So I'm starting at a new high school....
Where I don't know anybody. And I feel like throwing up. I'm so scared. I don't want to have to eat my lunch in the washroom like in Mean Girls. I mean, sometimes I feel okay about it, and then it sinks in that I'll be totally alone and everything and this is my one chance to have a fun high school experience and I better not be awkward and ruin it. Ugh.
Can anyone relate/help me feel a bit better? : (
Yeah i can totallyrelate, i hate not knowing anyone and having nowhere to sit at lunch, but im pretty sure you will make soon enough
You are right, it is probably going to be really nervewracking for the first couple days...you just have to stay strong and remember that it is *definitely* going to get better. Even in Mean Girls, she didn't eat in the bathroom for long, right? So, you just have to take a deep breath and remember that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. There will be lots of times in your life when you don't know anybody--starting a new job, going to a club by yourself, starting at university, etc. Eventually it all works out ok. Just believe in yourself, hold your head high, look friendly, and pretty soon you will be feeling much more comfortable.
I say this as someone with EXTREME social anxiety in those kinds of situations. I want to validate your feelings that for the first couple days it will probably suck, but it WILL get better. Be brave!!!
thanks for your replies, guys.
I guess worrying is just a way to try to take control of situations that are uncertain by thinking of all the possible outcomes and stressing about them. I'm scared...but it'll be okay. I'll find people who are nice, and I'm probably not the only person who doesn't know anyone. This is a....learning experience. Right. I'll learn.
EDIT: that sounds kind of unpleasant. and I have stuff to complain about, this is unfamiliar territory and I'm scared! I'd probably say the same thing if a third grader was talking about going to a new school. something along the lines of "TOUGHEN UP KID, THIRD GRADE IS EASY, YOUR PEERS AREN'T MONSTERS YET.
it could be worse, yeah. good luck at university.
If you bring interesting foods then maybe someone will ask to try them and you can start a conversation that way? You should try to look at this with optimism. You have nothing holding you back. You get to be whoever you want, nobody's opinion has already been made about you! Act confident and special and people will believe the same. Stay true to yourself. Use this as an oppourtunity to learn who you really are. You and God and your family are what will remain constant and real in your life right now because you can be postitive about what these people think about you. You are you and YOU ARE AMAZING! Know this. Things can change easily so even if the first week or month doesn't go as well as you want, that doesn't mean the rest of high school will suck too. It is totally okay to be scared. Hell, I'm usually nervous just going to parties where I'll know only one person, and if you feel like you might throw up and can't sleep the night before your first day that's totally normal. Life will be just peachy. Give your worries to God and you will be a-ok. Hope everything goes fine for you!
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Look at it as an opportunity. I kind of partly love moving being in new places and situations where no one knows me. You can totally reinvent yourself and be more like you wish you could be if you could start all over.
If you felt shy before, maybe you can try coming out of your shell more and being more of a confident outgoing type of person. No one knows how you were before, so you can be whoever you want to be.
I just started at a new high school three weeks ago. Everyone is a bit nervous on the first day, you are definitely not alone. Between finding your classes, remembering your teacher's names, and keeping up with all the syllabouses your going to get, there isn't much time to spend worrying. My advice is strike up a conversation with someone in your lunch period and sit with them to keep it going.
Original Post by icutoffmyhair:
I don't want to have to eat my lunch in the washroom like in Mean Girls.
Thats a movie. That's not your life. It's a cliche but its true: just relax and be yourself and you'll be fine =)
haha Try moving to a new country where you know no one.It's your job to get out and meet people. Complaining does nothing. I was an extremely shy person with social anxiety issues and I did just fine and I have gotten rid of most of my social anxiety now.
okay *teethclench* i feel kinda better now.
Hey
hope starting a new highschool went well !! i know excactly how you feel, 6 weeks ago my parents dragged me from the UK to australia to live, and tomorrow i have to start a new highschool. Im from a different country, and im a nationality that ausys dont like ! Its hard and i feel alone and iscolated and my parents act like its nothing to worry about.
I have like no social skills and just know as soon as i walk through the door into where all my 'classmates' will be here gonna take the piss summit terrible!!
I feel i can go on with it and nothing is gonna go right. dont know how to act in this alien country and how to be myself anymore. i have nothing to discuss with anyone cos i dno what people tlk about over here? im not gonna do what every1 else has done and just say how terrible it is for them and how we should pitty them, i just feel we are in the same situation and i can totally agree on how you feel.
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