I'm tired of the ignorant comments

For the most part people around me are supportive of me eating healthy and weight loss like my mom but then there are the stupid ppl like my bf and my stepdad that will say things like 'how are you gonna lose weight if you eat all the time' or 'you wont lose weight by eating at this time' etc. Right now i was eating salmon with broccoli and green beans and my stepdad said the above. Yes it is almost 10 pm but i woke up at 4 pm and only ate waffles and fiber one so far, so he has no idea how many calories i consumed. I'm not mad it's just annoying, he's not fit himself, he has a beer belly and doesnt care lol but im just tired of the little comments when they know nothing about losing weight and being healthy. My bf is another one, he is thin but has gained like 10 lbs by eating late at night, all kinds of crap. I gained weight just by being with him but of course you can't tell, he has no say in what i do! All i  eat are the right foods, i can understand if they saw me eating chips and cake all the time but what im eating is good for me foods, and i will not lose weight by not eating. Some people...

Does anyone else get comments like these?

Yikes. I think I'd feel worse in your situation then I do in mine.

I have the opposite problem. I get a lot of "Hey, you need SOME fat in your diet." "You know, my grandmother lived to 92 eating the food I make" and varieties of other comments from my dad. Sure I need fat in my diet, but I get it from healthier sources.. not from the biscuits my dad made with lard. And sure his grandmother did live to 92, but I want to live to 100! @_@ It's annoying when he feels the need to try and convince me to eat his food, but it cools me down to remember that I enjoy sharing my food creations with others too. So I brush it off and do what I gotta' do.

It'd be nice to having nothing but supportive comments, wouldn't it? "Hey, great job eating healthy!" or something. But I can see how the people around you might think they're helping you by making those comments. I don't think they're trying to do it to annoy you (just like my dad doesn't do it to provoke me or anything), it just happens to have that effect. D:

OMG I TOTALLY get it! I bartend at a restaurant, and always take a bag full of food with me for my 9 hour shift....you know the drill, lots of little meals... my manager is always telling me that if I want to lose weight I need to eat 2 or 3 large meals a day and stop eating all day long. He also tells me that I need to eat pasta and bread..he says that's another reason I'm not losing any weight. They other guys at the restaurant are always making comments about me eating all the time too...made even more annoying  by the fact that I'm already at a very healthy weight, just looking to lose that last 5 lb.

mind you, I'm eating carrots, fat free cottage cheese, spinach salads with chicken....and they're stuffing their faces with pizza and cheesy pasta...ARGH!

SO frustrating-I totally get you!

Ugh, yes!  I get the same comments!  I graze on healthy food but I get such snippy comments - either from my friends who seem pissed that I'm trying to lose weight or that I don't drink, or on the other side of things, my mom constantly making me feel bad for losing weight while she struggles herself.  There's so much focus on it, what I eat, what I'm buying at the store.  Drives me crazy.  Support me or leave me alone, jeeze.

Yes! I hate it when some people have NO STINKEN IDEA about what a calorie is and keep bugging me of what I eat! At my school cafeteria, if I eat a bowl of the food they serve, my friends wont say anything, but if I eat 2 plates of salad, they're all like "omg, you never seem to get full!" and "HOW can you eat that much?!" Then they munch on their chocolate bars during the recess, and of course, compared to MY snack of two apples, they are eating soooo little and WAAAAY better than me... Sheesh. -_-'

Original Post by kaybug:

Yikes. I think I'd feel worse in your situation then I do in mine.

I have the opposite problem. I get a lot of "Hey, you need SOME fat in your diet." "You know, my grandmother lived to 92 eating the food I make" and varieties of other comments from my dad. Sure I need fat in my diet, but I get it from healthier sources.. not from the biscuits my dad made with lard. And sure his grandmother did live to 92, but I want to live to 100! @_@ It's annoying when he feels the need to try and convince me to eat his food, but it cools me down to remember that I enjoy sharing my food creations with others too. So I brush it off and do what I gotta' do.

