mode'. In another post, you mentioned eating nothing but fruits and vegetables... and although these foods are healthy, they do not provide your body with adequate amounts of protein or necessary fats.
I'm sure you are beautiful, inside and out, and it seems you are very motivated to become healthy. I hope that you can come to see that every body is different, and that perfect is simply a frame of mind.
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