It'd be nice to having nothing but supportive comments, wouldn't it? "Hey, great job eating healthy!" or something. But I can see how the people around you might think they're helping you by making those comments. I don't think they're trying to do it to annoy you (just like my dad doesn't do it to provoke me or anything), it just happens to have that effect. D:

 Yea i wish everyone was supportive but they're not..oh well my mom is pretty supportive. She is trying to lose weight herself so you know..and she cooks healthy meals for me too :)

Original Post by sbanana7:

OMG I TOTALLY get it! I bartend at a restaurant, and always take a bag full of food with me for my 9 hour shift....you know the drill, lots of little meals... my manager is always telling me that if I want to lose weight I need to eat 2 or 3 large meals a day and stop eating all day long. He also tells me that I need to eat pasta and bread..he says that's another reason I'm not losing any weight. They other guys at the restaurant are always making comments about me eating all the time too...made even more annoying  by the fact that I'm already at a very healthy weight, just looking to lose that last 5 lb.

mind you, I'm eating carrots, fat free cottage cheese, spinach salads with chicken....and they're stuffing their faces with pizza and cheesy pasta...ARGH!

SO frustrating-I totally get you!

 yup thats what i do, little healthy snacks in between meals to keep my metabolism going and they have NOooo idea about weight loss. I  mean i myself am just starting at this but i have done my research and know not eating is not a way to lose weight, meanwhile they eat their ice cream and crap. OMG like last night for example i was eating whole wheat pasta with tomato sauce and my bf goes...' and you want to lose weight?' im like yea i didnt eat anything yet but a fruit. And then i go' you're not hungry?' cause it was like 8 pm and he was like no( he had already drank some smoothie he bought) so then when 12 am came by he went to the kitchen to cut up big pieces of white bread with white cheese. He ate a whole bunch of those and then a few min later went back to the kitchen to eat a tub of choc icecream, the haagen daaz one. Then he went to the kitchen to eat the pasta i made and he kept snacking all night, right before sleeping. Meanwhile i just ate the pasta, and made myself a banana, strawberry shake with water, and also had a tofu salad. I told him 'see thats what you get for skipping meals, you snack on junk'. And then he was commenting on  how its nasty i was making a strawberry banana smoothie with only water and no sugar. He said i should have added milk and stuff to it. Gosh he talks so much **** makes me mad

Original Post by cheftastic:

Ugh, yes!  I get the same comments!  I graze on healthy food but I get such snippy comments - either from my friends who seem pissed that I'm trying to lose weight or that I don't drink, or on the other side of things, my mom constantly making me feel bad for losing weight while she struggles herself.  There's so much focus on it, what I eat, what I'm buying at the store.  Drives me crazy.  Support me or leave me alone, jeeze.

 

 

 I know, its like if you have nothing postitive to say then shut up. Some people get jealous at the thought of you losing weight, its ridiculous. If one of my friends wanted to lose weight i would help them and support them, not criticize everything they do.

I hear ya. The comments are driving me crazy! I don't think I've ever commented on what someone else was eating...or how much.

I stopped eating in front of people because I got tired of the comments.

Big mistake. When they didn't see me eating or when I refused to eat food they offered, they started accusing me of starving myself. Good grief.

Now I make sure that people see me eat normal food every once in a while and then eat the weird stuff when I'm alone.

Normal food (the stuff I'm not hassled about...unless I turn it down); pizza, cake, cookies, candy, pastas w/heavy sauce, hamburgers, hot dogs, chips, ice cream, sodium nightmares and other basic junk.

The weird stuff; My usual, healthy selections that I eat 99% of the time. Thank goodness my schedule allows me to eat alone almost always.

I still can't believe I'm harassed when I eat healthy and am thin, but not when I eat junk and am overweight.

By the way, my intake average is never below my RMR of 1550 and my deficit is never more than 1000. I've also never been underweight and have no plans to be. 

Here is my common response to the negative people, or the people who think they can tell you how to lose weight while they are 50lbs overweight.

"I lost 20lbs in 2.5 months without any excerise and only controlling my intake, if and when you can do that feel free to tell me how to do it, until then shut the F* up. The negative people quickly shutup, and then later asked how i did it."

Skookum- I never really thought about it til reading your post, but I just realized that (when I'm not at work, where I can't leave the bar and HAVE to eat in front of people!) I have started eating alone as well!

My best friend/neighbor is a 6ft 2 guy who can eat anything and everything he wants (literally-I watched him eat a "snack" from Wendy's once that totalled 2500 calories!) and still stays super thin and fit. I can't eat with him anymore b/c he's always trying to force his junk food on me- "come on, this fried chicken is SO much better than your steamed vegetables...."  and I just don't always have the self control to say no!

If someone knocks on my door while I'm eating dinner, I won't answer it. I really enjoy my healthy meals and don't want stupid comments from ignorant people ruining it!

Odd, but I really didn't realize this about myself til reading your post....now I'm kind of sad that I have to be a solitary eater to avoid the comments! )o:

Most of the time I can brush off those comments because I'm laughing so hard on the inside.  "Wow, so I shouldn't eat as many vegetables to lose weight? Gosh, I had no idea.  Thanks so much for your help!" (I hope the sarcasm is coming through, here...) 

It also helps that, like Skookum, I eat alone most of the time.  Either that or with my totally awesome boyfriend who is on the fitness train with me and has learned to LOVE veggies in the past five years after a young lifetime of mistrusting them.  His support has made all the difference to me.

Fairydust125, maybe you could sit your man down and try to break through the antagonistic attitude that's developed between you two concerning food and healthy choices.  His support could make everyone else's rude comments a non-issue!

I've lost over 70 lbs. and people don't try to tell me how to lose weight.  Everybody had advice when I was heavy.  I think that when you're ready, you just do it.  If somewhat who is obviously overweight is trying to coach you, I'd just kind of acknowledge their need for comment and give them a little look over, toe to head.

I have had this happen to me as well. A friend of mine who is very over weight said to me "You know what, since you lost weight, I can see more wrinkles on you, I think I would rather stay over weight than look old"

I think sometimes people say things out of their own insecurity. I have even had people telling me to stop now before I get a hollow looking face!! I still have about 4lbs to lose before my BMI is below 25! I am 5ft 5" and weigh 153lbs, so I still have weight to lose for sure!! Sometimes it is out of concern, and sometimes people say it because they knew how big I was before I started this, so I guess to see me having lost so much weight, they think I should stop, but it is a lifestyle change not a diet and my body will stop losing weight when it is ready!!

Most people have been supportive, few have been envious might be a good word, one or two have been spiteful. I would try not to bite, but nod in all the right places and just think, that the people who make the worst comments are often over weight and do so out of their own issues!!

Honestly, if you had just eaten waffles and fiberone by 10pm, you could be doing a lot better diet-wise. I understand that unwanted comments are annoying (I've dealt with them plenty of times because my dad thinks healthy is 800 calories of pure carbs a day), but don't let those comments make you hard-headed... waffles and fiber one are certainly not "the right foods" for weightloss.

Try this:

Just smile and say, "You're probably right." In 12 weeks, when you have lost a substantial amount of weight, and you look and feel great, go back to them and say, "Wow, I'm going to have to be very careful about taking dietary advice from you guys! I think you need to stick to things you know about, if such things actually exist."

Original Post by ibez:

Honestly, if you had just eaten waffles and fiberone by 10pm, you could be doing a lot better diet-wise. I understand that unwanted comments are annoying (I've dealt with them plenty of times because my dad thinks healthy is 800 calories of pure carbs a day), but don't let those comments make you hard-headed... waffles and fiber one are certainly not "the right foods" for weightloss.

Ummm...what?? Talk about ignorant, non-helpful comments. If she woke up at 4pm, then that was when her body felt the need for her first meal of the day. A couple of waffles, while not the pinnacle of healthy eating, certaily don't fall into the category of not-the-right-foods for weightloss. I eat whole-grain waffles with fresh fruit for breakfast occasionally and have lost 20 lbs so far. And 2 waffles with spray butter and low-cal syrup, with a bowl of fiber one, is a pretty healthy breakfast (maybe throw in a piece of fruit). And if that was all she ate between when SHE WOKE UP AT 4PM and her "lunch" at 10pm, then she certainly wasn't blowing it calorie-wise. Seriously, did you read her post, or just jump in with what sounded like an answer to a post you didn't really read??

Original Post by ibez:

Honestly, if you had just eaten waffles and fiberone by 10pm, you could be doing a lot better diet-wise. I understand that unwanted comments are annoying (I've dealt with them plenty of times because my dad thinks healthy is 800 calories of pure carbs a day), but don't let those comments make you hard-headed... waffles and fiber one are certainly not "the right foods" for weightloss.

 I knew someone was going to say that....but they are the right foods for me if that was my breakfast. I have a different routine, sleep during and day and am up by night so that was my breakfast. That's not what i eat every breakfast but i do need fiber in my diet and whole grain waffles, whats wrong with that? I am working on changing my schedule around so i can be up early morning and sleep during the night

Original Post by tattooed_kitty:

Original Post by ibez:

Honestly, if you had just eaten waffles and fiberone by 10pm, you could be doing a lot better diet-wise. I understand that unwanted comments are annoying (I've dealt with them plenty of times because my dad thinks healthy is 800 calories of pure carbs a day), but don't let those comments make you hard-headed... waffles and fiber one are certainly not "the right foods" for weightloss.

Ummm...what?? Talk about ignorant, non-helpful comments. If she woke up at 4pm, then that was when her body felt the need for her first meal of the day. A couple of waffles, while not the pinnacle of healthy eating, certaily don't fall into the category of not-the-right-foods for weightloss. I eat whole-grain waffles with fresh fruit for breakfast occasionally and have lost 20 lbs so far. And 2 waffles with spray butter and low-cal syrup, with a bowl of fiber one, is a pretty healthy breakfast (maybe throw in a piece of fruit). And if that was all she ate between when SHE WOKE UP AT 4PM and her "lunch" at 10pm, then she certainly wasn't blowing it calorie-wise. Seriously, did you read her post, or just jump in with what sounded like an answer to a post you didn't really read??

 Thank you!!! That's what i was trying to get at..different thing work for different ppl. That's just what i eat for breakfast sometimes. Not all ppl sleep during the night, some ppl have night jobs lol I also eat fruit and veggies for breakfast, or egg whites, i eat different things, not the same thing everyday. And i am working on fixing my sleep habits but thank you for pointing that out and reading what i wrote unlike some ppl who just jump the gun:) And even if someone wanted to eat fiber one and waffles during the night before going to sleep i don't think that's unhealthy, as long as they had their right share of protein, fat and carbs altogether. Whatever works for them

Original Post by gdharris:

Try this:

Just smile and say, "You're probably right." In 12 weeks, when you have lost a substantial amount of weight, and you look and feel great, go back to them and say, "Wow, I'm going to have to be very careful about taking dietary advice from you guys! I think you need to stick to things you know about, if such things actually exist."

 Thanks! That's what my mom told me to do, i have already lost 5 lbs doing what im doing but im not going to say anything. Until i lose the amount i want to lose then they can see for themselves. lol If my bf keeps eating the way he's eating he will be overweight in a couple of years. His dad is overweight and used to be skinny like him but he's convinced he won't gain weight by eating icecream, and bread and white rice and not doing even a minute of exercise. ay ay ay

Eh, I guess i shouldn't have said anything... I never criticised the sleeping routine.. I've done much worse than waking up at 4pm, I meant that in a 6 hour period after waking up you should have eaten more than that (Unless I misread?).. and while waffles are not ice cream or cake, they certainly shouldn't be considered a weight loss food.

I think maybe I'm just more strict about diet than most people here.. I know I used to not eat nearly as strictly as I do now, but had to change that due to plateaus.

Anyway, I wasn't trying to criticize, just a suggestion. Sorry if it didn't come off as such.